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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

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ORIGINAL: kate

i did not want to quit before He asked me to....i actually quite like it...that's what makes it hard..... but i DO want to do it to please him

I'm probably going to get blasted for this one but my advice to you here would to consider whether or not giving up thumb sucking just because your dom wants you to is what is right for you. As others (agirl) have mentioned, it's not harming you, not disrupting your life, not embarressing anyone since you only do it in private while alone, and I am certain that there are much bigger issues in your life to work on. I know that everyone likes to think that all subs should just jump at the chance to please their doms and something as simple and straightforward as giving up thumb sucking should be easy enough, right? But in the grand scheme of things, how is it going to affect your life? Are you going to feel stressed out more by trying to stop? Are you going to feel guilty when, while trying to stop, you slip up and do it? Is it going to become a point of contention between you and your dom where you are "good" if you're not doing it and "bad" if you are? How big of a deal is it really? And is he doing that whole "because I'm the dom and I say so thing" without taking all of these points into consideration? No matter what, you are still ultimately in charge of yourself and if this order from him is causing you undue trouble then it's YOU who has to tell him, "hey, I know it means a lot to you, but here's the deal..." Relationships are not static, there is usually a bit of back and forth and negotiation taking place as people learn more about each other. Maybe someday you'll be ready to stop sucking your thumb for your own reasons, but I find it interesting that when in the past a sub was asking how her dom could "order" her to lose weight people thought that was a bad idea cause she had to want to do it for herself yet in this case, wanting to please him should be enough. Hmmm...