WalterRego
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So it seems in general that the consensus is: 1) lack of time/better things to do 2) fear of ridicule or distaste for flames etc. and 3) not feeling that you have much to contribute on a topic.
Well I admit that I started and then stopped for a long time reading and posting here, because life became too busy. I only recently returned. And I think when actually involved in an ongoing relationship it not only siphons off much of my posting time, but also my energy/need to post ('cept when a question comes up and you need feedback). So that's understandable, although it doesn't fully explain people who've never posted. It just seems to me that even if someone is coming here simply to find a Dom or sub, the posts would reveal a lot more about potential partners than their profile.
As to fear of the reactions of others, I've found that the BDSM world has got a lot of wonderful and intelligent people in it but is also full of jerks, assholes, poseurs, preyers and people who are as convinced of their own opinions and wisdom as of their need to display them using someone else as a foil. But that's a part of this world and if you expect or want to be in it, you might as well get used to it, be able to identify it and learn how to cope. Not to mention that the (emotional) pain you experience here from being ripped apart will be more fleeting than if you wait to learn about it in person at a munch or club. I assume that there are or will be things I write which either are genuinely stupid, ill thought out or naive and I will get blasted. There will be others which make perfect sense or are valid but which someone else will think is the height ot lameness and that I will get nasty responses. But both the good and bad responses are what help me to gauge, refine and grow. Or at times help me realize that, yeah, I am/was an ignorant asshole. (no additional reinforcment is necessary at the moment, thanks).
I guess all of the reasons posted make sense.
But I'd still tell (lol, me and my big 60 posts) anyone who refrains from posting out of fear to try it anyway. It's like going to a club or munch the first time. It may be scary, but if you don't....
And if your heart's in the right place, there's almost always someone who will help you out if they see you are being dumped on unjustly.
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A person should not choose the form in which he wishes to perform the service, but he should perform it in any manner the opportunity affords. He should be like a vessel into which anything may be poured - wine, milk, or water.
-Abraham Joshua Heschel
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RE: Those who do not post - 
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I am a lurker! I don't have much to say but enjoy the posts. Just learning a lot of techniques and live life with a hubby. He's not into BDSM so much but I learn a lot here. After being married so long its nice to spice things up a bit. Thanks for all the nice info I learned here. I really enjoy all your sharing. 
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