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RavenMuse -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 3:09:51 PM)
When I am here I post quite a bit... but life oft takes your time and focus elsewhere. I didn't post at all for 3 months because My attention was on other activitys and other sites..... Nothing wrong with the folks who don't have any posts here... they are simply focused elsewhere doing other things.

strangelove222 -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 3:14:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Vendaval I would say that the time factor is a major reason. And some people read the forums but almost never post, many people are hesitant to post in a public forum because of social anxiety or fearing they will sound foolish. Then there are the people who make a profile and forget that it is up and active. Indeed. I am one of the social anxiety sufferers who has been hesitant to post, but I'm doing it now for the first time. :)

gooddogbenji -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 3:24:19 PM)
POST POST POST POST. POST, POSTY

lofa -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 3:30:49 PM)
10-4 on that LA

kyraofMists -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 3:49:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld The sign said "don't feed the Loki" fear is okay! Holy crap, if you put that sign up in my house then you better be afraid. There is a 16 lb. all lean muscle siamese cat named Loki that would be highly upset!!! Feed him and he will be your best friend, up until he gets hungry again. lol Knight's kyra

Wulfchyld -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 3:52:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists quote: ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld The sign said "don't feed the Loki" fear is okay! Holy crap, if you put that sign up in my house then you better be afraid. There is a 16 lb. all lean muscle siamese cat named Loki that would be highly upset!!! Feed him and he will be your best friend, up until he gets hungry again. lol Knight's kyra [sm=biggrin.gif]

OffTheBeatenTrak -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 3:58:26 PM)
I don't tend to post in the BDSM related forums, as i'm only a curious with an interest. If i did post i wouldn't be 100 percent sure what i was talking about and i'm not going to protent that i would. So i tend just to read the threads with the hope of learning more about bdsm and it's community, so i'm not in above my head when choice to proceed. Although i've recently learned that doing this makes me what you call a lurker (which doesn't sound a good thing to be labeled). So i find i've got the choice of posting when i don't know what i'm talking about and being shot down i flames for it or not posting and being labeled as a lurker. Question, is the term lurker ment to be a negative term ?

SmokingGun82 -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 4:09:20 PM)
I didn't post for a few years... over two. The main reason was I didn't have a lot of interest in posting- I was involved in enough forums that my online time was already stretched pretty thin. But then I decided what the Hell, give it a chance. And I'm glad I did, since it's alleviated the boredom a few sleepless nights.

MaryT -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 4:44:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OffTheBeatenTrak Question, is the term lurker ment to be a negative term ? No and never has been to my knowledge. Many FAQs, certainly those I've seen for usenet groups, recommend lurking for a while before diving in, so most everyone starts out as a lurker. Often lurkers are in email communication with regular posters, regarding threads, long before they make an introductory post. Each group, even related BDSM groups, have different norms and climates. soc.sexuality.spanking is very different from soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm, even though many of the same topics pop up on both forums. Both are unmoderated for content, so there can be flaming (the real McCoy, which you would never see here). I will have to say that there is significantly less fantasy presented as reality on those groups. It is almost non existent there, whereas here, it is the norm. This can be a more peaceful place (and probably feels safer to a lot of people), so it's a trade-off, IMO.

OffTheBeatenTrak -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 5:23:33 PM)
Cheers for feed back, i'm fairly luckly as i live in the same house as one of the regular posters here (Strictly in a pletonic sense). It was her that directed me here as a good source of info.

CreativeDominant -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 5:50:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Partially it's because collarchat isn't the same site as collarme. Lots of people might not have discovered this side of things. Partially because that's the nature of online forums. You're doing insanely well to get 10% of the population actively posting. Most people lurk. Partially because this forum ISN'T for everyone. Forums have personalities and not all of them mesh with everyone who comes around. And partly because of mean icky posters like me who make newbies feel unwelcome and attacked. Yeah!!! Meanie [sm=crop.gif]

BabyNyla -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 5:55:10 PM)
hmmm .... it took me awhile to post because I am shy ... and mainly b/c i hate it when people don't agree with me ... my stubborn side shines through.

Wulfchyld -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 5:57:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BabyNyla hmmm .... it took me awhile to post because I am shy ... and mainly b/c i hate it when people don't agree with me ... my stubborn side shines through. I'm sorry I just have to disagree with you here.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 5:59:29 PM)
Hmm, didnt take me long to post the first time...maybe a day or two....just call me chatty cuddles...lol

whisperedsighs -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 6:07:58 PM)
Some people just don't have the time for posting to the message boards, and are strictly here to meet prospective play/life/etc partners. I know several people who are members of collarme, who do not post to the forums or read them. Several of those friends mentioned that they just aren't into the drama and flaming that goes on. shrugs I guess it is to each their own. I read the forums when I have time. Post occassionally. Sometimes I go through here and there is nothing interesting to me at all. I think it is like you said. Some people like the forums and some don't.

Caitriona -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 6:12:02 PM)
I figure it's one of those things where they either don't know that the forums exist, or perhaps just aren't looking for anything other than the "dating" side of CM.

substantialuuuu -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 6:26:49 PM)
Well, I am new to the lifestyle and new to CM and CollarChat. I guess all those things combine to make me a hesitant poster and usually by the time I have read through a thread my opinion has been voiced by another. I suppose I could just chime in and say "what he/she said", but I like to have a little more to contribute than that. About 14 years ago I was a very active contributor on a Stephen King bulletin board, met some great people there and still communicate regularly with one of them, finally met him last November, proof that lasting friendships form even without a physical presence.

puella -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 7:08:33 PM)
Post to the forum? Most people don't even vote, and that takes far less 'effort' on their part than to formulate an intelligent post or two... it is the nature of the majority of our culture. Why think unless it is absolutely necessary? Why commit to something, and posting your thoughts and opinions is a commitment of sorts, if you can just sit back and sludge about without having to have the responsibility of an opinion?

mbes -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 7:19:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross And partly because of mean icky posters like me who make newbies feel unwelcome and attacked. I would just like to state on the record that LuckyAlbatross was the deciding factor, when I signed up for the site. :)

adaddysgirl -> RE: Those who do not post (2/2/2007 7:41:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: toservez Not everybody and in fact most people do not use this message board or any other. Many on the other side are there just to try to find their other. Even if interested and click over to the message board they might not post for many reasons. i have been on both alt and bondage and never once posted to any forums or got into any chat rooms. When i joined CM, i was not interested in that either. One night, after 2 1/2 years on the other side, i saw this thing scroll by about being monogamous or being poly, so i clicked on it. i then read the posts...and then, or course, had to add my comment...lol. i never thought any more of it and never came back but sometime later, i again saw something scroll by that piqued my interest. i clicked on it....read the posts...and again, commented. But it must have been a hot topic so i felt compelled to keep up with the responses. And then i started looking around and 'got hooked'. But, as you mentioned, i was only here for the personals aspect....so anyone clicking to see what i have ever posted would have found nothing. It's obviously now different. It is a simply to each their own type thing. Personally I have zero interest in IM and I may not understand the appeal but I do understand that many people enjoy it, but I get my fair share of messages of people wanting me to IM with them. It is about preference, time and other factors. Same here....i have no interest in IM chat....so i never got involved in that here. But i realize some people are really into it. i only hope that others are not judged as somehow less interested (or whatever) in D/s because they don't participate in anything other than the personals. Some just don't have those types of interests and some probably just don't have the time. What I enjoy or find useful has very little bearing on what others might enjoy or find useful. Good points toservez. DG

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