RE: Those who do not post

RE: Those who do not post (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion

Message

afeathr -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 9:22:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross And partly because of mean icky posters like me who make newbies feel unwelcome and attacked. Now, now, LA - don't take whiners personally. I think most of the regulars really appreciate your straight-forward insights on the matters at hand. Though I may not always agree - I appreciate your personality, as it is so similar to mine. :)

griffn -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 10:10:42 AM)
Its because of the kind of replies they have gotten and because the post whores who monopolize these forums so that they can sound like uber doms /subs.

SCDommie -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 10:15:38 AM)
It is because they have been attacked on this forum by people who claim to be experts when none of us are experts in this thing. We are all just human beings trying to learn something about bdsm. That is all it is, and I know because I have been treated poorly before. Now I post and run. I don't go back to view what others have said. SCD

nattie83 -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 10:30:21 AM)
Well, I read a lot more then I post myself. Usually I am just amazed at the stupidity; and clueless with regards to the "I'm real and you're fake, and he is vanilla" finger-pointing childish posts. Every now and then I find a nice thread, read it, think about it, and think about responding with my point of view. Which has usually already been expressed by ten other posters.

subdelicious -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 12:13:38 PM)
i don't post often because being new, there's not a lot i can share when a question is asked. i do read the forum regularly and appreciate very much those who do post and answer questions. i hope someday i will be able to answer some from an experienced viewpoint! :-)

fierceflawless -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 12:34:02 PM)
Personally, I just prefer to lurk. I like to read what people are saying/discussing, and form my own opinion, but I am not usually one to get involved in them.

MagiksSlave -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 12:35:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mymasterssub69 i know Daddy doesn't have an interest in posting yet reads the forums while waiting for me to come home from reviewing bands. Master doesnt post eather though he does read some of the stuff.. he isnt totaly interested in posting and most of the time he just doesnt have time for it!! Magik's slave

MiladyElaine -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 12:47:48 PM)
A lot of time by the time I find something I am interested in posting to, someone has taken the words out of My mouth and said them more eloquently. If I say "ditto" I would be accused of having My status icon booted up a notch.

cjenny -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 12:51:39 PM)
I would post a lot more if I weren't self-concious and worried about the nastiness that seems to crop up in almost every thread. Call me chicken.. its okay :)

MzMia -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 12:52:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: griffn Its because of the kind of replies they have gotten and because the post whores who monopolize these forums so that they can sound like uber doms /subs. LOL at post whores, I love it![:D]

bandit25 -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 12:58:11 PM)
Oh Good Lord. This is the Internet people...the Internet. Why on earth would you or anyone else give a damn about what someone from the Internet thinks? Geez. This is something that drives me nuts! I love reading stuff on here...even the flames...they make me laugh. For anyone to take it seriously is just, well, nuts! I mean, sure, there are some serious questions and serious answers and I think that's great. But if you post something and someone attacks...uh, dare I say it? This is the Internet! You shouldn't give a damn about what I think either.

Pixiepunk -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 1:32:56 PM)
I've been a lurker on here for a very long time. Occasionally I come out of the shadows and post something if I've gone through the thread and see that my opinion hasn't been stated ad-nauseum but for the most part I just follow along. It's also a time thing. I'm on a few other forums and CM is usually last on the list and by the time i get to it all intelligent thought has been driven out and I just tend to laugh at and love some of the posters. Definetly one of my favorite reads and maybe someday I'll get more active. I do think I'd rather start up a communication with somebody I see posting on here than not because reading people's random thoughts and such give a better idea of who this stranger is.

MistressDiane -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 2:05:18 PM)
I was on B dot com for years before I ever posted anything there. Why? I don't know. Just didn't visit them.

WalterRego -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 3:12:57 PM)
So it seems in general that the consensus is: 1) lack of time/better things to do 2) fear of ridicule or distaste for flames etc. and 3) not feeling that you have much to contribute on a topic. Well I admit that I started and then stopped for a long time reading and posting here, because life became too busy. I only recently returned. And I think when actually involved in an ongoing relationship it not only siphons off much of my posting time, but also my energy/need to post ('cept when a question comes up and you need feedback). So that's understandable, although it doesn't fully explain people who've never posted. It just seems to me that even if someone is coming here simply to find a Dom or sub, the posts would reveal a lot more about potential partners than their profile. As to fear of the reactions of others, I've found that the BDSM world has got a lot of wonderful and intelligent people in it but is also full of jerks, assholes, poseurs, preyers and people who are as convinced of their own opinions and wisdom as of their need to display them using someone else as a foil. But that's a part of this world and if you expect or want to be in it, you might as well get used to it, be able to identify it and learn how to cope. Not to mention that the (emotional) pain you experience here from being ripped apart will be more fleeting than if you wait to learn about it in person at a munch or club. I assume that there are or will be things I write which either are genuinely stupid, ill thought out or naive and I will get blasted. There will be others which make perfect sense or are valid but which someone else will think is the height ot lameness and that I will get nasty responses. But both the good and bad responses are what help me to gauge, refine and grow. Or at times help me realize that, yeah, I am/was an ignorant asshole. (no additional reinforcment is necessary at the moment, thanks). I guess all of the reasons posted make sense. But I'd still tell (lol, me and my big 60 posts) anyone who refrains from posting out of fear to try it anyway. It's like going to a club or munch the first time. It may be scary, but if you don't.... And if your heart's in the right place, there's almost always someone who will help you out if they see you are being dumped on unjustly.

bignipples2share -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 6:16:31 PM)
( edited to add, this is a fast reply) I also didn't know about the forums, or what they were for a couple of years. I post sometimes, lurk more often. Many times when I do post, it usually times out and I throw up my hands and leave the thread. There are times I type it all out and end up deleting it all. I don't have any desire to post to every thread, up my post number and a host of other things. I think to post here, you have to be very precise in what you say, so it doesn't get taken wrong. That may be another deciding factor as to why some are just lurkers. Some people are too sensitive and don't want to find out if they'll always be the thread ender (oh the power in being able to do that eh), wonder if they'll be one of those that gets the welcome, or be snubbed. ~Big

violetraven -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 6:32:28 PM)
[:)] I am a lurker! I don't have much to say but enjoy the posts. Just learning a lot of techniques and live life with a hubby. He's not into BDSM so much but I learn a lot here. After being married so long its nice to spice things up a bit. Thanks for all the nice info I learned here. I really enjoy all your sharing. Marj

Aileen68 -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 6:34:06 PM)
I never spend any time here and I never post. [:)]

domiguy -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 6:55:09 PM)
quote: bignipples2share think to post here, you have to be very precise in what you say, so it doesn't get taken wrong Am I the only one who gets a hard on while watching "Kim Possible?" out. D.G. p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers.

Aileen68 -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 7:05:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Am I the only one who gets a hard on while watching "Kim Possible?" out. D.G. p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers. Yes

HydroMaster -> RE: Those who do not post (2/4/2007 7:11:03 PM)
Well to be honest it's never even occured to me to post anything...until today. Today my eyes just got drawn to the button. So I pushed it. Hmm, think I'll go see what other buttons I can find. Heh, there's one below here that says OK. I think I like that one...time to push again.

Page: << < prev 2 3 [4] 5 6 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.046875