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Were it I, being the bitch I can be and all , I don't know that they would be invited to the next function. Considering the way they have behaved with this one.

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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

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Were it I, being the bitch I can be and all , I don't know that they would be invited to the next function. Considering the way they have behaved with this one.

Well, yes... and if this were a "private" affair wherein the Kaptin and I had personally issued invitations, I'd be sorely tempted to disinvite them from future parties.  However, given that this is a group endeavor, and they are group members, they - along with the other 80 members - have a standing invitation to every event the group puts on - from discussions to play parties to demos to whatever other event we want to plan.  They've also been invited to plan a Gorean-protocol event wherein attendees would be required to adhere to THEIR style of protocol (no response from them on that subject thus far).  We are, after all, all about education and growth as slaves and Masters, and most of us are open to whatever it is someone wants to teach us.  We believe any knowledge gained will only enhance our personal relationships.

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how you make them little box thingys around the quotes..........cause i am like dense, haha.

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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

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how you make them little box thingys around the quotes..........cause i am like dense, haha.

Highlight what you want to quote, right click, copy, then go to the post you're writing, right click again and paste.  Then highlight the text one more time, and click the quote icon (to the right of the "font face" and "size" drop-boxes).   Then just type your reply.

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You can also just hit "quote" in the top right hand corner of their post box. Then, edit out the stuff you don't want.
Type your response after it.
 I am nothing if not lazy.   hehe .....

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ORIGINAL: cjenny

Or, hehe. I just click 'quote' on the person I am quoting then type below the last [quote/] thingy.

< Lazy typist.

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And you would know this, how, exactly?   To my knowledge, we have never met, nor have I had any conversation of any type with you wherein I disclosed what my kinks are or are not.  Although I must say the personal affronts you're attempting here are very revealing.

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What... you don't read?  I specifically stated the "information session" is a full TWO MONTHS PRIOR to the event.  No one has "invited" or "uninvited" anyone for any reason, and the alternatives you offered, for many, many reasons, are not acceptable or reasonable given the nature of the event being planned.   

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And I have repeatedly explained exactly why "changing" this event is neither practical nor preferable.  It is a Victorian-themed event, with Victorian-era protocol and Victorian-era service.  What part of this are you failing to comprehend?  Or are you merely looking for something you can use in your continued attempts to insult me?  It seems to me that you equate "service" with something sexual.  For myself, and the rest of those attending this event thus far, it is far from it.  If I were treating service as something not important, why on god's green earth would I be busting my ass to coordinate an event focused ENTIRELY on domestic service? 

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You asked me why I would take offense to serving this submissive.  Here's your answer:  Because this event IS about service, every slave and submissive who attends will be, for all practical purposes, a servant.  Servants serve.  They don't sit in the parlor or living room and socialize.  And they certainly don't dine in the formal dining room with the Masters.  Even if I were to tell them both to attend, in the era we're recreating for this event, even a visiting servant would not have the right to be in the public areas of the house.  It has nothing to do with whether or not we are friends, and everything to do with upholding the structure THE GROUP has already determined for the event.  Not to mention the fact that I'd then have a half dozen slaves asking why this one slave is getting "preferential treatment," when the rest of us are sitting down to soup and salad in the kitchen - long after the Masters have finished dessert.
 
In closing, I'm finding your judgments of me fascinating.  You've maybe understood half of what's been said here, put your own extremely self-centered "I'm not serving anyone but my Master" spin on it, and declared ME self-centered and inflexible!  But that's ok. We'll just go with that, because with THIS event, on THIS weekend, I AM inflexible.  I have to be.  Otherwise it won't be the weekend the group intended it to be, and I'll have a whole lot more unhappy members than just this one couple to deal with. 

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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

Man, I need to be posting here more often...
 
Anyway... I have a small problem.  I am president of a local group, and we have a core membership of five or six couples who attend every event.  One of these couples is Gorean, and we are the first real-life group the slave in this couple has ever been involved with.  The dilemma is this:
 
We have been planning an event wherein, because this is what Master and I prefer to practice in our household, we will be following Victorian-style protocol.  This is something with which most members are not familiar, and we're viewing the event as a learning experience.  We've even got a protocol expert coming in before the event to speak on this specific style of behavior.  Everyone is thrilled about the event.  Everyone, that is, except the Gorean couple.
 
I have been deluged with questions and comments that I'm finding extremely offensive.  The event has been referred to as nothing more than "a fancy dinner," because part of it will involve the slaves serving a 7-course meal.  It's been referred to as mere "role-play."  I've even been asked by this slave, "What's in it for the slaves?"  That one I don't understand at all.  And this couple is complaining because we have decided that the dungeon will not be open for this event, because it's not about sex and play, but about service.
 
I've told them they are under no obligation to attend, and I have attempted to explain what I feel the slaves "get" out of the event - a sense of pride in knowing they have served well, a strengthened bond with the other slaves in the group, and an opportunity to learn something new being the biggest benefits. 
 
I simply don't understand where these people are coming from.  I don't get it.  I mean, it's perfectly all right if something is not for you, but why the need to diminish and insult?