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RE: Masturbating & Public Play - 2/17/2007 6:30:10 AM

WhiplashSmile

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Oh hell let's make it a BDSM Bukkake Party. That way everbody knows what to expect. I think it's more acceptable in the World of Swingers, to have guys watch and jack off, then it is in world of BDSM. For some DOMs the thought of seeing another guy jack off over their Slave, makes them feel less DOM and Less in control. But I must say... BDSM Bukkake Party, that would be a sight. LOL...

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RE: Masturbating & Public Play - 2/17/2007 10:15:43 AM

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At our club "The Sanctuary" A BDSM Dungeon in Dallas Texas...............Masturbating, Fluid Exchange, Sex, Drugs and Alcohol are all no no's in the Dungeons Rules. If caught doing any of the above you loose your membership.

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p.s. if you want to read the rules they are posted at www.sanctuarylifestyle.com

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RE: Masturbating & Public Play - 2/17/2007 4:48:31 PM

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>At our club "The Sanctuary" A BDSM Dungeon in Dallas >Texas...............Masturbating, Fluid Exchange, Sex, Drugs and
>Alcohol are all no no's in the Dungeons Rules. If caught doing
>any of the above you loose your membership.

You forgot to mention Sanctuary's rules against penetration and touching the genitals for any reason other than causing pain (and several other rules that get enforced on a selective basis). That's why I don't go to Sanctuary anymore - by the time you get through the list of rules, everything is completely de-sexualized and limited to rather tame play.

- Jesse

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RE: Masturbating & Public Play - 2/17/2007 5:34:52 PM

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to me it is not an issue... or at least.. it doesn't bother me..

However, I believe some measure of control needs to be enforced.

I would consider masturbating very much similar to blood type plays. It needs to be done in a situation that makes it safe for those in the area. Body fuilds are a risk of more serious concerns to me than it makes someone uncomfortable to be exposed to it.

Not that masturbation will automatically lead to ejaculation... but the risk of it and the inherent risks associated with it... well... individuals should not need to be subjected to such a risk recklessly.

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RE: Masturbating & Public Play - 2/17/2007 5:58:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I do not believe that just because you and your partner want to beat each other senseless that it opens you "to anything". Clubs generally have rules, one should find out the rules before they go out anywhere. There are nights at the Lair that are for couples only for example. There is a reason for this.

The image of the score cards popped into my head and made me laugh ~ especially the French judge who, just to be a pisser, never gives higher than a 7.5. But it is not that I disagree with you. In a perfect world of public play, no one would infringe because they are so well-mannered they always get invited to the best parties. The reality is, though, that occasional ill-mannered folks pay their fees and get in.

While the club I went to is enjoyable and does have specific rules, these rules are not (or cannot) be reinforced to the nth degree. The masturbation I saw was against the rules, but seemed to please the crowd and went on without interruption or anyone yelling "foul."

During my first visit to the club, I was chained to cuffs dangling down from the ceiling while a friend of mine flogged me. I was facing a wall, but a stranger came around in front of me to watch which threw me out of the zone I was in and just left me startled. She quickly said something to him and he moved further away but I did think it was rude...plus, being that close could have gotten him hurt. Not violence from me, I mean he could have startled her as well and thrown off her aim. In the end, it did not cause any irreperable damage. It was just rude, but not the end of the world as I know it.

Your high expectations are just and I certainly do not think you should settle for less. But being in a public display does make you vulnerable to the reality of the well-mannered appreciative crowd and the ill-mannered appreciative crowd. To believe less is being naive....or, you will be able to get into the best club where nothing adverse ever happens. Either/or. Once I saw an incredibly sexy biker with a neon-pink streak in his long blonde hair, so I do believe in miracles.

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