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RE: second chances? - 3/17/2007 7:52:12 AM

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read My post on March Roll Call and I'll let you know how things turn out...

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RE: second chances? - 3/17/2007 8:01:26 AM

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There's been some subs in the past that had potential and it ended. Perhaps I dismissed too easily or was too demanding up front and they got overwhelmed.

I'm still in touch with a couple and think about trying them again. Goes against my dom side to ever forgive and forget.

Have you taken back a sub? Was it worth it? Did work out in the end?

You either dumped them prematurely or overwhelmed them yet you state that it goes against your nature to forgive & forget... seems that faults may be placed on the wrong individuals.

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RE: second chances? - 3/17/2007 10:03:25 AM

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There's a sub that used to serve me for years that now wants another chance. When we split several years ago, he was in service to another within a month. I know the Domme in question in passing - he never told her that we'd just split and he tried many times to vent to her about how "cold" I was because I wouldn't make him my primary partner. He became obsessed with her, and she booted him for being too demanding and needy of her time.

Fast forward two years; he's been playing the field, switching, etc - but primarily he's found that it's NOT easy to find a Domme, so now he's groveling to me again. I will pass.

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RE: second chances? - 3/18/2007 11:47:54 AM

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Thank you all for your (mostly) sincere replies. I"m not a troll - I created this screen name since I had cancelled my last. Within 2 days I was overwhelmed with 4 pages of emails so I hid my profile Does anyone know of a way to have one on the boards side and keep the other one hidden? Anyway...

Having said that, I'm not all that experienced - have spoken with many subs that sounded great but then didn't follow through, amongst the tons of them that were just not compatible. So for me to find one that I was not only compatible but attracted to was compelling. He's a newbie so I"m cutting some slack and giving a 2nd chance. Much like another said - they figure out it's much harder for them to find a domme than us to find a sub. Probably will get burned in the end, again, but enjoy it until.

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RE: second chances? - 3/18/2007 12:28:00 PM

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Yes, I believe you can 'deactivate' your profile on the other side and still post over here.

Or, you can use the mail controls to filter out a lot of BS.

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RE: second chances? - 3/21/2007 3:55:42 PM

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I rarely give second chances. The sub would have to show a
understanding of both what they did wrong and how to not
do it again in the future. They would be on probationary status
if allowed a second chance.

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RE: second chances? - 3/22/2007 9:05:06 AM

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As I posted on the same subject on the "ask a master" side. Yes, there is one young lady I gave several chances. Unfortunately her baggage was too heavy for her to overcome. We are however, still friends of a sort.

I don't mind giving someone another chance if I feel so inclined, but I will be alot more watchful and quicker to react to a transgression. In other words, I will be more of a hardass bitch

No regrets, never any regrets. It's all a learning process.

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RE: second chances? - 3/22/2007 9:08:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: Vendaval

I rarely give second chances. The sub would have to show a
understanding of both what they did wrong and how to not
do it again in the future. They would be on probationary status
if allowed a second chance.

Why write it when I can say ditto?

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RE: second chances? - 3/22/2007 12:10:45 PM

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I don't give second chances. I used to, but invariably whatever they did wrong the first time, they will do again. There are only two submissives in my world who get second chances and one of them is my personal submissive. He has proved himself over and over again and if he does something that upsets me, I let him know and we move on from there. (Well, there was that one time when I physically punished him, but that was an exception) I'm still not sure why I give the other one second chances. Probably because he's so good at begging?
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RE: second chances? - 3/22/2007 12:13:51 PM

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...Does anyone know of a way to have one on the boards side and keep the other one hidden?

Actually, the one you deleted should still work on this side.

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