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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/13/2007 5:59:17 PM   
kate


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Status: offline 		Bludemonn....if someone who was jsut my boyfriend asked me to do it i would just stop doing it infront of them....remember...i didn't say this guy was my Master....he is just a Dom i'm seeing...i am not collared by him.....but he has asked me to do this.....and i want him to be happy....i want to impress him

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 11:57:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was a thumb sucker when I was younger.  The way my dentist got me to stop was by taking a tongue depressor, cutting it in half, and splinting my thumb with it.  When I would try to suck my thumb, the splint would hit the roof of my mouth & remind me that I am not supposed to be sucking my thumb.  I did work for me.  Keep me posted on how it goes.

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 12:16:03 PM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		Maybe there could be a reward method set up by the Dom who asked you to quit.
Make it one day = your favorite thing (like spanking, bondage, sex)
Make it two days = a special treat his choice
Make it a week = dinner
Make it a month = dinner and dancing or a movie.
Maybe if you had a reward system it would give you more incentive.

I'd also say what about sucking the little mini carrots, celery or a toothpick. What about chewing gum, or hard candies.
At night (serious not being funny) what about taping your mouth shut when you're sleeping?

Over all your sheer will can break this habit just like you quit smoking.
If today is the first day you've tried I would expect you to forget a few times.
As the days go by it will get easier to remember.

Have patience with yourself in this my dear.
Mark Twain said "Bad habits are not to be thrown out the window, but rather coaxed down the stairs one at a time.

You can Do It!! I have Faith In You!!

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 12:29:23 PM   
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quote:

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i did not want to quit before He asked me to....i actually quite like it...that's what makes it hard..... but i DO want to do it to please him



Here in lies the problem... You dont want to give it up you like it, a) it is in my opinion imposable to give something like this up unless you want to you cant really do it for anyone els. and b) if you dont want to and enjoy it why should you have to give it up for your Dom if you are willing to not do it around him I dont see the problem and I dont really understand why he would make you if it isnt hurting anything.

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 1:11:16 PM   
kate


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Status: offline 		i never thaught of taping my mouth shut...hmmmm....and i went to see a councelor today and he is going to bring it us at the next meeting of all the campus therapists....he thinks he will be able to help me

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 2:17:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		tapeing ones mouth shut for sleep is one of the worst ideas I have ever heard you want to suffocate???? you just cant count that your nose wont get blockedd ot stuffed up during the night aspecialy if you snore

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 2:52:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		That's good to hear, please be sure to let us know how it goes.

Edited to say: not the part about taping your mouth shut obviously.

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 3:00:22 PM   
sexyone4you


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Status: offline 		For now, maybe we should refrain from taping your mouth closed.  What about getting a rubber finger (available at OfficeMax) and wear it on your thumb?

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 3:11:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		well this is my take on it...
a few weekedns ago my master and i went to spend the weekebd with a D/s couple we are friends with. the first night as i was trying to fall aleep sir told me to stop sucking my thumb, it annoys him no end. lol, so the next day there was a pacifyer waiting fo rme on my pillow, hahaha. it helped and i didnt suck my thumb the rest of the weekend.  would that be possible for you?

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 4:15:05 PM   
kate


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Status: offline 		a pasifier won't wrk...didn't work when i was a baby and still dosen't work now, lol... but that is a cute story

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 4:33:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sexyone4you

I was a thumb sucker when I was younger.  The way my dentist got me to stop was by taking a tongue depressor, cutting it in half, and splinting my thumb with it.  When I would try to suck my thumb, the splint would hit the roof of my mouth & remind me that I am not supposed to be sucking my thumb.  I did work for me.  Keep me posted on how it goes.


Ha!  THAT is what they did to my brother (i had forgotten what method they used until you just mentioned it).  They put the stick on there so he started sucking his index finger.  my parents didn't know....but i did...but i didn't tell because i was still doing it myself.  It's funny how you learn to hide it too, at so young an age. 
 
It's also funny how there is such a stigma attached to such an innocent thing.  i mean, the only drawback i see to it is the effect it could have on the teeth but hey, plenty of kids get braces who never sucked their thumb anyway.  Besides, peer pressure almost always take its toll too.  i mean, when a kid starts school, they quickly realize the other kids there aren't doing it and might make fun of you if you do.  i think that is why a lot of kids quit then or only do it in the confines of their home (or at night, whatever). 
 
This actually turned out to be an interesting conversation.  i can't wait to see how the OP makes out with it.  (Adds a 'thumbs up'....lol)
 
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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 4:54:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		ok, so i went to see my councelor today....he thinks he can help me... but he needs to do some research and talk to the school psycologist and a few psyc profs.  i am going to be seeing him 2 or 3 times a week for a while till i get it under controll....he thinks that if i can controll this can controll everything in my life like my drinking and over eating and overall addictive personality....so....this is good....but it's going to take a lot of sessions..i'm just glad they are free through my school

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 9:46:04 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kate

i did not want to quit before He asked me to....i actually quite like it...that's what makes it hard..... but i DO want to do it to please him


I'm probably going to get blasted for this one but my advice to you here would to consider whether or not giving up thumb sucking just because your dom wants you to is what is right for you. As others (agirl) have mentioned, it's not harming you, not disrupting your life, not embarressing anyone since you only do it in private while alone, and I am certain that there are much bigger issues in your life to work on. I know that everyone likes to think that all subs should just jump at the chance to please their doms and something as simple and straightforward as giving up thumb sucking should be easy enough, right? But in the grand scheme of things, how is it going to affect your life? Are you going to feel stressed out more by trying to stop? Are you going to feel guilty when, while trying to stop, you slip up and do it? Is it going to become a point of contention between you and your dom where you are "good" if you're not doing it and "bad" if you are? How big of a deal is it really? And is he doing that whole "because I'm the dom and I say so thing" without taking all of these points into consideration? No matter what, you are still ultimately in charge of yourself and if this order from him is causing you undue trouble then it's YOU who has to tell him, "hey, I know it means a lot to you, but here's the deal..." Relationships are not static, there is usually a bit of back and forth and negotiation taking place as people learn more about each other. Maybe someday you'll be ready to stop sucking your thumb for your own reasons, but I find it interesting that when in the past a sub was asking how her dom could "order" her to lose weight people thought that was a bad idea cause she had to want to do it for herself yet in this case, wanting to please him should be enough. Hmmm...

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/14/2007 10:03:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I wish you luck, though until you are tired of doing it....you will not quit.  Or your drive to please will overcome everything else.

A side note though, has anyone noticed how many are coming forward and saying they still suck their thumbs into their 20's?  Is this a new thing?  I'd be interested in how many people who are 30 and over still suck their thumbs.
The reason I am asking is because I do not suck my thumb, never did.  My parents simply didn't put up with it, never the habit take hold. Mind you, I was never abused, I was simply taught to do behave.  My children don't suck their thumbs either, same principle applied.

Thanks to those who answer...

Jennifer

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/15/2007 12:20:20 AM   
kate


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Status: offline 		i haven't heard any Dominant people say they do it eather...i think it might be a sub "thing"....perhaps it goes along with the mindset....

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/15/2007 12:26:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PandorasInspratn

I wish you luck, though until you are tired of doing it....you will not quit.  Or your drive to please will overcome everything else.

A side note though, has anyone noticed how many are coming forward and saying they still suck their thumbs into their 20's?  Is this a new thing?  I'd be interested in how many people who are 30 and over still suck their thumbs.
The reason I am asking is because I do not suck my thumb, never did.  My parents simply didn't put up with it, never the habit take hold. Mind you, I was never abused, I was simply taught to do behave.  My children don't suck their thumbs either, same principle applied.

Thanks to those who answer...

Jennifer



Well, i'll be 50 next month and i still suck my thumb (although it has lessened on its own from when i was younger).  i have 3 kids....none of them sucked their thumbs.  And it's not like they ever started and then had to stop....they just never 'took to it' i guess.  In my family, my 3 older brothers did not suck their thumbs (to my knowledge) but my younger brother and i did. 
 
Is this a new thing?  lol...i don't think so.  i just think that the subject just doesn't come up very often.
 
And i'm really not sure what the correlation is between sucking one's thumb and behaving...or did i just misunderstand something here? 
 
Daddysgirl

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/15/2007 3:26:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kate

ok, so i went to see my councelor today....he thinks he can help me... but he needs to do some research and talk to the school psycologist and a few psyc profs.  i am going to be seeing him 2 or 3 times a week for a while till i get it under controll....he thinks that if i can controll this can controll everything in my life like my drinking and over eating and overall addictive personality....so....this is good....but it's going to take a lot of sessions..i'm just glad they are free through my school


Well, you will probably see more of your counsellor than your dom, if he's away at school, so if it was me, I'd do it to *please* the counsellor.....lol

Your dom may achieve the fact that you think of him every time you find your thumb in your mouth, but it might not make you feel good.

I'd tackle the drinking and overeating first; it has obvious benefits for you, makes sense and is more pressing an issue,  leaving the thumbsucking until later.........There's a risk that you could suck your thumb more while you drink and eat less.........the other way round you may drink and eat more.

Is there a reason for not tackling those more destructive habits while leaving you with your non-destructive one as a mild crutch during?

agirl

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/15/2007 3:32:01 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: PandorasInspratn

I wish you luck, though until you are tired of doing it....you will not quit.  Or your drive to please will overcome everything else.

A side note though, has anyone noticed how many are coming forward and saying they still suck their thumbs into their 20's?  Is this a new thing?  I'd be interested in how many people who are 30 and over still suck their thumbs.
The reason I am asking is because I do not suck my thumb, never did.  My parents simply didn't put up with it, never the habit take hold. Mind you, I was never abused, I was simply taught to do behave.  My children don't suck their thumbs either, same principle applied.

Thanks to those who answer...

Jennifer



I'm almost 50 and still suck my thumb.

Thumbsucking isn't *naughty* for adults or children.

agirl

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/15/2007 4:48:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

wear rubber gloves.  The taste will make you stop VERY quickly. Preferably the ones with the powder.  It wont hurt you, but the taste is aweful and it will not be a taste you can get around and ignore eventually. I used this to keep from chewing on my fingers, I dont bite my nails I chewed my fingertips bloody and didnt even know it. I had a doctor suggest the rubber gloves, at first it was al the tie, then eventualy it was only necessary when I was at home and had to much time on my hands.  Now, thankfully, I dont do it anymore.

DV


Actually, since most "rubber" gloves are latex, or a latex blend these days, this could hurt unless she knows she is not allergic to latex. 

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RE: hard habbit to break - 2/15/2007 6:44:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

tapeing ones mouth shut for sleep is one of the worst ideas I have ever heard you want to suffocate???? you just cant count that your nose wont get blockedd ot stuffed up during the night aspecialy if you snore

Magik's slave

I've slept with duct tape over my mouth and never experienced any problems.
Of course I never did this when I was stuffy or had a cold or anything.
Short of illness or a deviated septum it's relatively safe even though it's strange.
I asked my GYN about this very thing last year and her biggest concern was the tape irritating my skin from the glue, not me suffocating.
I personally get off on being bound in my sleep in many ways.
So far other than taping my mouth and having my hands tied together I've not been permitted any deeper experiences.
One of my idols is a woman who's chained to her bed by her ankle every night.
Every time I think about that I get all excited inside.
You're correct in the notion most people seem to shy away from any forms of bondage during sleep.
One day I hope to be able to be chained to my bed on a regular basis, lol but first I have to reach the point I'm spending the whole night in someone's bed.
suzanne

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