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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 6:53:52 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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ORIGINAL: slavejali

...then I would have booted him in the head..


Boot to the head! I love that skit.

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EG: All right! Finally some action!
Teacher: Observe closely, class. Boot to the Head! (SH-ZOOMP!)

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 7:31:39 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Good advice Walter. I have grandunmentionables who when they come over play games on my computer. I have gotten into the habit of always cleaning up my files when I log off.

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 7:45:01 AM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		I had something very similiar happen to me. I was at the mall as well....It was last Sunday and a family, who looked like they had come straight to the mall after leaving church,was walking from the GAP ...when I realized I recognized the woman from CM! Well, they were laughing and talking while heading over to the "Cinnabon" stand..... and  I immediately headed over to introduce myself....She was in the act of handing her youngest daughter a delicious cinnamon treat..when I asked her. "Hey!"... "Aren't you cumguzzlingsub409?"  There was an awkward pause...Her husband's face turned extremely red...She politely excused herself from her family and walked me over to the Abercrombie and Fitch store where she proceeded to give me a lovely blow job.

out.

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p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers.

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 7:53:57 AM   
mefisto69


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Status: offline 		I have a "violation" and I t-e-a-c-h in a private school....no public pics. I'm allergic to tar, feathers and very long stays in crowded locations with men. As a professional musician - I could care less. to the OP.....I would have denied and walked...what a MORON....in front of a child !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Publically Outed - 2/2/2007 8:02:58 AM   
amayos


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ORIGINAL: elcorazonsuhogar
I would like to pose a situation that occurred to a friend of mine this past week and ask for responses on how you would have handled it.

You have a profile and a picture on this site. You are out shopping in a city mall [...] and approached in a store by man who asks if you have the screen name such and such. You have used this name for many years in all manner of places on the net. You acknowledge yes. He immediately says he is such and such from Bondage and asks if you are still with the same Master. I am curious how you would have reacted and what advice you would give this "man" should he read this thread?



Generally, I don't mind people recognizing me in public, so long as they are polite about it. I apply the same rules to the internet that I would to a great ballroom dance or similarly extravagant social gathering; would I think it strange if any one of those hundreds of people in attendance that eve, with whom I had no personal relations or intimate knowledge of prior to or after the occasion, recognized me openly in public? Certainly not, so long as they were polite about it.

The internet, in the capacity it is used here and on so many other networks, is a social instrument. It is essentially a much larger ball room—with many masked dancers, granted—but a gathering place all the same. What you reveal here is up to your discretion, just as it would be in physical audience with any number of cloaked strangers gathered under a unified interest. Reveal what you like to reveal, and guard what information you must, but I feel we should keep in mind that as abstract and sinister as the internet may seem, it's nothing more than a meeting place without walls, carrying with it all the same potential threats and veiled predators we casually reveal our faces to and brush shoulders with in the streets on a daily basis.

As for advice to the man in question, I would suggest he deeply considers decorum and empathy in these matters; the mere fact alone that you may recognize someone from a certain place or event does not give you license to commit gross trespasses of social etiquette or common courtesy against them.




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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 8:48:22 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I look at him like he's an alien with 4 heads and say "I'm sorry but I think you have the wrong person."

Then turn around and ignore him completely.

If I see someone I recognize from a party or from meeting them, I'll give a small smile and wave.  If they respond in kind, I MIGHT go up to them and say hello and have general chat.

For someone to bring that topic up ANY place is just rude.


This pretty much sums up my feelings about it.


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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 8:59:24 AM   
Sparky66


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Status: offline 		Hard to believe that scenario happening especially when the party is with someone else. I would tell them you must have mistaken me for someone else, but I appreciate your alerting me. Kindly give me your name, address and telephone number and some identification as I want to check out what you are telling me. This is very disturbing.

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 9:52:47 AM   
luv4softbutch


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Your so funny!!  NOT      If I only had a brian..     So your the scarecrow I see.


quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

I had something very similiar happen to me. I was at the mall as well....It was last Sunday and a family, who looked like they had come straight to the mall after leaving church,was walking from the GAP ...when I realized I recognized the woman from CM! Well, they were laughing and talking while heading over to the "Cinnabon" stand..... and  I immediately headed over to introduce myself....She was in the act of handing her youngest daughter a delicious cinnamon treat..when I asked her. "Hey!"... "Aren't you cumguzzlingsub409?"  There was an awkward pause...Her husband's face turned extremely red...She politely excused herself from her family and walked me over to the Abercrombie and Fitch store where she proceeded to give me a lovely blow job.

out.

D.G.

p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers.


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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 10:14:46 AM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: elcorazonsuhogar

I would like to pose a situation that occurred to a friend of mine this past week and ask for responses on how you would have handled it.

You have a profile and a picture on this site. You are out shopping in a city mall with your older teenage daughter who is standing right beside you.  You are approached in a store by man who asks if you have the screen name such and such.  You have used this name for many years in all manner of places on the net. Vanilla and lifestyle.  You acknowledge yes.  He immediately says he is such and such from Bondage and asks if you are still with the same Master.  I am curious how you would have reacted and what advice you would give this "man" should he read this thread?    



I would have lied to the man and told him I had no idea who he was.

But quite honestly this is exactly why I don't have any pictures of myself on the internet.

C~


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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 11:14:04 AM   
Nosathro


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I think this person behavior was completly inappropriate.  I would never approach someone thinking I may have seen them on the internet.  I have actually seen people in public from website, as many here have done all I would do is exchange pleasantries.  I would never mention this lifestyle to them, especially if children were present. 
 
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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 1:31:24 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		I'd have said "I'm not a member there, you say someone else is using my name and picture? Thank you I will notify the site administrators of this outrage immediately."

I'd then close the profile and open a new one for sex sites and remove my picture from all sites, assuming I'd been foolish enough to have done this in the first place.

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 2:22:46 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		That is a good reminder that if you don't want to be recognized don't post a picture and if you don't want to be outed then use a different screen name on CM and other BDSM sites than on vanilla sites. A google search of your screen name will direct people to CM.  I also agree with everyone that it was entirely inappropriate to say anything with another person present.

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 3:21:59 PM   
GeekyGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Personally, it's reason #114 to not have kids for me. LOL

Master Fire



BIG ditto. Never understood how people in the lifestyle feel comfy having unmentionables!

I've been outed at work...sort of. Someone found my personal and showed it to a bunch of folks at work. However, most of them already knew I was kinky, so it wasn't a big deal. I'm very open about and joke about it often, so it's no big secret. I don't really care who knows. But then again, my job has civil service, and I know I can't get in trouble over it.

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 5:06:03 PM   
Devilslilsister


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Status: offline 		i was outted at Mc'ds once and i was pretty embarressed and i think i went red.  Though it was all done politely as the guy that recognized me DID work there. 

BUT if a stranger walked up to me and asked if i was Riotgirl or Devilslil and i was with my daughter.  I probably would of looked the man up and down, gotten an attitude and said "maybe"  In which case, i'd probably look at them abit more in a wary unpleasant manner and then asked "whose asking"  AND if they tried to say anything improper i'd cut them off in mid sentence and pop out with "i'm with my daughter" gave the person a nasty look and walked.

BUT if they were polite, discreet and friendly and didnt say anything appropriate like "i'm xxxx on CM" i would most likely drop the attitude and proceed to be friendly, but anxious and tell them to email me and i had to go.

AND if it was some one i also recognized and knew from CM (that i dont think is a total twit) it'd be more relaxed, calm, and friendly.  But then i dont think ppl arent a twit for a reason. 

IMO only a twit would bring up something inappropriate infront of a minor.


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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 5:08:24 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		For me, it will be unzip, flop my monster out and say "Do you recognize this?'

Got its own screen name this feller right here.

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 5:18:58 PM   
wizardprincess


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Status: offline 		I'm really new to this, but i most certiantly use a different screen name here than i do anywhere else, and i also would have probably pretended not to reconigze the screen name until i figured out how he knew.

I must add, i really loved WalterRego's comment! hehehe

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 8:54:31 PM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		This is the only site where I use this particular nick. (check) I met with Bitatruble at a munch and she didn't recognize me from my picture, so I don't think that's a problem. (check)

I don't think I'm going to have too much trouble if someone does recognize me from this site. Actually, I was contacted by a dom here and recognized him from our workplace. Not a problem, but interesting. It's one way to make new friends!

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 9:22:01 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sublizzie
I met with Bitatruble at a munch and she didn't recognize me from my picture, so I don't think that's a problem. (check)



Yeah, and I even knew you were going to be there! ::laughs::

To the OP: bad manners from one of the clueless .. I'm sorry your friend had to deal with the situation.

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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/2/2007 9:26:12 PM   
SmokingGun82


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Status: offline 		Having no children (that I know of), this scenario is fairly unlikely to come up.

And being open about my life means the odds of it embarrassing/bothering me are low. I might have a low opinion of the person asking, since it's just a tacky thing to do (and they don't necessarily KNOW that I won't mind), but I can't say I'd be worried.

And yes, feel free to apply the scenario to being out with my mother. Dating someone without discretion (and having friends with the same disorder) means that I can't imagine anything about me shocking her.


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RE: Publically Outed Recognized from online profile - 2/3/2007 1:49:36 PM   
GeekyGirl


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Status: offline 		I really don't understand the whole "being embarrassed about being in the Lifestyle" thing. That's like being embarrassed by your religion or if your gay etc.

Be proud of who you are and let everyone else kiss your butt. I don't hide my lifestyle from anyone, including family.

Oh and reality check from a youngster to the OP: Don't sweat it. Your daughter already knows and has probably known for years. Teenagers are pretty smart. I discovered what sexual things my mom was interested in before I even properly qualified as a teenager.


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