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puella -> RE: Dominant Asking For Submissive to Be BiSexual (2/18/2007 5:01:40 AM)
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Hello juliaoceania,
Interesting topic...I am not really able to post to this beyond my own personal experience as it has scored such a deep gouge in the person that I am now, so I will try to be as level headed about this as possible.
Taking all the variables you proposed into account, I think that the actual forced bisexuality is not the biggest issue which has the potential to do the most damage, in the situation. I know that it was not something I liked, it in fact it repulsed me on many levels to be forced to serve a woman, but there are many tasks a person will perform to please the person they serve, once they cross a certain threshold...
I think the crux of the problem is this, that at the very onset of a relationship, before the sub/slave is fully 'ensnared', she has a lot more room, in her head and in her heart, to define the "no's" which are a part of who she is and how she serves. In many ways, culling a submissive, if we are talking about something coming as close as possible to 'slavery' or total power exchange, can be a very slippery slope, for both partners, but I do think that the submissive at some point in that development can be brought to a point where she crosses (and perhaps chooses to cross) a very dangerous line where denying something to her dominant, no matter the cost to self , becomes such a failure in her own mind (and on so many other levels) that 'no' is not an option she can even fathom exercising anymore.
There are places you can go (or be led, an I am not sure this 'place' can be reached without the guidance of another) within yourself from which coming back in any sort of recognizable form is nearly impossible. Crossing that threshold is one of them.
The issue of forced bisexuality is complex because there are many other issues attached to it... is he introducing another woman as a full partner into the relationship, thus introducing an initially unbargained for poly situation on the 'snared' sub? Will the new female component be submissive as well or will she be a female dominant, thus forcing another 'service contract' upon the submissive? Do the women like each other at all? Does it matter to the Dom if they do not? Where will punishment lie if failure at this attempted 'relationship' is all that is achieved?
I think anything can be tolerated in small doses, especially if a submissive sees that what might be hurtful or repulsive to her is something which brings great pleasure to her dominant. I do not know that that is healthy in the long run, however. Perhaps there is no reason why it shouldn't be, but I know that for me, it is not something I have been at all successful in coming to terms with in failure and release, and it has let deep scars, deep impressions.
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