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AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: Does anyone else here seek a male wife? (1/22/2008 12:00:12 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee
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ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb
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Over the course of the past posts, the male-wife concept was discussed. The recap was…
…either a state-sanctioned marriage or a more informal union, perhaps with a BDSM ceremony featuring the male wearing the wedding gown, or perhaps BOTH principals were wearing gowns!! [it was unclear to me whether or not the gowns were to be matching or not].
You are so funny! Matching gowns, indeed! LOL I dunno if I agree this is a 'twue wecap', afly... Several of us seem to perfectly adore the idea of a male wife...whose quite male. Personally, were I to marry such a man, he'd not be wearing gurlie cloths in 'public'...if he wore them at all, it would be for our own personal pleasure.
…the male-wife will be the primary provider of domestic services, with the possible exception of cooking, depending on his skills and/or the culinary bent of the Domina. These duties may be performed in normal casual dress or in any assortment of outfits starting with panties and up to a full maid’s uniform.
OMG... that is just sooooo yummie. Yes, all that and take care of the darn paperwork, too. I'll just sign the checks, thank you very much. Still, probably most of the time 'my wife' would be in jeans and a button-up shirt. We can save 'dress-up', if he's into that...for special occasions. Just my take on things at MY home...
…the male-wife will probably work outside the home, as many female wives do these days, in addition to domestic duties. There may be rare cases where the Domina is a work-a-holic, and prefers having a full-time housewife.
The other consideration here is...financial slavery. I'm just not into it. While we'd both probably work, and he'd pay his fair share; by and large his money would be his own. When ya consider 50% of relationships fail...I just don't want to make money on one that did. Yanno? I know some guys think they want this; but ever hear such a guy talk about being happy to be back on the streets....broke?
It’s an interesting concept. I’ve noticed that several Dominas have added the “male wife” idea to their profiles.
My question is: has this thread in any way affected anyone else’s thinking about the relationship dynamic they have, or seek to have, and if so, how?
afly, I really like how you think. Actually, yes, this thread (and some others like it) are what made me consider a 'male wife'. Still, the concept is so varried and so personal, really, that exactly what it entails depends on the two involved. I would not like a timid, fawning male.....but there are many here who would. I'd prefer a male wife who was quick on his feet, could determine what I needed and make it so; who adored me, and pampered me...but who also liked it that I adored and pampered him (if sometimes with a flogger! WEG)
Viva la Difference, huh?
MsB
The term "male wife" has many different definitions to many different folks, which was what my recap was trying to bring out. After all, how many threads here have been devoted to trying to agree on "slave" versus "submissive" versus "bottom"? How much agreement do we have on those terms?
I do not seek consensus on this Message Board. I've been around long enough to know I have a better chance of finding the Holy Grail.
As much as I usually speak out against "labels", I cannot defend any definition of "male wife" except the meaning negotiated and arrived at between a woman and her man in a particular partnership. I like the phrase "male wife" because it suggests to me a level of intimacy and relationship that the words "slave" and "submissive" do not.
Of course, that's a purely personal reaction, probably because I'm a hopeless romantic at heart. [;)]
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