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Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 6:55:27 PM   
Dreamn8r


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Status: offline 		I recently sent a few messages, nothing offensive or "strange" to several submissives.. some as far back as the 8th of March..  Do you see it as showing respect by not replying to someone who shows interest in you?   Even a thanks, but no thanks.   BTW, most of these girls don't even bother to read the email, or read My profile to see what I am about.  If you want the name of these non-responsive coorespondents, so you don't have to waste your own time, PM Me.   
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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 6:58:23 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dreamn8r

I recently sent a few messages, nothing offensive or "strange" to several submissives.. some as far back as the 8th of March..  Do you see it as showing respect by not replying to someone who shows interest in you?   Even a thanks, but no thanks.   BTW, most of these girls don't even bother to read the email, or read My profile to see what I am about.  If you want the name of these non-responsive coorespondents, so you don't have to waste your own time, PM Me.   

No.

There is absolutely no obligation to respond in any way to an email from a stranger.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:06:20 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		You did get an answer, just one you don't want to accept. No answer means they aren't interested. They have no responsibility to respond to mail they didn't request.

Now for a reason why they didn't respond? Maybe they aren't interested in anyone right this minute, they're busy at work, they've met someone that they think might develop into a good relationship, their dog got sick or any other reason. But the most likely reason is that in the past they did say thanks but no thanks and somebody took umbrage to that and responded in exactly the same way you did here. Claiming they're fakes, threatening to expose them, etc.

Quite honestly I doubt any sub who had thought you might have possibilities but was still thinking about it would now be willing to talk to you. You come across as vengeful and rageful, not something a woman wants in a man who has her tied up and helpless.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:20:46 PM   
QuietlySeeking


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Status: offline 		Just a suggestion....in your profile, rather than focusing on the negatives of the "wannabes" of various kinds, why not focus on the positives of your "brand" of dominance.  The same suggestion goes for the focus on financial matters. 

Quoting from your profile...
If you are one of those psychotic, possessive, and selfish females who are unable to share life, love and the adventure of exploration and discovery.
 
Is this truly the way you want to present yourself to prospective submissives/slaves? 

How would you respond to....
 
If you are one of those mentally unstable, less than upper middle class Dominants who is unable to share His life....

And btw, complaining about a lack of response in the forums will almost guarantee that any submissive/slave who stumbles across this entry and is serious about this lifestyle will be avoiding you...

Good luck!

edited to add: And the submissive with whom I am talking has received over 45,000 views on another site, in addition to 2000 e-mails over the last six months.  She answers about 70% of those e-mails and finally decided the best policy was simply to ignore those who had the audacity to write her while ignoring the requirements in HER profile.

< Message edited by QuietlySeeking -- 3/22/2007 7:24:47 PM >

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:25:55 PM   
KatyLied


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quote:

If you want the name of these non-responsive coorespondents, so you don't have to waste your own time, PM Me


You must have a lot of time on your hands.
No response = no interest


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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:31:21 PM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43

You did get an answer, just one you don't want to accept. No answer means they aren't interested. They have no responsibility to respond to mail they didn't request.

Now for a reason why they didn't respond? Maybe they aren't interested in anyone right this minute, they're busy at work, they've met someone that they think might develop into a good relationship, their dog got sick or any other reason. But the most likely reason is that in the past they did say thanks but no thanks and somebody took umbrage to that and responded in exactly the same way you did here. Claiming they're fakes, threatening to expose them, etc.

Quite honestly I doubt any sub who had thought you might have possibilities but was still thinking about it would now be willing to talk to you. You come across as vengeful and rageful, not something a woman wants in a man who has her tied up and helpless.


Great answer!  That sorta says it all..........slave luci

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:31:53 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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ORIGINAL: Dreamn8r

I recently sent a few messages, nothing offensive or "strange" to several submissives.. some as far back as the 8th of March..  Do you see it as showing respect by not replying to someone who shows interest in you?   Even a thanks, but no thanks.   BTW, most of these girls don't even bother to read the email, or read My profile to see what I am about.  If you want the name of these non-responsive coorespondents, so you don't have to waste your own time, PM Me.   
Sighs....After reading this gem of a post, I went to your profile.Where do I start?..I have one word for you...NEGATIVITY...from beginning to end..and you wonder why you were not responded to??..There seemed to be so much anger and angst against others and what they do or say..Why??..To make you look like uberDom? and NOW!!..sheesh!..you invite people to PM you so that you can reveal these submissives screen names!..ever heard of a little word called TRUST..thus far that concept seems to of escaped you...I wish you luck in your search...however I wish the submissive that gives herself to you even more luck and maybe a huge brother who calls himself  Bubba!....Tempting

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:35:38 PM   
Dreamn8r


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Status: offline 		I would easily accept such a no-answer "answer".  Not to even bother to read one's messages..  when you CLAIM to be seeking somone.  Why bother being here?    No rage, just honesty.  As for the psychotic.  One idiot told Me I was a pedophile because I had the audacity to chat with a 27 year old then stalked Me.  So, if that doesn't fit the description, I do not know what does. 

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:37:11 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		That was my thought too.  Normally I respond to email, but in a case like this.. no chance in hades.
Kyst

quote:

ORIGINAL: Celeste43
Quite honestly I doubt any sub who had thought you might have possibilities but was still thinking about it would now be willing to talk to you.


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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:37:59 PM   
Dreamn8r


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Status: offline 		I had a "nice, gentle" profile for a long time.  What do you think it got Me?  You guessed it.  NADA.  And apparentl;y it is OK for others to express their opinions or stand for something, just not Me.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:44:20 PM   
MistressStchWich


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Status: offline 		Just like a male...you have a whine prepared for everything you aren't happy with...grow up, put on your big boy panties and play nice; or go to your corner time chair until you can share and play well with others. Gee whiz, someone get this child a diaper!

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:44:28 PM   
FukinTroll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dreamn8r

I recently sent a few messages, nothing offensive or "strange" to several submissives.. some as far back as the 8th of March..  Do you see it as showing respect by not replying to someone who shows interest in you?   Even a thanks, but no thanks.   BTW, most of these girls don't even bother to read the email, or read My profile to see what I am about.  If you want the name of these non-responsive coorespondents, so you don't have to waste your own time, PM Me.   


Let me help you with my acclaimed form letter.
 
Lytl Slut fuk’n hor bithc _______ (insert name) get on Ur Neez and beg for da my~T power od _______(insert cocks name)! U don Know chit! Onse I fuk u up da ass U will b my lil slav slut hor 4 da res of u live. Iz da uber dominate and U da cum guzzling gutter slut! U will deleat ur profyl, give me all da passwords, where my koller, and pak all u chit and movd to my hous and pay all da bills!
 
Uberific Godzilla 2 ur Tokyo dom _____________ (insert D name)
 
That will be $34.95 thank you come again.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:52:15 PM   
Dreamn8r


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Status: offline 		If I wasn't under such personal attack atm, I would find that funny, bro.  I don't do form letters.  I do ask about interests, what the girl looks for, where she sees herself in five years, and in general make friendly, pleasant comments, sometimes interjecting bits of humor.  This site has one advantage over the "dating sites" and that is that at least there ARE some real people here, not just bots or those paid to respond and feign interest.  Peace

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:53:52 PM   
MagiksSlave


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Status: offline 		um did it ever accure to you that if your messages havent even been read that the people you sent them to havent even been on or that they didnt even have time to check e-mail.. I can understand frustration if the messages where read and not repsonded to but the fact that they where never read!!!!!

Magik's slave

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:54:19 PM   
nookie


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Status: offline 		Dreamn8r,

Might I suggest that you go back to the search page and determine when the subs you sent msgs to were last online? Perhaps they haven't been here since you sent the msgs?

I will say that having read your post, if I were to receive a msg from you, I would not reply. TemptingNviceSub asked "ever heard of a little word called TRUST".

Your post here and the threat to reveal the subs names does nothing to build trust. Without it, you don't stand a chance. And with what you've threatened, I would never trust you.

Even in this thread you have not said the first positive thing about subs.

I know I wouldn't be volunteering for what promises to be a very abusive (emotionally anyway) relationship.

nookie

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:56:39 PM   
shadevarr


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dreamn8r

I recently sent a few messages, nothing offensive or "strange" to several submissives.. some as far back as the 8th of March..  Do you see it as showing respect by not replying to someone who shows interest in you?   Even a thanks, but no thanks.   BTW, most of these girls don't even bother to read the email, or read My profile to see what I am about.  If you want the name of these non-responsive coorespondents, so you don't have to waste your own time, PM Me.   


Let me help you with my acclaimed form letter.
 
Lytl Slut fuk’n hor bithc _______ (insert name) get on Ur Neez and beg for da my~T power od _______(insert cocks name)! U don Know chit! Onse I fuk u up da ass U will b my lil slav slut hor 4 da res of u live. Iz da uber dominate and U da cum guzzling gutter slut! U will deleat ur profyl, give me all da passwords, where my koller, and pak all u chit and movd to my hous and pay all da bills!
 
Uberific Godzilla 2 ur Tokyo dom _____________ (insert D name)
 
That will be $34.95 thank you come again.
 Gods, that is just great! I might habe to plagurize it in the future.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:58:11 PM   
FukinTroll


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ORIGINAL: shadevarr

Gods, that is just great! I might habe to plagurize it in the future.


That will be $34.95 thank you come again.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 7:58:49 PM   
hisannabelle


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dreamn8r

I recently sent a few messages, nothing offensive or "strange" to several submissives.. some as far back as the 8th of March..  Do you see it as showing respect by not replying to someone who shows interest in you?   Even a thanks, but no thanks.   BTW, most of these girls don't even bother to read the email, or read My profile to see what I am about.  If you want the name of these non-responsive coorespondents, so you don't have to waste your own time, PM Me.   


my recommendation would be to take nonresponsiveness as a "thanks but no thanks," and move on - don't let it bother you so much. they could be inordinately busy (after all, the 8th was only 2 weeks ago, sometimes it takes me a week or two to answer messages), they could have a life emergency, they could have actually looked at your profile (you did say most don't, but some might have), and seen something that led them to believe you two would not be compatible. there are all kinds of reasons. usually, nonresponsiveness is not a sign of dislike or animosity, so i would try not to get upset about it.

eta: i agree that personally i do not and would not find your profile appealing if i were seeking a dominant. negativity in most contexts but particularly this one is not appealing to me.


< Message edited by hisannabelle -- 3/22/2007 8:01:22 PM >

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 8:02:10 PM   
slaveluci


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ORIGINAL: Dreamn8r

I would easily accept such a no-answer "answer".  Not to even bother to read one's messages..  when you CLAIM to be seeking somone.  Why bother being here?    No rage, just honesty. 


What Celeste43 wrote should give you your answer, Dreamn8r.  i can understand you being upset when you take the time to write to someone and they either don't bother to read it or they read it and don't respond.  It happens to everyone at some point.  However, as Celeste43 noted, there can be any number of reasons for that.  The best thing to do is just chalk it up and move on to writing to others.  You say they CLAIM to be seeking someone.  They probably are indeed seeking someone, but perhaps it doesn't happen to be you.  Just because they don't respond to you doesn't mean they are "fakes."  As far as offering to list the names of those who have unwittingly upset you, that is just not cool.  How do you think that is going to look to women whom you may contact in the future?  Don't take it personally when they don't respond, just write to someone else.  Good luck........slave luci

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/22/2007 8:06:07 PM   
Dreamn8r


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Status: offline 		Yes, that had occurred to Me.  What hadn't occurred to Me, is when someone shows they have been online several times and doesn't read emails.  I am not a troll, nor a stalker.  I am not emotionally abusive, even though that has been asked of Me.  I politiely declined that particular request.  Honestly, I think there are a lot of gameplayers here trolling to see how many responses they can get.  Or perhaps I'm the only one whose emails aren't even read, but I sincerely doubt this.  I want to be more positive.  I really do. 

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