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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/13/2007 3:47:10 PM   
Domspaintoy


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Status: offline 		Very true. It seems to be the expectation/desire nowadays that all women must have a figure like barbie, well come on we all know that if barbie was actually real she would be 7ft tall and just how attractive and intimidating would men find a women like that then?!

OK ill answer for them ...

VERY!!

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/13/2007 4:31:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I ask peoples height and weight all day.The biggest thing I notice is that every woman big or small bemoan their weight..all of them!..whereas the men just state it out like a simple fact ,wether big or small..no big deal in their book...So this makes one ask..why?..why the difference in attitude?....and every single woman here knows exactly why......women should never bash each other in envy of what another possesses in an effort to make ourselves feel better.The big girls against the little ones, the smaller breasted against the larger ones. Face it ladies! each and every one of us, looks into that mirror every day and see something we wish was different, something about our appearance that makes us go YUCK!...instead embrace the postive...for there is nothing more attractive than confidence..I knew a woman 350# 5'4..pleasant enough face,but an attitude of such utter confidence in her appearance..that men flocked to her..even the ones who would of normally preferred the height/weight proportioned, she never lacked for a man.....that alone has got to tell you something..I try every day to gain that height of confidence in my appearance...I hope ALL women will too someday...Tempting

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/13/2007 4:49:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not looking for a barbie, but I'm certainly looking for someone who is fit, takes care of themselves, and confident.

The statement "I'm not a barbie" shows me insecurity, jealousy, intolerance, and a general outlook on life that I am not interested in.

It aint about weight, but weight often weighs in.

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/13/2007 5:19:36 PM   
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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/13/2007 5:21:31 PM   
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...if barbie was actually real she would be 7ft tall and just how attractive and intimidating would men find a women like that then?!


A seven foot tall Barbie Domme? ...

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/13/2007 5:24:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

I'm not looking for a barbie, but I'm certainly looking for someone who is fit, takes care of themselves, and confident.

The statement "I'm not a barbie" shows me insecurity, jealousy, intolerance, and a general outlook on life that I am not interested in.

It aint about weight, but weight often weighs in.

Yours,


benji


Fact is, most people are supeficial-whether they admit it of not. People can be unnattractive to other people for myriad reasons-or no reason at all..........But if there IS no attraction-it tends to end there. You have a personality? It won't be known.

What you look like DOES matter-the fantasy is that it doesn't. I think that the cruelest thing is those who help support the fantasy-when an individual could try to change the REALITY.

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/13/2007 9:18:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

I ask peoples height and weight all day.The biggest thing I notice is that every woman big or small bemoan their weight..all of them!..whereas the men just state it out like a simple fact ,wether big or small..no big deal in their book...So this makes one ask..why?..why the difference in attitude?....and every single woman here knows exactly why......women should never bash each other in envy of what another possesses in an effort to make ourselves feel better.The big girls against the little ones, the smaller breasted against the larger ones. Face it ladies! each and every one of us, looks into that mirror every day and see something we wish was different, something about our appearance that makes us go YUCK!...instead embrace the postive...for there is nothing more attractive than confidence..I knew a woman 350# 5'4..pleasant enough face,but an attitude of such utter confidence in her appearance..that men flocked to her..even the ones who would of normally preferred the height/weight proportioned, she never lacked for a man.....that alone has got to tell you something..I try every day to gain that height of confidence in my appearance...I hope ALL women will too someday...Tempting


It's funny, my bestfriend is going to grad school at Exeter in the U.K.  She says the girls there worry when they loose a few pounds, and think they need to put the weight back on.  I can't even imagine such a mentality.  I saw pictures of her friends, and what is acceptable there is amazing.  Can you imagine not dieting or worrying that you aren't thin enough?  <sigh>  I really can't. 

The last few times she's noticed how there isn't a commercial segment on American TV that doesn't have at least one diet type commercial.   

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/13/2007 9:23:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

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ORIGINAL: FatDomDaddy

I have known a lot of real men in my life. Not phoney internet make believe puffed up profile males but most normal everyday guys. And to a one, I can never recall one saying "Man, I'd like to tag a Barbie?"  Just about every man I have ever met likes their women with curves.

So why do women use the line "I am not a Barbie" like it is some kind of in your face challange?


Well I am not much into Barbie, that bitch has everything but the parts I want to use.


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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/13/2007 11:26:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		All this Barbie bashing is making me feel very, very guilty for all the times in junior high i dressed her up like a hooker and let Ken sell her to the GI Joes......

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 12:16:42 AM   
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All this Barbie bashing is making me feel very, very guilty for all the times in junior high i dressed her up like a hooker and let Ken sell her to the GI Joes......


Who didnt.

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 6:22:59 AM   
littleonyx


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ORIGINAL: FatDomDaddy

I have known a lot of real men in my life. Not phoney internet make believe puffed up profile males but most normal everyday guys. And to a one, I can never recall one saying "Man, I'd like to tag a Barbie?"  Just about every man I have ever met likes their women with curves.

So why do women use the line "I am not a Barbie" like it is some kind of in your face challange?


Greetings...

For me, all I'd heard while growing up was the "perfect coca-cola" shape was THE shape to have.  Good size breasts, itty bitty waist, perfectly shaped hips, skinny legs, and heels to accentuate every aforementioned asset.  Aka, the Barbie.

Well...*smiles*  That's not me.  For starters, I'm rather vertically challenged, which completely knocks me out of the running for Barbie.  The only short Barbie-ish ones I've seen are the kids.  Even Skipper's pretty tall.  Little Kelly isn't far behind.  Anyhooooo...my legs are rather finely shaped, thanks to my many activities growing up and through high school, so I'll forget about having the skinny legs that go on for miles (I'm not even five feet tall...how far can they go??).  And my hips are thick, thanks to years of birth control (and other things that I don't feel obliged to mention).  We won't even talk about breasts.

So I know good and well I'm not a Barbie...and I'm happy about that.  Now that doesn't mean I don't want to slim down a little or shed a few pounds, but I most certainly don't intend to try to get that Barbie shape.  I think a man would rather see me dance and actually be able to roll my hips in a seductive manner that screams, "C'mere...exotic chocolate beauty that yearns for Your touch..." than to see a stick try to roll her hip, only to see her hip bone pop out of her side due to lack of cushion.

Then again, I didn't play with Barbie too much...but when I did, I always had her with Ken (or whoever she was hot with at the time).  If she had a car, he was driving it.  If she had a house, well...you get my drift.  Don't even get me started on the plastic sex they were having.  Ohhhhhhh, man.  Now that was hot.

Well wishes,

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 6:53:15 AM   
StellaByStarlite


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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

I ask peoples height and weight all day.The biggest thing I notice is that every woman big or small bemoan their weight..all of them!..whereas the men just state it out like a simple fact ,wether big or small..no big deal in their book...So this makes one ask..why?..why the difference in attitude?....and every single woman here knows exactly why......women should never bash each other in envy of what another possesses in an effort to make ourselves feel better.The big girls against the little ones, the smaller breasted against the larger ones. Face it ladies! each and every one of us, looks into that mirror every day and see something we wish was different, something about our appearance that makes us go YUCK!...instead embrace the postive...for there is nothing more attractive than confidence..I knew a woman 350# 5'4..pleasant enough face,but an attitude of such utter confidence in her appearance..that men flocked to her..even the ones who would of normally preferred the height/weight proportioned, she never lacked for a man.....that alone has got to tell you something..I try every day to gain that height of confidence in my appearance...I hope ALL women will too someday...Tempting



Hello, Tempting. =)

You get a cookie for that post...hell, take a dozen. =)

This is going to sound horribly stereotypical, but it's really just based on my experiences. I think we white women could learn a few things from our black and hispanic sisters. Being heavy doesn't seem to interfere with their confidence, their inner attitude. All the big women I've known that have carried their body proudly and beautifully have been brown-skinned.

You can see really see the cultural differences regarding this when you go to a Puerto Rican club. Hey, I'm a bit thick, I'll admit it. In a white bar, I'm fat.. in a PR club, I'm perfect, lol.

Before people start squacking about racism, stereotyping, etc.. I'll mention again that these are my personal observations only. =)

Stella

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 6:53:58 AM   
BOUNTYHUNTER


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Status: offline 		Most of us men are OK with our body's,while some need work for the most part most of us are OK with ourselfs..You girls worry about what we might thing about you and tear yourself apart with worry.You are our prizes  in this go around in life and many men wish they could own more then one.We tend to put you'll on that big pedestal even the Dom masters out there..Love your self for what you are and not what you wish others want you to become...TO all males..warning be careful just how high you place them for they may never want to come down....I have place DIANE so far up on that pedestal that I now have to use a latter to look her into her eyes ,Some times she will climb down but not very often...bounty

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 8:31:38 AM   
sweetavani


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Status: offline 		In reguards to what both Stella and Tempting had to say...
i personally could not agree with both of you more.  i think you both hit the nail on the head.
As for the use of "I'm not a Barbie", i have used this and my intention was to say " I am not the sterotypical perfect woman"  i always share lots of pics with guys before i meet them(if i do) and point blank ask them what they see and that they understand i am not a little woman.  i don't have a problem with it if they don't.  There is nothing worse than that look of disappointment on a guys face when he is not getting what he thinks he was... it leaves me feeling bad.  So i prevent this as best i can.
I often get asked by Dom's "how do you feel about yourself?"  the answer is i like me for what i am, sure there are things i would change but i do love the person inside and i have to do that before i can change anything on the outside.  Personally i think guys that like bigger women are a special breed, they look beyond packaging and into who the person in on the inside.. Most of them just want you to be confindent and yourself... This could hold true for men who like littler women, i have no theory on that cause i do not fall into that catagory.  This i will say, there are alot of superficial, package people out there, if the package of the person is not perfect they want nothing to do with the person within, this goes for all body types. 
Think about it for a minute...
 
avani
 
PS please not this is just my opinion from my experience and my observations!!!

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 5:42:49 PM   
FatDomDaddy


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Status: offline 		I took me a while to back to this thread. I was surprised it took off the way it did.

I am still seeing the challenges being thrown up though and the most in describing men/Doms etc.

MOST? what?  Guys writing fantasy profiles on line say they want HOT THIN WOMEN? And this offends you.... why????




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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 6:00:50 PM   
pattayonacracker


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Status: offline 		only time i was offended by a Dom here was when i told him..     
look i am NOT what your looking for i do not fit the profile of your perfect woman..he still had to meet me.. well ok i bite the bullet and go meet him he's sitting there and he's preaching about how we can all take an do things about our weight etc... i have this machine at home and i do this every day... and in the back of my mind i am thinking but you dont know me
you dont know my circumstances, you dont know my limitations and my physical capabilities..
so HOW can one sit and preach about one they do not know?
if i could be thinner i would be, i used to be infact thinner than i am now, but shyt happens, life happens, and it happens fast, sometimes taking you for one hell of a ride before it lets you off...
i have 3 strikes against me
1 i have Graves Disease... a hypoactive thyroid
2 i had an accident that makes it almost impossibe to excersize
3 i cant be on my feet for extended periods of time..

so you tell me other than starving myself which i have tried and it wont work, what do i do? 
i become happy with who i am i realize that i am who i am and get happy within my skin.
it hurts to know that i dont fit that perfect type of person he was looking for and he insisted we meet anyways...
WHY?
to hurt me on purpose?
Thats what pisses me off...


*slowly slips offa her soap box*

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 6:07:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well... I get about 5 or 6 emails and IMs every day or so from guys telling me I am fat and that no "Master" would want me because I'm not fit........ Dang it... I don't want a Master anyway! *shrugs* I'm proud to not be a Barbie... I'd be dead if I were! They have proven that it is not physically possible to be! I eat and live healthier than lots of girls I know who are almost that skinny, and *shrugs* who with any worth to their concern really cares what we look like? All a "look" proves is the actual outcome from a possible mixture of two peoples' DNA before us, our parents! Besides.... however the heck many years down the road we'll all look like crap anyway wrinkled and such... and the shortly after that we'll all be rotting undeground or ashes scattered depending on our choices.... either way not pretty!

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 6:19:49 PM   
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you dont know my circumstances, you dont know my limitations and my physical capabilities..
so HOW can one sit and preach about one they do not know?

if i could be thinner i would be, i used to be infact thinner than i am now, but shyt happens, life happens, and it happens fast, sometimes taking you for one hell of a ride before it lets you off...


EXACTLY!!! We're not all lazy... Some of us do the best we can do with the bodies we have been "blessed and cursed" with.... Of course thereare many who don't TRY but some of us have been struggling months, to years, to our entire lives! We take care of ourselves to the best of our ability and sometimes it's better being over 200lbs than it is to be 6ft under ground!

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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 6:44:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FatDomDaddy
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MOST? what?  Guys writing fantasy profiles on line say they want HOT THIN WOMEN? And this offends you.... why????



I think you just nailed it.  Guys writing fantasy profiles.  Barbie is and always has been fantasy.  Reality is a whole nuther story!  OMG, I see FLAWS!!!!! 




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RE: OK I get it... you are not a "Barbie" - 4/14/2007 7:01:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FatDomDaddy

I have known a lot of real men in my life. Not phoney internet make believe puffed up profile males but most normal everyday guys. And to a one, I can never recall one saying "Man, I'd like to tag a Barbie?"  Just about every man I have ever met likes their women with curves.

So why do women use the line "I am not a Barbie" like it is some kind of in your face challange?


What the fuck is the big deal????

Some guys like rail thin chics....some like 'em with a little meat on 'em....some like 'em huuuuuuuuuuuuge.

Who fucking cares?

I like 'em the way I like 'em....you like 'em the way you like 'em....

They're all gorgeous....

Why the fuck do we have to keep talking about this stupid fucking subject for the next 3,000 years?


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