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Jevousadore -> RE: subs who don't know their place (4/20/2007 5:28:40 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Aslanemperor
I've been looking through the profiles, and I have found that there are ALOT of subs who not only don't know their place...
Listen, Doms and Dommes alike have earned the title of Sir, usually through intensive training and study..... For that reason, upon first speaking to ANY Dom, call them "Sir" or "Madam".
I heard one sub say "I will not be a doormat!". Well, believe it or not, that's sort of stupid.
Hello, Aslanemperor......(I had a really hard time not adding an extra "s" to that),
1. Being a submissive is not about "knowing one's place" as any so-called Dom defines it. Believe it or not, even submissives and slaves are born with a functioning brain and are capable of determining what being a submissive means to them. That you find it to be some sort of rejection of you are your personal feelings....try being a Dom and own up to them.
2. Hmmm....I would be interested to see proof that you have earned the title "Dom". Do you have a diploma of some kind? Certificates? A psychiatric evaluation? I am sorry, but this title is not "earned" by stating it in a collarme profile. It is a sign of respect from a submissive/slave to the one that they have chosen to submit to. When a "Dom" sends me a message demanding that when I respond I refer to him as "Master" etc., the only response he gets is the delete button.
3. Being a submissive does not mean you are a doormat unless you and the Dom you are with want it that way. When I am tied up, spanked, told to crawl, it is not because I want to be treated poorly. Actually, I feel cherished, cared for. Able to let go and put my trust in him to meet my needs. It has nothing to do with wanting to be disrespected. You have missed the boat.
What you are suffering from, little man, is a huge inferiority complex. You are the type who look for women who identify themselves as submissives because they are wounded, and therefore are unable to defend themselves from men like you. Men who actually dislike women and want to take their feelings of inadequacy out on these women. Who need to be called "Sir" in a misguided attempt to increase their feeling of self-importance.
As my mother once told my brothers when she caught them with their playboys ..."It's perfectly natural to want to look at women's bodies, to fantasize about them. But these pictures are not reality. They are airbrushed and posed to create a fantasy."
I would suggest you get out of your fantasy world of what you define a sub should be and see if maybe you can learn what qualities, which are as diverse and as subject to personal taste as a Dom's are, real life submissives have and are looking for. Then, maybe one day, you will actually deserve to be called "Sir" by a healthy and happy sub.
jevousadore
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