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Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 7:45:28 AM

MasterChav

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I keep an eye on the list of female subs on this site and the thing that strikes me the most that I see the same names over and over again. I read their profiles and they are actively looking for owners / Doms / Masters etc and have very attractive profiles and most attractive pictures, too.

So why haven't they found anyone? Some have signup dates that are months old and they must have received 100s of offers yet they're still here? Are they too fussy? Are they Timewasters or made-up profiles? Or out of all the offers they must have received are there really no suitable Doms?

What's going on? And before someone says "maybe they're just looking for friends", I'm talking about the femsubs who state on their profile that they are looking for Doms, owners, etc.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 7:49:00 AM

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They are too fussy and I can only service so many at once.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 7:50:55 AM

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Lol! So many slaves, so little time, eh?

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 7:53:18 AM

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No actually, so many idiots...so many women with class and taste.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 7:56:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterChav

I keep an eye on the list of female subs on this site and the thing that strikes me the most that I see the same names over and over again. I read their profiles and they are actively looking for owners / Doms / Masters etc and have very attractive profiles and most attractive pictures, too.

So why haven't they found anyone? Some have signup dates that are months old and they must have received 100s of offers yet they're still here? Are they too fussy? Are they Timewasters or made-up profiles? Or out of all the offers they must have received are there really no suitable Doms?

What's going on? And before someone says "maybe they're just looking for friends", I'm talking about the femsubs who state on their profile that they are looking for Doms, owners, etc.

Great thread! I wish my first post had touched on a question that I'm sure so many others have asked!!

I think most of the women out here are actually not looking, are really men...Or perhaps they have some sort of fungus. I really have no idea but keep your eyes and your heart open and I'm sure you will find the gal of your dreams...Also make sure you get a Jewel card to be able to save on the preferred customer savings.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:04:39 AM

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i have found in my search there are many Doms/Masters here who wish submission but do not offer protection, some who think i should support them financially and submit to them, many who are married, many who lie, many who wish for me to meet them at their homes or hotels, who do not understand this is not safe or smart.
we are not too "fussy" , we do not ask for too much, i seek protection, to be safe, to be charished,

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:13:33 AM

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Hello MasterChav,

As a single submissive, let me put in my two cents, for what it is worth. I do not need a man or a dominant to validate who I am. I certainly do not need the wrong man taking a position of control over me. I am perfectly capable of handling my own life and living well without some random domly sort just there because ...

Many, and I am one of them, will argue that it is a far wiser choice to live and grow as an individual than to partner yourself up out of some sort of desperation or, heaven forbid, peer pressure.

Quite simply... I am not willing to hand over my life to some guy just because some people find it unfathomable that I can be both submissive and single.

Too fussy?? Perhaps, however, I have had my whole life tossed upside down by a poor decision before, and I learned from that mistake. Do you have any idea how costly it is to a submissive to surrender profoundly and give up your entire life to a person, just to have that foundation rot away?

The damage and destruction is immeasurable, and some of it can not be recouped.

Better to be fussy, and to not settle... settling is demeaning to both partners in a relationship and will only lead to sadness.

I do wonder at your question though… It makes me wonder why you think being careful and selective (fussy) is unbecoming in a submissive? Perhaps submissives have no right to value themselves and their livelihoods too highly?

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:14:06 AM

MasterChav

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To answer that I will blow my own trumpet here. Last year a slave came to me who was going through a crisis in her life. She needed a 24/7 Master to give her the life and shelter she needed. I was not able to provide that but I did take her under my wing, looked after while she went through a traumatic, life changing period including major surgery, family rejection and emotional breakdown. She was still my slave and served me to her fullest capability as was her overwhelming desire and need to. When she at last found her 24/7 Master I was happy to hand her over to her new owner and the 3 of us are still great friends. I took her in (but not to my home full time), trained her, saved her life and delivered her in a handing over ceremony to the man who nows owns her.

Other girls I have just had bondage and kinky sex with as casual play partners. So it varies. If you have the same question as I have about "unclaimed femsubs" then be aware - not all of us are timewasters or clueless novices.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:18:26 AM

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LOL wow could this thread be any more obviously a "Come to me and I will make all your worries disappear" ad?

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:19:45 AM

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And they are oh so appealing and the OP wonders why there are single submissives who are still looking. i think he answered his own question.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:19:55 AM

MasterChav

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quote:

ORIGINAL: puella
I do wonder at your question though… It makes me wonder why you think being careful and selective (fussy) is unbecoming in a submissive? Perhaps submissives have no right to value themselves and their livelihoods too highly?

Perhaps I did not come across as I intended. The real question is my last one: "Or out of all the offers they must have received are there really no suitable Doms?"

True, there do seem to be many who are not genuine profiles but from what I can gather from the correspondence I have had with real women on here it's that many so-called Doms are not worth bothering with. And that is what I suspected all along.

I understand completely that if you're looking for a long-term Dom or Master you have to be extremely careful who you choose. Casual play partners less so but it's still an important choice that can go wrong.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:21:25 AM

MasterChav

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

LOL wow could this thread be any more obviously a "Come to me and I will make all your worries disappear" ad?

Quite the opposite. I have someone already and I'm going away next week for a while so even if a someone wrote to me I wouldn't be in a position to take them on. So don't be so cynical, please.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:22:43 AM

puella

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I believe the fact that they are still not in a relationship answers your question.. yes.. they have not met one who for what ever reason, they feel comfortable surrendering to.

Entering into a relationship has to work on many levels, not just the labelling.. me Dom, you sub... that reasoning is less than sophomoric.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:25:04 AM

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We're all waiting for you to finish with your current mission so you can save our lives too.

Please hurry!

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:25:51 AM

LotusSong

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterChav

I keep an eye on the list of female subs on this site and the thing that strikes me the most that I see the same names over and over again. I read their profiles and they are actively looking for owners / Doms / Masters etc and have very attractive profiles and most attractive pictures, too.

So why haven't they found anyone? Some have signup dates that are months old and they must have received 100s of offers yet they're still here? Are they too fussy? Are they Timewasters or made-up profiles? Or out of all the offers they must have received are there really no suitable Doms?

What's going on? And before someone says "maybe they're just looking for friends", I'm talking about the femsubs who state on their profile that they are looking for Doms, owners, etc.

It could be anything..maybe they spit when they talk, hygiene problems, or mental disorders.. but rest assured. its always someone ELSE'S fault.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:25:54 AM

puella

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heheh stef,

thanks for the chuckle!

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:27:42 AM

MasterChav

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quote:

ORIGINAL: stef

We're all waiting for you to finish with your current mission so you can save our lives too.

Please hurry!

~stef

Lol! Be patient, little one, your turn will come!

But seriously, I was only illustrating by example. There's no need to make fun of what was at the time a very serious situation for my former slave.

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:29:54 AM

DixonTSmiss

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seems lot of lesbian submissives do not trust a dominatrix transexual such as myself

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:30:00 AM

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Like in any environment finding a match that fits is difficult.

Adding not only the pursuit of someone who you're attracted to that matches your vanilla interests, with the notion you want someone to match you in BDSM attributes, and sexual desires on top of the geography & underlying basic needs to be matched with someone who sees the world from the same angle as you, and it's very hard to find someone who fits.

Believe me many Doms and subs spend years searching for the one who will fit into the life of another is never easy.

I think online communications only complicate an already complicated situation as so many people lie and deceive people about who they are trying to pretend they match what you seek it makes people less trusting of online contacts to start with.

There's no magic button to make your one show up today.
Many people search for years before they find one they are willing to risk a full relationship with.
I'm sort of surprised you don't understand that.

I think those who accept the first offer that comes along out of loneliness trying to force a fit also keep coming back when the wrong relationships end due to irreconcilable differences.

Believe me most people are not happy they are still looking either, but it's the way it goes and till the right person is found it's only expected they'll keep looking.
suzanne

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RE: Why are there female subs who are STILL looking? - 2/27/2007 8:31:06 AM

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Wow. Do you know how difficult it is to find a good vanilla guy? It's 1,000 times more difficult finding a good Dom. I fear it is impossible. ::sob::

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