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You do a fisting or serious G spot play and get a woman to ejaculate and you have a great big mess and yet people don't whine and bitch about that

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I felt she wanted to explore why GIVEN EQUAL CIRCUMSTANCES  there seems to be a double standard that about the issue when it involves men.

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   I do think it is kinda creepy to stand in a ring around a couple scening and nonconsensually beat off while the couple are doing their thing.. it is kinda intrusive.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I don't know why LA isn't in here focusing this thread.

I don't think she was talking about people breaking rules, leaving puddles, or violating people's personal space.   I know I sure as heck wasn't.

You do a fisting or serious G spot play and get a woman to ejaculate and you have a great big mess and yet people don't whine and bitch about that.  I felt she wanted to explore why GIVEN EQUAL CIRCUMSTANCES  there seems to be a double standard that about the issue when it involves men.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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If one goes to a heavy BDSM club, do they not expect people to become aroused?

I do not expect people not to get aroused anywhere... even the beach with bikini clad girls.

Then you are living in a fantasy world.

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And have these people not already consented in essence by choosing to go there?

People being aroused is no excuse to be dishonor yourself by not following the rules of behavior that you have agreed to.

Arousal is against the rules? What kind of prudish club do you belong to, the Quaker Spankers?

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If you see something that you don't approve of, you walk away. You don't whine about it being against your consent, otherwise some puritanical twit could waltz into any fetish event, exclaim their displeasure at the behavior there, and force everyone to put away their toys

No, if I go into a situation with the agreement that no one will watch me and beat their meat, I will ask the DM to remove them for not following the rules they agreed to before they went into a club.

So it is fine for you to get your rocks off by being flogged, but how dare someone else enjoy it, gotcha! I'll try to make it to some of the clubs you attend, then tell the DM how offended I am by everything that is going on.

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Give me a break! I hate watching people make out in public, but I don't run to the nearest police officer and demand that they be forced to stop because I didn't consent to seeing it. I direct my attention elsewhere instead of trying to force feed my morals to other people.

I would go to a police officer if people were having sex and beating off in front of me. I see no difference. No one is forcing you or anyone else to agree to the rules of a club when you enter their doors, you agree not to shoot your body fluids all over, then live up to that agreement. We are not animals without self control. Most places have private areas for people to have an orgasm.

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ORIGINAL: aSlavesLife


As for ' leaving puddles '... women do this too, especially while naked.

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I am not saying that everyone should be spanking their monkey every time someone cracks a whip, but if you are so uptight as to get offended that someone should actually become aroused while observing an erotic event, you really need to think about staying home. And while you are leaving the dungeon, try not to touch the spanking bench, because you can bet your last dollar that some woman oozed her happy juice on it as she orgasmed while being spanked.

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ORIGINAL: GuidingLite

My friends and me always agreed on this that maybe things would be different in a different world, but we don't think men should ever masturbate in a public place. It has nothing to do with aesthetics, but that the penis is rightfully perceived as a potential weapon and a woman's vagina isn't.  So, when a man masturbates in public, women who see him may feel offended or sexually threatened (because the boundary-crossing public sexuality hints at rape) and men who see him are at most disinterested. When a woman wanks in public, women who see her are likely not offended or threatened, and men who see her are likely enthralled.

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chances are she will have to have some manual contact with her genitals, which for the most part are interior. she's not simply stroking skin, she's dipping her fingers in orifices. for me this is as disgusting as seeing someone pick their nose

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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chances are she will have to have some manual contact with her genitals, which for the most part are interior. she's not simply stroking skin, she's dipping her fingers in orifices. for me this is as disgusting as seeing someone pick their nose

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I am guessing you have not seen many women masturbate? Not all of us have to probe inside of ourselves to achieve an orgasm. It might be a nice feeling, and some of us can orgasm with vaginal penetration, but the primary sex gland/spot/organ is the clitoris which is on the outside  of the female genitalia. Also, not all women make puddles, I do not leak everywhere all the time. I sometimes am more juicy than others, but I do not gush like a geyser when I orgasm, and I doubt highly that I am unusual in this.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
just because watching men in the throws (I SO cannot be sure I am spelling that correctly) of sexual passion, the look on their faces and so forth.........I find very humorous actually.