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ORIGINAL: bludemonn

OK serious question, i'd like to know whether the general consensus amongst the female dominants of this group is to either opt for a submissive at the start who is already obedient or whether they enjoy actually 'dominating' a difficult but willing 'slave'? Would you prefer him 'whipped' already or to put up a little resistance?

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: bludemonn

OK serious question, i'd like to know whether the general consensus amongst the female dominants of this group is to either opt for a submissive at the start who is already obedient or whether they enjoy actually 'dominating' a difficult but willing 'slave'? Would you prefer him 'whipped' already or to put up a little resistance?

Those aren't really the two choices.

I prefer someone who wants to be of service and who wants to submit.

Just like I want students who want to learn. Unlike with my students whom I'm paid to try and teach though, I can and do dismiss someone who refuses to learn or to try during training. Sorry, I get enough headaches like that in my mundane life and I get paid for those headaches.

A person who submits and serves isn't "whipped" or weak or anything else close to that. They get pleasure from helping others and from submitting. It takes great strength to admit that and follow that path, especially if you are male in a dying patriarchy.

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ORIGINAL: bludemonn

OK serious question, i'd like to know whether the general consensus amongst the female dominants of this group is to either opt for a submissive at the start who is already obedient or whether they enjoy actually 'dominating' a difficult but willing 'slave'? Would you prefer him 'whipped' already or to put up a little resistance?

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ORIGINAL: GirlWithInk

I think that's a rather complex question, actually. I'm going to go with what I think you meant, but I suspect I may have either misunderstood your intent or that my answer won't be quite aimed where you were looking.

I adore a slave who challenges me, in the bedroom and out of it. If a pet of mine doesn't have any initiative, any imagination, any spirit, there's something seriously wrong and it's time to stop playing, give them a hug, and find out what's wrong. I like to feel someone squirming underneath me, I love to hear someone pleading with me to stop, I simply adore watching one of my boys struggling against the ropes I've tied, seeing if he can find a way to pull free long enough for me to pounce him and bind him even tighter. I enjoy verbal give-and-take, a pet with a sense of humor and a wicked tongue will get far more from me than a pet who seems to have mistaken himself for a doormat.

That said, when I give a direct order, I expect obedience and am disappointed if it is not given. I wouldn't want a slave with whom I had to fight every time I gave a command, every time I just wanted to snuggle for a moment even. There is definitely such a thing as the thrill of the chase, the joy of the hunt, and don't get me wrong, I would not be satisfied without it. It's not what should define my property, though.

It's... hmm. Picture a little dauchund puppy, playing tug-of-war with their Owner using a favorite chewtoy. The puppy's fighting, yes? But it's all in fun, and they both know that. The moment the Owner says "Sit! Stay!" the fighting stops, the toy is surrendered, and the puppy is waiting, wide-eyed and attentive, for the next command. That's what I prefer, a pet who knows when it's ok to tussle and struggle a bit, and when it's NOT ok. Too much of either side of that and it stops being fun, the key is the balance, the underlying obedience that makes it ok to really run with the momentary challenge.

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ORIGINAL: bludemonn

OK serious question, i'd like to know whether the general consensus amongst the female dominants of this group is to either opt for a submissive at the start who is already obedient or whether they enjoy actually 'dominating' a difficult but willing 'slave'? Would you prefer him 'whipped' already or to put up a little resistance?