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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 6:46:46 PM   
hisannabelle


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Status: offline 		greetings tantricone,

i am "really looking" but not to be collared by a dominant. however, i'm not very active in my search...i respond to emails and follow up on contact, and i'll meet in real life when it's possible, but while i look through profiles a lot, it's rare for me to initiate contact with someone i'm interested in in -that- way...usually when i message people it has more to do with complimenting their profile or saying i like their board posts.

annabelle.


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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 6:50:18 PM   
Suleiman


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ORIGINAL: whisperedsighs

Reading your profile would lead any sub to think that you are looking for instant meet up and relationship.  Your profile also implies, ( in my opinion ), "don't waste my time", so by not answering your email, maybe they just don't want to waste their time.  You say you won't play phone tag or internet tag, but I know for a fact that many subs use the time spent in email/IM conversations, and phone conversations to get to know someone a little before meeting them in person.  Perhaps you should revamp your profile a little.  I know the first thing I do when I get an email is look at the person's profile, if they are not a match, depending on how many I have I may or may not answer. 


The bit in there towards the end, "If I take the time to write you, please at least have the courtesy to reply, even if it's a "no thank you", keeps bothering me. If I saw that in the profile of someone who had sent an introductory Email to me, I'd probably brush them off too. It's subtle, but it smacks faintly of the "gods gift to submissives" attitude that a lot of dominants seem to suffer from. Oh lordy lordy, massa has come sent me a e-mail! I's better get to replyin real quick now! Seriously - you claim to have seven years real experience. What are you doing whining about lack of responses on a site like this? Go to an event! Go to a munch! Ask one of your friends to hook you up with someone new. If you're that desperate for attention, it does lead one to wonder why you can't get a date in your own town.

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 6:57:39 PM   
FukinTroll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hisannabelle

greetings tantricone,

i am "really looking" but not to be collared by a dominant. however, i'm not very active in my search...i respond to emails and follow up on contact, and i'll meet in real life when it's possible, but while i look through profiles a lot, it's rare for me to initiate contact with someone i'm interested in in -that- way...usually when i message people it has more to do with complimenting their profile or saying i like their board posts.

annabelle.



Neither. I am here being CM's pied piper and capturing the hearts and minds of all the good (ooooh yeah and the bad) subby slavey boys and girls.

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 7:00:32 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Neither. I am here being CM's pied piper and capturing the hearts and minds of all the good (ooooh yeah and the bad) subby slavey boys and girls.


Tell the truth oh great tongued one, you are a slut and we love you for it. Smooochhhhh!!!!!!!

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 7:02:21 PM   
FukinTroll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x

quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Neither. I am here being CM's pied piper and capturing the hearts and minds of all the good (ooooh yeah and the bad) subby slavey boys and girls.


Tell the truth oh great tongued one, you are a slut and we love you for it. Smooochhhhh!!!!!!!


That too!

Slurp!

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 7:49:01 PM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: stef

quote:

ORIGINAL: TantricOne

Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :)

Why didn't you just continue your previous whine instead of starting a new thread? 

~stef


Attention to his profile might have been running low...

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 7:50:45 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Neither. I am here being CM's pied piper and capturing the hearts and minds of all the good (ooooh yeah and the bad) subby slavey boys and girls.


But you wouldn't drown us in the river, would you? LOL

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 7:53:38 PM   
FukinTroll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: dawntreader

quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Neither. I am here being CM's pied piper and capturing the hearts and minds of all the good (ooooh yeah and the bad) subby slavey boys and girls.


But you wouldn't drown us in the river, would you? LOL


It could be a figurative river of passion.

Slurp!

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 7:56:05 PM   
Laura


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Status: offline 		Most male subs seem to want a Domme who will do it all and want nothing for herself. They don't want to meet me, they don't even care who I am or what I want. They don't even ask me what I want just tell me what they want. It's interesting that they want me to stick things up their arse without either of us ever having experience in this at all. If I were truly sadistic I'd have a blast with the men on this site.

Stand still.... you horny little slut... I'm going to shove a whole 10 inches up there... who needs lube? Bah.... that's for amateurs. 

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 7:59:19 PM   
FukinTroll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Laura

Most male subs seem to want a Domme who will do it all and want nothing for herself. They don't want to meet me, they don't even care who I am or what I want. They don't even ask me what I want just tell me what they want. It's interesting that they want me to stick things up their arse without either of us ever having experience in this at all. If I were truly sadistic I'd have a blast with the men on this site.

Stand still.... you horny little slut... I'm going to shove a whole 10 inches up there... who needs lube? Bah.... that's for amateurs. 


Now if you were really sadistic you would have them suck on acorns and after that tell them the only lube they get for the "anal intruder" is spit.

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 8:00:56 PM   
MistressNoName


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Status: offline 		Maybe what we need is a poll to find out just who IS really looking...

Just a thought, kinda late at night...

MNN


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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 8:02:58 PM   
Laura


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Status: offline 		I'll make a note about the accorns. :D 

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 8:04:39 PM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

quote:

ORIGINAL: dawntreader


But you wouldn't drown us in the river, would you? LOL


It could be a figurative river of passion.

Slurp!


Sweeeet!!!!!!!

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 8:53:01 PM   
Devilslilsister


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quote:

or just like to play cybertag


never played cyber tag, but it sounds like fun.  How do you know if you've really tagged some one?  Is there a base?  Can i run all over the internet while you try and catch me?

you're it!


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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 9:20:49 PM   
Griswold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TantricOne

Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :)


Great question..

Every sub is looking.  We're outnumbered...I shouldn't say every sub is looking (I'll eventually be defiled)...most subs....sorry.....some subs are looking.

I'm looking.

I'm looking.

For the one.

I'm tripping now.

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/6/2007 9:55:59 PM   
Griswold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TantricOne

Was wondering what percentage of subs on here are truly looking, or just like to play cybertag(if there's a reply at all)? I've met a few in person, just seems that the majority are looking for a perfect dominant when such a thing doesn't exist. In my experience, one of maybe every twenty even bothers to reply, nevermind get real. There's no such thing as a perfect sub either, but at least I reply :)


1 in 17.

(I've done the math).

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/7/2007 12:21:40 AM   
DocTSH


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Status: offline 		If I find someones profile interesting and message them, I dont expect a reply.  If I get one, wonderful, if not then I question their personal beliefs in the lifestyle as well as their level of respect and common deceny to reply to someone that took the time to show some interest in them.  On the other hand, if someone doesn't reply, fuck 'em!  It's their loss, and I really dont care about them at that point.

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/7/2007 12:44:54 AM   
unsung


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Status: offline 		Truth of the matter for me is that as of late, all I have been seeing on the boards are bits and bytes and I am attempting to make logical sense of them.  I have some of them collected in a slot on the other side but just can't seem to get the coding to work well with other sets.  Refinement refinement and more of it............ arghhhhhhhh

On a more serious note (god forbid), I use to respond to every message I got but even it saying 'no thanks' becomes mundane after awhile especially when replying to one liners that may have no more than 'hi how are you today'.  I am not one that has my inbox flooded with emails however so I can not speak for anyone but myself.  It really comes down to connection, I say 'hi' to many people during the day where there exists no connection but on the same note there is absolutely no expectation either.


< Message edited by unsung -- 4/7/2007 1:24:15 AM >

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/7/2007 4:49:10 AM   
Peterlocked


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Status: offline 		I'd say many are looking, but the big question is, looking for what?  Let's use the analogy of a supermarket for this example.  You could be in the deli department and think no one is shopping but the bakery is busy, it's all in what the individual is lookng for.

I've read many profiles, most of which seem to have one or more things mentioned that says to me this person isn't Who I'm looking for. I have a list of things I seek in a Dominant play partner.  If the profiled person lists certain things in their profile that aren't compatible, I don't email them.  I don't want to waste their time or mine. Yes, my time IS valuable.  If someone lists some desired aspect of a sub that I find incompatible with what I am, contacting them would  not benefit either of us.

The question then is, what is the profiled person looking for, what have they written in their profile, and how many are interested in the kind of person they represent themselves to be, both in interests and personality.

peter

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RE: Really looking or just there? - 4/7/2007 5:05:51 AM   
Peterlocked


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Suleiman

..it smacks faintly of the "gods gift to submissives" attitude that a lot of dominants seem to suffer from. Oh lordy lordy, massa has come sent me a e-mail! I's better get to replyin real quick now!


I have seen that attitude in many profiles, Suleiman.  Using the analogy from my previous post (the supermarket/food), if a Dominant says in their profile that they require a sub to eat a steak after a scene, and a sub is a vegetarian, many Dominants seem to have the attitude of  "But I want them to!  They are a slave/submissive, they should do it because I said so."

Here's a few of the things that if in your profile will pretty much gaurantee me not replying.  (Not that I'm the most sought  after person around and have to sort through hundreds of emails a day  or anything.  I am certainly not the Goddess's gift to Dominants.  I would merely like to find someone who wants to get together to explore common interests.)

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I have an LTR. Certain activities aren't compatible with my sig other.  My sig other is aware of these needs and scening isn't seen by that person as a threat to our relationship, so I am free to explore those.

Females only
I have boobs, but I'm not cutting off what's hanging from my groin, (I do lock it up, but it's staying attached) so I don't count in that category.

ETC.
There are a few other little things here and there, but if we aren't compatible in the major areas, why waste time contacting the person?  Many people look at my profile, but few email me.  When they do, there is often something in their profile which tells me we aren't going to go anywhere with any kind of relationship, so I don't pursue the contact.

peter

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