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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:24:59 AM   
CreativeDominant


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Status: offline 		You should take notice of the answers you've gotten.  I have and what I see is that not one person is supporting you thus far in terms of what you feel you have a right to be angry about.

It happens to every dominant on here...the email sent and not replied to.  ~shrugs~  Depending on the type of email sent, it can be a bit annoying but, for me anyway, not that big of a deal.  Actually, I've been pretty lucky...almost everyone I have ever sent a message to has written me back, even if it was only for a couple of short emails in which we got to know each other better.  Maybe part of that is because...
I don't do form letters
I don't do "cut and paste"
I usually write people because of something they've said on a thread and not just out of the blue.  I have a couple of times because of something in their profile and I have made comment on that but I've done that only rarely.
My profile is an honest portrayal of what I have to offer with very little negativity in it.  Does that mean I am never negative?  Oh, hell no!!  but I reserve that negativity for expression here on the boards where it is applied...when I feel it...in a much more articulated manner and to a specific topic under discussion where there is back and forth between several posters.  Putting it into a profile results in one main thing being noticed and that is, as others have posted and which Tempting put into caps, NEGATIVITY.  And by the by, if you take the time to read my profile, you will note that I am not super-duper gentle dom nor am I uber Dom.  I am just...me...

after all, how much more magnificence than that do you need?

< Message edited by CreativeDominant -- 3/23/2007 7:25:28 AM >

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:44:47 AM   
Lynae78


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Status: offline 		start off by toning down your profile, nobody says you can't be honest, just try to be more positive, heck look in the dictionary or theasauraus if you get stuck. ( I do. :) Also you could bite the bullet and ask people on here how to make your profile more appealing, but also being honest.  :) And I have to go with the general opinion that threatening to expose subs nics just because they didn't respond to you, isn't a smart move.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 8:29:11 AM   
Padriag


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ORIGINAL: Rafters

Great writing. You're channeling Dr Cox, in ways only I suspect his wife, could imagine

Thanks... but frankly given his relationship with Jordan, that kinda worries me.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 2:13:13 PM   
slavepeter33401


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Status: offline 		Am I reading the same profile everyone else is?  I do not see anything objectionable -- except, of course, that they are interested in female not male submissives, the usual story.  I'd wear a dress if that is what it took to play with them, and you can bet I would read their mail and respond promptly.


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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 2:53:41 PM   
blmtrsne


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Status: offline 		I receive mails while I clearly am not interested.
If it's a pollied email and I'm in the mood and it's not the 8th mail in a week I sometimes help people to find the way to a group of Femdoms or so.
But if the guy starts telling me how he want to be my slave or gets very clear about HIS needs, I just put him on the blacklist because I don't want to invest time in those kind of people. At first I didn't do that and the guys didn't answer my questions or didn't read my response.
Some guys even think they are Natures gift to women.  Let me be clear: if I get out the house I can pick up a guy to sleep with every day when I want it. I don't, and most of us don't want that either. I want to be pampered and served the way and when I want it. And that does not include a rough stranger.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 2:59:04 PM   
bludemonn


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ORIGINAL: Dreamn8r

I recently sent a few messages, nothing offensive or "strange" to several submissives.. some as far back as the 8th of March..  Do you see it as showing respect by not replying to someone who shows interest in you?   Even a thanks, but no thanks.   BTW, most of these girls don't even bother to read the email, or read My profile to see what I am about.  If you want the name of these non-responsive coorespondents, so you don't have to waste your own time, PM Me.   


While you are not obligated to respond to a message personally i would say it was a lack of basic manners BUT it is understandable due to the nature of some of the messages, i.e. hundreds of them and lack of time to respond or even due to the content being inappropriate by for example NOT reading the othr persons profile first. 

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 3:10:21 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: Rafters

Do not slap your cock pic across their eyes and say "yoh bitch.." Well not until after the first date and you know it's their kink. Real girls have real teeth.


Sharp, pointy teeth....


And which some love to occasionally demonstrate the pointy sharpness of...


I would never...

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 4:49:57 PM   
CreativeDominant


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rafters

Do not slap your cock pic across their eyes and say "yoh bitch.." Well not until after the first date and you know it's their kink. Real girls have real teeth.


Sharp, pointy teeth....


And which some love to occasionally demonstrate the pointy sharpness of...


I would never...


~choke and cough~...shall we ask Val?

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 5:02:37 PM   
TxBlkMistress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dreamn8r

I would easily accept such a no-answer "answer".  Not to even bother to read one's messages..  when you CLAIM to be seeking somone.  Why bother being here?    No rage, just honesty.  As for the psychotic.  One idiot told Me I was a pedophile because I had the audacity to chat with a 27 year old then stalked Me.  So, if that doesn't fit the description, I do not know what does. 


If they didn't read it, what makes you think they even saw it?   Things happen, family emergencies, life in general, and they don't have time to log on...or if they did log on, maybe they have so many emails they are answering a little at time...OR maybe there is a crisis, and they are only on conversing with a friend and not answering emails at this time.  

I don't send emails to ask for servitude, I don't have to I get enough, and I don't have the time....but once in a blue moon a profile will pop up on my homepage, and I will respond on how well there profile is worded, especially in a land where a lot do not even have profiles.   Some answer and some of them have become good friends......some don't....I don't lose my mind over it or get nasty....I just move on....too many fish in the sea to worry about a few that don't respond.

in the grand scheme of things....who cares?

One other thing...your emails, you stated that you sent out several as early as March 8th....are you actually reading their profile and commenting on it in your emails? or you just sending out some blanket email?  

I'm usually right about it being cut and paste because the idiot usually sends me the same exact email within a month, and these are the "winners" that I actually responded to.  

< Message edited by TxBlkMistress -- 3/23/2007 5:20:11 PM >

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 6:33:31 PM   
HisSongstress


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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass


quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTrollLet me help you with my acclaimed form letter.
 
Lytl Slut fuk’n hor bithc _______ (insert name) get on Ur Neez and beg for da my~T power od _______(insert cocks name)! U don Know chit! Onse I fuk u up da ass U will b my lil slav slut hor 4 da res of u live. Iz da uber dominate and U da cum guzzling gutter slut! U will deleat ur profyl, give me all da passwords, where my koller, and pak all u chit and movd to my hous and pay all da bills!
 
Uberific Godzilla 2 ur Tokyo dom _____________ (insert D name)
 
That will be $34.95 thank you come again.


Damn, Troll! That was spot on. How did you know I got the same letter from AzzMaster just last night? ;) Lol.


That was my thought too.  I just figured that AzzMaster must have paid the $34.95.  :-)

...song...


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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 6:57:33 PM   
ArgoGeorgia


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ORIGINAL: Padriag

Gosh golly, next thing you know they'll have to fold their own laundry, wipe their own ass and learn to share the sandbox with the rest of us and we all know how much of a shock to the ego that can be.  Here's a bit of helpful advice Shirley... and
.oO(Note to self, stop watching Scrubs so much)


Ha!  I knew you were channeling Perry.  And is it just me or does Jordan really, REALLY need a spanking.  Mmmm. 

Oh, and yeah, to the OP - get used to lack of response, especially after this tantrum.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:00:27 PM   
RedheadGirlNY


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Status: offline 		Why would someone be online and not read emails?

Possibly because he/she checked a profile first and found it offensive in some way. Or read this thread.  Or didn't care for the writer's choice of nickname. 

In the past, I've politely said "thanks but no thanks" innumerable times, with the predominant response being accusations of not  being "real," "submissive" or other equally silly things.  The first few are maybe a little amusing.  After that, fuggedaboudit.  It's not worth my time, effort or energy.

All I have in my current profile is a list of observations that come from being on CM.  Them who "gets" 'em gets 'em.  The rest can buy a clue. 

No apologies, no excuses, no idiots. 


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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:07:51 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		It's ok dude. Now you can do like the other 10 million guys on here who don't get what they want and just start a new profile. Suggestion though, at least change the pic.  Sigh....nothing like turning the same guy down over and over because he thinks you are too stupid to realize it's him.....

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:10:41 PM   
FukinTroll


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ORIGINAL: hereyesruponyou

It's ok dude. Now you can do like the other 10 million guys on here who don't get what they want and just start a new profile. Suggestion though, at least change the pic.  Sigh....nothing like turning the same guy down over and over because he thinks you are too stupid to realize it's him.....


Damn! I knew I forgot to change something.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:29:59 PM   
bellanotte


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hereyesruponyou

It's ok dude. Now you can do like the other 10 million guys on here who don't get what they want and just start a new profile. Suggestion though, at least change the pic.  Sigh....nothing like turning the same guy down over and over because he thinks you are too stupid to realize it's him.....


*chuckles and wonders how you peeked into my inbox*


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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:46:01 PM   
BondageTopJere


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Status: offline 		Don't mean to hijack the thread, but someone mentioned something in an earlier posting that sound like a good idea. If I wanted to post a "Take a look at my profile and give me your opinion on it" thread, which category should I stick it under?  Some one this thread is under or a different one?

We now return you to your regularly scheduled thread...

To be honest, I'd consider myself happy if I ever I got a "thanks but no thanks" email, so never getting a reply is simply par for the course in my experience.

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:46:49 PM   
MagiksSlave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Padriag

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rafters

Great writing. You're channeling Dr Cox, in ways only I suspect his wife, could imagine

Thanks... but frankly given his relationship with Jordan, that kinda worries me.


reaheheheheaalllyyy ((giggles))

I read that post and you so did sound like him I could hear his voice in my head as I read it LOL

Oh and I so love that show!!!!


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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:47:14 PM   
FukinTroll


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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 7:55:52 PM   
all4yourplsr


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Status: offline 		Dreamn8r,

Here's a question for ya.  Do you take offense to subs looking at your profile and not writing to you everytime?  I'm guessing you do. 

ed

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RE: Lack of response to genuine interest - 3/23/2007 10:03:16 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		So... where did the OP go?

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