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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/10/2007 11:02:02 PM   
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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/10/2007 11:07:53 PM   
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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 3:23:46 AM   
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dollparts85
Am I being used?


Yes

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 3:38:50 AM   
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This girl actually finds it a bit degrading when having phone sex, the same used to happen to this girl. A man she liked would ring her up at about 2am sometimes and require phone sex, but then when he had finished he would hang up.

So yes it sounds like he is using you, but if you like him talk to him.

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 3:48:07 AM   
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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 6:37:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		The next time he calls, just before he reaches climax (about 5 seconds before he hangs up), blow an airhorn into the phone receiver and blast his eardrum. Then, very innocently say, "I am sorry, I wanted, JUST ONCE, to blow before you did."

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 6:45:08 AM   
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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 6:47:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		I love that.  Of course he's using you.  You know he is.  Why come here and ask?  Are you looking for validation?  Only you can decide if you want to be used that way.

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 6:58:16 AM   
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The next time he calls, just before he reaches climax (about 5 seconds before he hangs up), blow an airhorn into the phone receiver and blast his eardrum. Then, very innocently say, "I am sorry, I wanted, JUST ONCE, to blow before you did."


LMAO!!

If this is a real question, and you're really wondering, here's a way to find out:   Do you ever feel like your needs are met?  You may be into degredation or abandonment or humiliation and this is floating your boat.  Something is making you connect to the guy, but that doesn't make it a good thing unless you feel like you're getting something back from the exchange.
Phone sex can be a real blast, and you can touch all kinds of kinks with it.  I advise you learn what you like about it and make sure that desire is quenched on a regular basis.  Some people are really good with it, and some are just the standard issue humans with all that goes along with the condition. 

It's just one of the dishes on the sexual buffet....you may want to try some of the others for perspective.

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 9:21:49 AM   
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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 10:21:18 AM   
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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 10:40:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

If like...a guy...hangs up...after he cums...I mean like...literally 5 seconds after he cums, he hangs up...every time...is that normal? Am I being used? We do it every night...and I like him a lot...I just...I dont know if he really cares about me at all...or if he's just using me to get off...normally he does all the talking and stuff...but now he's making me repeat dirty things and I really don't want to but I want him to like me so I have to...he said he wont talk to me anymore if I don't...does it sound like he's using me?


It's not often a great idea to do things you don't like doing, to be *liked*........whatever the circumstances.

Even if he does care for you, likes you and doesn't think he's using you ........I have the feeling you feel he is, or possibly is.

The quick way to find out is to stop doing it and say why.

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 10:54:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dont even like phone sex...I always feel like I'm gonna throw up the whole time...but I want him to like me...I like him lots...he gives me lots of attention...we email back and forth all day...if he didnt write me I wouldn't have anyone to talk with...

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 11:39:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

I dont even like phone sex...I always feel like I'm gonna throw up the whole time...but I want him to like me...I like him lots...he gives me lots of attention...we email back and forth all day...if he didnt write me I wouldn't have anyone to talk with...


Loneliness.. is the most cruel "master" of all.....
 
Read your post back to yourself as if one of your girlfriends  is asking you what you think.  What would be YOUR answer?

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 11:45:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know...its normal to want someone to talk with, right? I get so lonely...I stay in all the time...I'm scared to go outside...theres so many dangerous things outside...I have no one to talk with...cept once every two weeks when I go to therapy...my therapist is really nice...he helps me a lot...

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 11:47:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

I dont even like phone sex...I always feel like I'm gonna throw up the whole time...but I want him to like me...I like him lots...he gives me lots of attention...we email back and forth all day...if he didnt write me I wouldn't have anyone to talk with...


doll, I don't know the chap or how your life is.......but how would YOU feel, if someone was doing something that made them physically sick.....JUST because they wanted YOU to like them?

I strongly doubt he feels that way BUT can you see that it isn't really a great way to be tackling being *liked*? A BIG guess here.......but I think you'd *like* it if he liked you without the phone sex that you so hate.

It's cost/benefit..........if it's worth it at the moment, you'll continue. When and if it isn't, you'll stop.

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 11:51:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: dollparts85

If like...a guy...hangs up...after he cums...I mean like...literally 5 seconds after he cums, he hangs up...every time...is that normal? Am I being used? We do it every night...and I like him a lot...I just...I dont know if he really cares about me at all...or if he's just using me to get off...normally he does all the talking and stuff...but now he's making me repeat dirty things and I really don't want to but I want him to like me so I have to...he said he wont talk to me anymore if I don't...does it sound like he's using me?


Next time you are talking dirty to him and getting him all worked up, hang up and see what he does.

Akasha



i heartly agree with this idea but do expect him to yell at you if he calls back.  He will put you down even more.  I would give up on this unfeeling self centered piece of one minded weasel and look for what you want and deserve. 
You will go through a lot of jokers before you find a true Dom.  You are young i know it feel like time is speeding by.  Improve yourself with understanding the mind set of a sub and slave to know more what you want. This too will help you to recognize the fakers and players

I wish you luck in your search dump this moron.

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 11:55:28 AM   
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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 11:59:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

but I have to get used to sex stuff or I'll never get a boyfriend...


ok, I am starting not to beleive you anymore... nobody is that low on their own self-esteem, I hope anyhow.

Do you hear yourself? Follow another posters advice, read what you have posted here back to yourself as if a best friend was saying the exact same thing to you... what would you tell them? That's the advice you should take.

p.s. being without a boyfriend, especially one that is not right for you, is not the end of the world. 

edited to add:
p.p.s. there's several wonderful websites that have "BOB"s (battery operated boyfriends) that deliver directly to your home in generic packages (Xandria collection springs to mind... they have a website) so as not to embarrass... just a thought to help you get used to "sex stuff" -- Curious, exactly how old are you anyhow?

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RE: Question about phone sex... - 2/11/2007 11:59:43 AM   
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