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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/22/2007 11:20:57 PM   
duckykarma


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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/22/2007 11:21:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CrazyC

But i demand that my Dom be perfect! He should be able to know every thought, and finish my sentances. He should bring me breakfast in bed and provide everything for me....and if he can't. Then he shouldn't demand sex from me. hehehe


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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/22/2007 11:27:58 PM   
CrazyC


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Status: offline 		Umm yea....what chapter in the Great Book was that? I am sure there is a proper way for demanding all these things. hehehe

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 12:20:29 AM   
scottjk


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bastardandthewen

i think flat top is a buzzcut, like those sported by millitary men.


Mmmm, maybe...

Here: http://www.pathguy.com/flattop.htm

Maybe I should get one? I almost have one as it is...



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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 4:47:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		If you don't like their beginning negotiations, why are you contacting them?

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 5:11:49 AM   
Mustardseed


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Status: offline 		People have hard limits for any number of reasons:  past trauma, physical inability, phobia and just flat-out personal distate for an activity.  While it might take longer for these people to find a match, once they do they should be pretty much set.

I went to see a couple of Midori workshops this past weekend.  (She claims to detest the long checklists that really don't tell her much about a person, bore her to tears and make her eyes blur -- she'd rather read a written introduction that was catered to her.)  One of her statements that I loved was to ask, "What are your hard limits tonight?" 

While it hasn't been my experience that her general metric is accurate -- that hard limits tend to last about 6 months -- I think it's a good question to keep in mind.  In the small circle in which I play, I've certainly seen people turn "I would never ..." into "Well, yeah ... once I realized I could do it this way, I got into it."  Not everyone I know, and certainly not with every hard limit they had ... but it's been known to happen.

I suspect that a demanding sub is doing exactly what they're supposed to be doing:  protecting themsevles emotionally, physically and mentally for their current or future dominant.  If there's something they know that they just can't handle, they're likely not going to advertise to any random browser that a certain activity might be okay if they were properly persuaded.  Unless, in my experience, they're either desperate or have really bad boundaries.

The nice thing about the checklists is that they're also doing what they're supposed to be doing:  narrowing down the playing field for everyone so that they have a chance to find their ideal partners.  You're not the ideal dom for these submissives, and they're not the ideal subs for you.  Now you know.

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 5:34:58 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

If you don't like their beginning negotiations, why are you contacting them?

Master Fire



Because she knows that buzzed around the ears with it long in back thing will have her melting into a puddle of subliness in no time.

Duh.

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 5:39:06 AM   
Sinergy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mustardseed

The nice thing about the checklists is that they're also doing what they're supposed to be doing:  narrowing down the playing field for everyone so that they have a chance to find their ideal partners.  You're not the ideal dom for these submissives, and they're not the ideal subs for you.  Now you know.



The problem that I personally have with checklists is that I want somebody I can have a conversation with about things apart from sex and "kneel bitch."

Sometimes I feel the need to have an intellectual argument over the value of correlated vs. uncorrelated radiocarbon dating, why the Easter Islanders decided to cut down all of the trees on the island, and whether the Earth will run into Apothsis in 2026.

Just me, probably wrong, but there you go.

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 5:39:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		If you are looking for someone online, that is what you get. Personally I don't bother because my instinct tells me the majority are playing out a fantasy online and would never meet when it comes to the crunch.

One thing I have never understood is why look for a BDSM partner online when the best place to go is munches, fetish fairs, clubs etc. If one is looking for a serious relationship to have kinky sex, its hardly BDSM in my book and most vanilla women enjoy a trip down perversion lane in my experience. Actually the most reluctant ironically, are those that call themselves subs.

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 5:52:22 AM   
ELUSIVE1


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ahhh y'all are pickin on the 'flat tops'..I had an encounter with a Dom sporting a Flat top....he was more fun than one body should have...mullets are a hard limit for me however....


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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 6:33:33 AM   
StellaByStarlite


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Status: offline 		Hello. =)
 
Well, I'll already with a feller, but if I put up a list of qualifications on the profile, here's what they would be:
 
-own no less then two Sealy Posturepedic queen-sized mattresses.
-knowing at least one recipe for sauerbraten by heart and be able to recite it backwards.
-have a completely stocked medicine cabinet, alphabetized
-have a tattoo of Gary the Snail, on his back, in color
-know how to channel the spirits of dead houseplants for fun and profit
-be able to recall in detail where he was and what he was doing when the movie " Clueless" first came out
-like cats
 
 
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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 6:38:06 AM   
puella


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Status: offline 		Yes.. there is nothing more emasculating and threatening to your very domly nature than a woman who knows and defines her boundaries as she has come to identify them through the course being knocked about in life.  The fact that they may be limits for a very good reason is totally inconsequential to the fact that it is terribly unbecoming in a doormat...er submissive.

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 6:43:17 AM   
DDDesiree


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You have perfect insight and a wonderful way of putting things.  This is exactly how I feel about submission.  The Dom should know exactly how I feel, and I should expect nothing less than what I want.  Thank you for such an eloquent explanation!
OH, and I am NOT vanilla...
ddd

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 6:54:18 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		I find it amazing that you are getting all these subs begging for the privilege of pleasing you when everyone knows that it is rare for males to get any email or any responses.

I'm sure you think this will get every sub on the site to rush to read your profile and email you but it won't. And this isn't the place to put a personal ad.

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 7:07:34 AM   
kinkiminx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: meatcleaver

If you are looking for someone online, that is what you get. Personally I don't bother because my instinct tells me the majority are playing out a fantasy online and would never meet when it comes to the crunch.

One thing I have never understood is why look for a BDSM partner online when the best place to go is munches, fetish fairs, clubs etc. If one is looking for a serious relationship to have kinky sex, its hardly BDSM in my book and most vanilla women enjoy a trip down perversion lane in my experience. Actually the most reluctant ironically, are those that call themselves subs.


Hmmm you don't live in the same place as me - I hate trying to chat to people online, it's not my thing at all, but if you've been to any of the events near me... you'll know what I mean, and wherever you are, meeting a person is one thing. Meeting someone you really get on with is something alltogether different.

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 7:25:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		SOME of u guys kill me. ever think of reading a post and taking it at face value rather trying to figure out how to misunderstand it and post some sort of combative response? i made an observation after reading some comically demanding ads from subs. for all i know the dom ads r jus as bad but i didn't look at those. i love it when subs know what they want, but some remind me of when u go to a garage sale and someone has priced a cracked plastic saucer at $5 and gets snippy when questioned as to y. 

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 7:29:31 AM   
azzmaster


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Status: offline 		another cutious thing i noticed, is that the more desirable subs also seemed to be more reasonable. the really out there ads were all from women that were old, severely obese, odd looking faces and living somewhere in a small town. i cannot say i saw any ads from male subs that seemed out of line

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 7:34:52 AM   
meatcleaver


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kinkiminx

Hmmm you don't live in the same place as me - I hate trying to chat to people online, it's not my thing at all, but if you've been to any of the events near me... you'll know what I mean, and wherever you are, meeting a person is one thing. Meeting someone you really get on with is something alltogether different.


I live in Amsterdam so I guess it is easy for me to talk. I live in the middle of clubs and bars and there are a lot of tourists in town looking for a good time so I'm always meeting new people.

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 7:47:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CrazyC

But i demand that my Dom be perfect! He should be able to know every thought, and finish my sentances. He should bring me breakfast in bed and provide everything for me....and if he can't. Then he shouldn't demand sex from me. hehehe


~shudders~...yanno, it is just a bit scarey though as to how many vanilla women use that paragraph...or something very akin to it.

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RE: Demanding Subs!!! - 2/23/2007 8:13:19 AM   
moki1984


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Status: offline 		some subs do have situations which "change" things up a bit. I personally am one of them, but just because someone has a "special situation" does not mean they should just walk away head held low and not look for a dom. Some people like the special situations...they create a challenge

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