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sincere or not - 3/1/2007 11:28:06 AM   
TantricOne


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Status: offline 		Have been on this site for some few years, was wondering why so many subs that are supposedly seeking a dom can't even reply to something as simple as a "hello", yes I have had some reply, from those who are sincere, but in the bigger view, do a lot of the "subs seeking dominant males" even really belong here? I think not, because they are claiming to be something they're not, as are the so-called dominants that use the lifestyle as an excuse to be cruel or players.............
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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 11:33:07 AM   
FukinTroll


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Status: offline 		Do you have any idea how much mail sub/slaves get?
 
That is why my policy is they Must contact me first!

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 11:36:39 AM   
KatyLied


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quote:

why so many subs that are supposedly seeking a dom can't even reply to something as simple as a "hello"


collarme translator:

no reply =  I am not interested, please go away


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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 11:40:29 AM   
drawntothedark


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And you would know they do not belong here and are not "real" submissives because you are the expert on such things?

It would be polite to respond back to emails, however, submissives get a ton of mail. Sometimes we do not have time . Sometimes people are just rude or annoying or other stuff and we don't reply (We just go ahead and block then).

Calling someone not real because you struck out with them doesn't make much sence to me.

Oops I was replying to Tantric........not you Troll ;)

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 11:43:46 AM   
stef


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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 11:45:18 AM   
FukinTroll


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ORIGINAL: stef

Oh boy, a tantric tantrum!

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 11:58:26 AM   
sisambergris


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TantricOne

Have been on this site for some few years, was wondering why so many subs that are supposedly seeking a dom can't even reply to something as simple as a "hello", yes I have had some reply, from those who are sincere, but in the bigger view, do a lot of the "subs seeking dominant males" even really belong here? I think not, because they are claiming to be something they're not, as are the so-called dominants that use the lifestyle as an excuse to be cruel or players.............


If you only knew how many subs (and from experience I will say women)  get so much mail they can't even read it all.  And a good percentage of them are from people who never bothered to read your description of yourself.   whew.
I would chalk it up to not the right person or right time if I was you.  Please don't be insulted if they don't answer.  Be relieved that someone who did not resonate with you didn't answer.  
I know I have been so overwhelmed with mail lately (especially right when I got involved with someone) that it took up enough time to eat into other stuff.

Respectfully,
Amber


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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 12:04:27 PM   
FiretheAngel


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Status: offline 		Geepers you finally figured the big secret out.  All the subs are really doms and all the doms are really servers that hate their parents. *teehee
*bush....and its not about control (everyone has it) its about sex. 

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 12:07:21 PM   
GanizSub


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Status: offline 		You can not say a sub/slave does not belong. Many dom's don't even read the sub/slave profile and when the sub/slave reads his profile and it is not what the person is looking for why should she respond. Another thing that gets to me some dom's have mannar worst than a cave man, so why should I respond to a dom who acts like a cave man.

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 12:07:23 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

was wondering why so many subs that are supposedly seeking a dom can't even reply to something as simple as a "hello"


How much effort did it take to write "hello"? So basically submissives are supposed to exert effort to email someone that did not do more than email them "hello". I have always found one word emails one of the most annoying kind of all.. things like "ur cute", "hi", "whata babe!" tended to get deleted and no response, if a person puts no effort into life they get nothing back... just the way it is.

Even if a person composes a detailed and personalized email they are not guaranteed a response from a stranger, but it does increase the likelihood of it.

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 12:09:15 PM   
hisannabelle


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TantricOne

Have been on this site for some few years, was wondering why so many subs that are supposedly seeking a dom can't even reply to something as simple as a "hello", yes I have had some reply, from those who are sincere, but in the bigger view, do a lot of the "subs seeking dominant males" even really belong here? I think not, because they are claiming to be something they're not, as are the so-called dominants that use the lifestyle as an excuse to be cruel or players.............


your profile's mention of this, and of talking on the phone, actually turned me off to the idea of responding to you if you'd emailed me...mainly because one of my pet peeves is bitching about not getting a response to email, and the other one is expecting that i will automatically want to talk on the phone with you. many submissives who are seeking dominants don't respond because they're busy people with lives, or because they see something in your profile that is a deal-breaker for them. why not just take a lack of response as a "no thanks," move over it, and get on with your life? you'll save yourself a lot of heartache that way.

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 12:09:57 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GanizSub
Another thing that gets to me some dom's have mannar worst than a cave man, so why should I respond to a dom who acts like a cave man.


"Collarme.com............ so easy a caveman can do it!"


Ahem, sorry......... was having a Geico moment.

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 12:32:49 PM   
marieToo


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Status: offline 		We get so much mail it's not even funny.  Some are very nice too.

I used to respond to all the polite ones even if I wasn't interested, but there;s so many of them that it starts to feel like a part-time job after a while.

Unfortunately,  few dominant males really 'get it'.  (In my experience anyway).

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 12:43:38 PM   
ArgoGeorgia


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Status: offline 		I'm not sure what the ratio here is, but at some other dating/personal sites it is like 10 men to every one woman.  At first I was continually disappointed that I would not get replies.  But, when I realized that they were overwhelmed with shear volume I didn't take it personally.  After that I started trying for quality since I imagine the women are getting plenty of quantity.  Sometimes it works, most of the times it doesn't. 

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 12:55:13 PM   
rascallymisty


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Status: offline 		Good, bad or in different, if some writes hello I send back a hello. To me its just good manners.....its like if someone said hi on the street I would say hi back......many times from those simple words great convos have been started.
 
I have had just as many rude message as I have good ones, they get back a message saying, sorry we can not all be the cup of tea you seek...or something along those lines.
 
I guess I have been one of the lucky few.......every message I have sent out no matter how simple it was I have always gotten a response back, so I make sure I do the same.
 
~ misty ~

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 12:56:24 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TantricOne

Have been on this site for some few years, was wondering why so many subs that are supposedly seeking a dom can't even reply to something as simple as a "hello", yes I have had some reply, from those who are sincere, but in the bigger view, do a lot of the "subs seeking dominant males" even really belong here? I think not, because they are claiming to be something they're not, as are the so-called dominants that use the lifestyle as an excuse to be cruel or players.............


If you're passing someone in the street and tip your hat and say hello, you'll probably get a nod or a smile in response, then you go about your business and keep walking. You don't stop that person and engage them in conversation.

On the net though, giving that nod or smile in response seems to be an invitation to start a conversation, so a lot of us learn (quickly) it's better not to appear to open a door to a conversation you don't want to have with someone. Honestly, if you wrote 'hello' in an email and someone responds back with 'hi', do you leave it at that and move on? If you do, what was the point in writing an email just to say 'hi' in the first place? If not, then do you feel justified in taking their time because they were polite in responding and you got your foot in the door?

Multiply that by 50.

Now double that.

Can you keep up with 100 different people emailing you every day.. 99% of whom won't be compatible or would you rather be more selective in whom you choose to engage in conversation? (One wonders how many submissives you're writing to and how special you think each one is if all they get from you is a simple 'hello'.)

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Dom person: "Hello"

Sub person: "Hi"

Dom person: "How are you?"

Sub person: "Fine, thanks. Yourself?"

Dom person: "I'm good. Got a pic?"



~~~~~~

Dom person: "Hello."

Sub person: "Hi."

Dom person: "So, what are you looking for?"

Sub person: "Nothing. I have a Master already just like it states in my profile."

Dom person: "What the fuck are you doing here then?!"

~~~~~~

Dom person: "Hello"

Sub person: "Hi."

Dom person: "Thanks for responding, do you have MSN?"

Sub person: "Yes, but I don't give the address out to strangers."

Dom person: "You're a cunt."


Those are fairly typical and I would bet dollars to donuts that some of the submissives on this site will be able to confirm they have gotten emails just like or very similar to the examples I've listed above.

Of course, there could be other reasons as well, but basically, if someone doesn't respond to your 'hello' chalk it up to all the people who came before you with the same line.

It didn't work for them, it doesn't work for you and it's not going to work for the people who come after you.

Such is life on the net.

Celeste

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 1:01:47 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Dom person: "Hello"

Sub person: "Hi."

Dom person: "Thanks for responding, do you have MSN?"

Sub person: "Yes, but I'd rather pm here."

Dom person: "I expect you to add me to your list, otherwise you're not a real sub and you don't understand what submission means."

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 1:09:21 PM   
toservez


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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

was wondering why so many subs that are supposedly seeking a dom can't even reply to something as simple as a "hello"


How much effort did it take to write "hello"? So basically submissives are supposed to exert effort to email someone that did not do more than email them "hello". I have always found one word emails one of the most annoying kind of all.. things like "ur cute", "hi", "whata babe!" tended to get deleted and no response, if a person puts no effort into life they get nothing back... just the way it is.

Even if a person composes a detailed and personalized email they are not guaranteed a response from a stranger, but it does increase the likelihood of it.


That sums it up nicely.

No effort on your part equals no effort on my part.

The comment on courtesy of a reply in your profile is just an added incentive not to reply with a no thanks reply. Courtesy is a two way street and a copy and paste form message or a one line message is not courteous to the women on here. Looking for a sincere person wanting to put in the effort, need to do it yourself.

Very simple if you are not getting the results you want, do not lash outward but look within yourself. Try changing your profile and initial message. Positive attracts and negative repels.




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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 1:11:15 PM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		Dom person: "Hello"

Sub person: "Hello"

Dom person: "I really like your corset. Do you have any nude pics?"

Sub person: "No. Just that one."

Dom person: "Then how am I supposed to decide if you will suit me?"

Sub person: delete and block

Who needs that? I have more value than my face or my ability to do IM porn.

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RE: sincere or not - 3/1/2007 1:17:35 PM   
oblige


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Status: offline 		Being new here, i have tried to politely respond to some of the most sincere seeming Doms. It is proving to be a daunting task. All i know so far is that Doms who whine or offer little information are not likely to get any response from me. Just an observation... i do know from online dating etc, that while there are more women on the planet, there are less of us with the time or willingness to be "oh so polite" to the larger quantity of Men. It probably does indeed feel unfair to You at times, but it is what it is--a numbers stiuation. Best wishes, ~oblige 

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