I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down

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thaimeeuppppp -> I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 12:38:42 AM)
or of its just a little different because most people on here are essentially heterosexual. My personal view of submission means when i find a Master I do what he says. If its unconfortable I deal with it, becuase my life is devoted to pleasing him. I have been reading many of these posts and it seems like many people are really more searching for very secure committed relationships where they have a few kinks in common. Many of the subs seem opinionated and bossy. As a sub the idea for me is I do not have a list of demands, I am he of who demands are made. Perhaps because altho I am Bi most of my experience is with men. Women have always been the sneakier sex, so while they say they sub there is more of a need to be taken care of than anything. [Mod Note: font reduced]

sunnydays -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 1:02:21 AM)
i think (IMHO) that you are talking more about slaves..subs tend to have a say..and a true slave is like you have described

BitaTruble -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 1:19:18 AM)
Yes, women have always been the downfall of civilizations since time begin. It's good that you've found that out early in life. Hell, BDSM we can bring down gagged, blindfolded and with both hands tied behind our backs. Piece of cake. ::chuckles:: Celeste

mnottertail -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 1:22:09 AM)
I don't know about watered down, I seem to be swigging alot more Bushmills nowaday. Ron

Lashra -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 2:50:45 AM)
If you think women are sneaky, you should know some of the men I've known over the years. Good Luck, ~Lashra

LotusSong -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 3:31:21 AM)
I think that it's because of the warm fuzzy approach that developed. The attitude of "take what works for you and leave the rest" is the culprit IN MY OPINION. Ever try to make a cake with only the ingredients you like? It's not the same cake.

bandit25 -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 3:37:50 AM)
Where do I sign up, Celeste?

SlaveAkasha -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 3:46:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunnydays i think (IMHO) that you are talking more about slaves..subs tend to have a say..and a true slave is like you have described Oh, is that what a true slave is??? Sorry, but I am a bit tired of that line myself. I am very much a slave, but that doesn't mean I don't have opinions and share them with pretty much anyone I want. What I say here on the boards are not things I am saying to my Master, I am answering questions or giving opinions when asked (and sometimes when I am not asked [;)]). We are all free to say what we want, that doesn't make one a slave and one a sub. I am only a slave to my Master, not a slave to every person reading this board on a daily basis. To the OP... very sneaky way to get everyone to read your profile about all of your great male qualities..and your 9 in brain [&:] Oh crap... there I go giving my bossy, female slave opinion again... I better find a master to put me back in my place.[8\|] Kasha

Celeste43 -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 4:28:03 AM)
If you don't have knowledge of what you need and what you will not tolerate, then what you end up with is a relationship wherein you will feel unfulfilled. Guess what happens then? Resentment and the inevitable breakup. However I will admit that the term females includes single mother and to that point you are correct. I can submit my life to him, I cannot submit their lives to him. They aren't old enough to consent to such a thing nor is forcing them to do so healthy for them or for me. Because they would be bitter and angry and justifiably so, to the point that if he were to presume he had the right to a punishment dynamic with them, they would have the right and the responsibility to call the authorities about abuse. So where I draw the line of what I can and cannot submit is when and how it impacts them. They are my responsibility and I'm the one who would lose their presence and their love and respect.

adaddysgirl -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 4:29:14 AM)
LOL...well Kasha, i think you are both bossy and opinionated....does that count? [:D] And you are only a slave to your Master and do only what he wants rather than what every other Master thinks you should be doing? Well shame on you then. That just ain't right! [sm=whoa.gif] DG

LeatherBentOne -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 4:34:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong I think that it's because of the warm fuzzy approach that developed. The attitude of "take what works for you and leave the rest" is the culprit IN MY OPINION. Ever try to make a cake with only the ingredients you like? It's not the same cake. Thanks for your much needed post.

SlaveAkasha -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 4:40:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl LOL...well Kasha, i think you are both bossy and opinionated....does that count? [:D] And you are only a slave to your Master and do only what he wants rather than what every other Master thinks you should be doing? Well shame on you then. That just ain't right! [sm=whoa.gif] DG Wanna spank me?? [;)] Kasha

adaddysgirl -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 4:42:10 AM)
[sm=crop.gif] That's the best i can do from here....lol DG

agirl -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 4:52:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thaimeeuppppp or of its just a little different because most people on here are essentially heterosexual. My personal view of submission means when i find a Master I do what he says. If its unconfortable I deal with it, becuase my life is devoted to pleasing him. I have been reading many of these posts and it seems like many people are really more searching for very secure committed relationships where they have a few kinks in common. Many of the subs seem opinionated and bossy. As a sub the idea for me is I do not have a list of demands, I am he of who demands are made. Perhaps because altho I am Bi most of my experience is with men. Women have always been the sneakier sex, so while they say they sub there is more of a need to be taken care of than anything. Opinionated and bossy people are capable of submitting. Having a need to be taken care of, doesn't mean someone is sneaky and not really submissive. Having a primary desire to please a Master and be demanded of; looking for a relationship in which YOU can do so, means that YOU are hoping that YOUR desire be fulfilled. I also read many of the posts here and I've come across very few people's posts that announce that they DON'T do as their Masters/Doms say* on any regular basis. When reading posts and glimsing people's lives, it's a good idea to remember that that is ALL it is...a glimpse. agirl [Mod Note: font reduced]

juliaoceania -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 4:57:47 AM)
I can be very bossy I can be very assertive I am also very submissive, to my Daddy. I am not submissive to everyone, especially people on the internet. He would not be happy with me if I were anyone but myself, he demands it.

agirl -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 4:58:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunnydays i think (IMHO) that you are talking more about slaves..subs tend to have a say..and a true slave is like you have described You don't have to have a rampant desire to please to be owned by someone. In fact, you don't need anything other than to BE owned, though it might make life a lot easier. agirl

juliaoceania -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 5:01:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl quote: ORIGINAL: sunnydays i think (IMHO) that you are talking more about slaves..subs tend to have a say..and a true slave is like you have described You don't have to have a rampant desire to please to be owned by someone. In fact, you don't need anything other than to BE owned, though it might make life a lot easier. agirl Exactly agirl. I wonder how many EXTREMELY submissive women never even had sex, much less had an owner. If a person believes that submissiveness is something we are born with (I do), it stands to reason that a person could be dominant or submissive without ever even expressing it in a Ds or BDSM way directly

BBBTBW -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 5:04:20 AM)
I am wondering why SlaveAkasha got so upset...Sunnydays did preface her statement with (IMHO) which is meant to let readers know that it is HER opinion and not meant for everyone to follow....

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 5:18:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunnydays i think (IMHO) that you are talking more about slaves..subs tend to have a say..and a true slave is like you have described Subs do have a say until their brassy mouth and attitude get them throw on to my shoulder and then off to a good spanking...Once one wears my collar they give up their rights to opinions,I will listen to her point of view and then make the correct decision for the good of us all.....

becca333 -> RE: I wonder if modern day BDSM has become watered down (1/22/2007 5:57:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BOUNTYHUNTER quote: ORIGINAL: sunnydays i think (IMHO) that you are talking more about slaves..subs tend to have a say..and a true slave is like you have described Subs do have a say until their brassy mouth and attitude get them throw on to my shoulder and then off to a good spanking...Once one wears my collar they give up their rights to opinions,I will listen to her point of view and then make the correct decision for the good of us all..... I was all ready to make a serious and well-thought-out, totally insightful post that would be the definitive and enlightening comment on all of this...... and then I read that post and went all wobbly at the knees and totally lost my train of thought!

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