Should a dominant be subjected to the same implements that he subjects his submissive to?

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

Should a dominant be subjected to the same implements that he subjects his submissive to?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Should a dominant be subjected to the same implements that he subjects his submissive to?

Page: [1] 2 3 4 5 next > >>

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Should a dominant be subjected to the same implements t... - 2/6/2007 10:39:57 AM

SirDiscipliner69

Posts: 2607
Joined: 2/1/2005
Status: offline

Should a dominant be subjected to the same implements that he subjects his submissive to?

Ross

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Bon_D_Age/members?o=6
Designermite
http://www.cafepress.com/designermite

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:43:28 AM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

Nope, he'll cry.

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to SirDiscipliner69)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:45:40 AM

SirDiscipliner69

Posts: 2607
Joined: 2/1/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Nope, he'll cry.

Why do you say that? Mindset?

Ross

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Bon_D_Age/members?o=6
Designermite
http://www.cafepress.com/designermite

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:47:43 AM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

I am teasing! I don't think it's necessary for a Dom to feel the whip in order to wield it. That's just my opinion. Part of it is mindset, yes, it would be an unpleasant visualization to picture a man I wish to dominate me on the bottom end of something. My reaction would be "oops, I don't think so."

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to SirDiscipliner69)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:50:59 AM

SirDiscipliner69

Posts: 2607
Joined: 2/1/2005
Status: offline

So you have a definite projection of how the dominant should be then...a mind's eye...if the image is not as your fantasize then the session does not work for you?

Ross

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Bon_D_Age/members?o=6
Designermite
http://www.cafepress.com/designermite

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:52:38 AM

viperess

Posts: 290
Joined: 11/6/2006
Status: offline

That could be an interesting concept. No on second thought thinking of Master in that manor does make me laugh but would i want to see it? i really do not think so. Of course the fact that i am pretty much as He says a "pain slut" i am not sure He would still do some of the things He does to me if first He had to experience it. Now there is that dxxx electric fly swatter...but that is a whole nother story.

viperess slave of CTDOM4sub

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 6

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:55:13 AM

LuckyAlbatross

Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline

Only if he wants.

_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to SirDiscipliner69)

Profile

Post #: 7

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:56:09 AM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

quote:

So you have a definite projection of how the dominant should be then...

Yep. The strong, sort of silent type works for me. I'm also not the least bit switchy, so I can't relate to being on the other end of the implements, I don't think I could go there. As a good sub, I'd it if asked, but only because it was an order.

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to SirDiscipliner69)

Profile

Post #: 8

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:57:20 AM

tangldupinblue

Posts: 230
Joined: 3/20/2006
Status: offline

in short my answer is yes....i think inorder to have a firm knowledge of what an instrument can do it has to be felt.

do i want to see it Daddy that way.NOOOOO NOOOOO NEVER.

blue

_____________________________

Those who deserve punshiment, take it calmly.

(in reply to viperess)

Profile

Post #: 9

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:58:25 AM

BitaTruble

Posts: 9779
Joined: 1/12/2006
From: Texas
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: SirDiscipliner69

Should a dominant be subjected to the same implements that he subjects his submissive to?

Ross

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Bon_D_Age/members?o=6
Designermite
http://www.cafepress.com/designermite

I wouldn't say 'should', but if he's also a masochist and wants to be, I'll invite him over for dinner and dessert.

Celeste

_____________________________

"Oh, so it's just like
Rock, paper, scissors."

He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."

(in reply to SirDiscipliner69)

Profile

Post #: 10

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 10:59:49 AM

Caitriona

Posts: 327
Joined: 8/28/2006
Status: offline

I think it is a good idea, but not particularly necessary, due to the nature of my relationship with My Lord. I trust him to not push too hard with any new toy introduced into our play.

_____________________________

Property of Shadowraven
Serving alongside ciarra

(in reply to viperess)

Profile

Post #: 11

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 11:01:12 AM

SirDiscipliner69

Posts: 2607
Joined: 2/1/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied
Yep. The strong, sort of silent type works for me. I'm also not the least bit switchy, so I can't relate to being on the other end of the implements, I don't think I could go there. As a good sub, I'd it if asked, but only because it was an order.

So a dominant should not show emotion?

Ross

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Bon_D_Age/members?o=6
Designermite
http://www.cafepress.com/designermite

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 12

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 11:02:27 AM

SirDiscipliner69

Posts: 2607
Joined: 2/1/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: tangldupinblue

in short my answer is yes....i think inorder to have a firm knowledge of what an instrument can do it has to be felt.

So is that a question submissives ask...have you felt this on yourself?

How many ask that question?

Ross

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Bon_D_Age/members?o=6
Designermite
http://www.cafepress.com/designermite

(in reply to tangldupinblue)

Profile

Post #: 13

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 11:04:26 AM

tangldupinblue

Posts: 230
Joined: 3/20/2006
Status: offline

i have asked the question in the past, mostly when its a new toy. but i have never asked Daddy about it, it never accured to me, i trust him more then i have ever trusted anyone.

blue

(in reply to SirDiscipliner69)

Profile

Post #: 14

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 11:04:34 AM

MissEnchantress

Posts: 23
Joined: 10/4/2006
Status: offline

I really don't see the point in that. No two people are ever going to experience the impliment the same way. Plus the mind set is different - 'ho hum doing this because I have to' is going to feel so much different then 'master is about to whip me' even if the same intensity is delivered.

While I do attempt to try all implements out on myself I have an outrageously high pain tollerence. What I barely notices has many subs in tears.

(in reply to KatyLied)

Profile

Post #: 15

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 11:07:54 AM

KatyLied

Posts: 13029
Joined: 2/24/2005
From: Pennsylvania
Status: offline

How do you learn about service-delivery? I would worry that my implements aren't striking hard enough, or perhaps too hard. It's much easier to bottom.

_____________________________

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”
- Albert Einstein

(in reply to MissEnchantress)

Profile

Post #: 16

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 11:16:13 AM

obey1

Posts: 227
Joined: 11/26/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: tangldupinblue

in short my answer is yes....i think inorder to have a firm knowledge of what an instrument can do it has to be felt.

That is a whole can of worms. That is like saying in order for one to be Sadistic they must have first experienced Masochism.

Or in order to know what penetration feels like, one must be penetrated (i.e. a vibrator "instrument" up the ass) Or sucking dick, etc.

There are a bunch of people that would disagree that the road to becoming a Dom/me starts with being submissive first.

There are an entire group of people as well in Gorean thought that one is born into a household.

Wisdom is known by her children.

< Message edited by obey1 -- 2/6/2007 11:21:12 AM >

(in reply to tangldupinblue)

Profile

Post #: 17

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 11:24:33 AM

SirDiscipliner69

Posts: 2607
Joined: 2/1/2005
Status: offline

So you wouldn't mind the battery recharger being used on you by him?

Ross

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Bon_D_Age/members?o=6
Designermite
http://www.cafepress.com/designermite

(in reply to MissEnchantress)

Profile

Post #: 18

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 11:46:07 AM

SirDiscipliner69

Posts: 2607
Joined: 2/1/2005
Status: offline

Seems the post that was simuliar to this one but worded differently was deleted and I was given another warning for violating rules.

Ross

(in reply to SirDiscipliner69)

Profile

Post #: 19

RE: Should a dominant be subjected to the same implemen... - 2/6/2007 12:03:40 PM

AquaticSub

Posts: 14867
Joined: 12/27/2005
Status: offline

~Fast Reply~

I feel it's best to know how everything feels. I was lucky enough to have a "lesson" in toys from a very experienced master who felt every toy should be tested on himself first. He was definately all dominant but, and I agree, it easier to have an idea how things will feel on the submissive when you've felt them yourself. At the same time, I don't think it's required. You can definately be a great dominant without doing this, I just think it helps.

_____________________________

Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

(in reply to SirDiscipliner69)

Profile

Post #: 20

Page: [1] 2 3 4 5 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> Should a dominant be subjected to the same implements that he subjects his submissive to?

Page: [1] 2 3 4 5 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Spam Policy

0.078