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ORIGINAL: myobedience

How many times have you read profiles where the subbie threatens any one who talks to them without first asking request from the DOM  or the dom saying no ONE can talk to MY subbie without permission?
 
How pathetic do you think this is?
How courageous do you think this is?

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ORIGINAL: OnlyHis

Everyones relationship dynamics are different. 
In my relationship with Master He decided that if another Dom or Master wanted to speak to me online they had to ask his permission first. At play parties and such too ,  a Dominant does not approach someone elses property unless they talk to the Master/Owner first. At least that is what i have seen.  When it comes to other subs or slaves i am free to make friends , share experiences ( to a certain degree), and give them help if i possibly can.
Same thing for profiles. When mine was active i got to many hits from Dominants that thought because i was a slave i was their slave. Some were quite graphic in what they thought i should do for them. Master had me deactivate the profile. 
This is not pathetic or courageous. These are rules Master has for me and it works for us in the relationship we have.  That is what counts .

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Just a question to ruffle a few thoughts...ya know...over turn them and really get to the nitty gritty  
 

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We all say TRUST is such a huge component ......  I think this man trusts me a whole lot more than some collared and owned girls who have doms who have to see every bit of communication

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ORIGINAL: myobedience

How many times have you read profiles where the subbie threatens any one who talks to them without first asking request from the DOM  or the dom saying no ONE can talk to MY subbie without permission?
 
How pathetic do you think this is?
How courageous do you think this is?

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ORIGINAL: arayofsunshine55

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We all say TRUST is such a huge component ......  I think this man trusts me a whole lot more than some collared and owned girls who have doms who have to see every bit of communication

We don't all say trust is a huge component.  Again we are all kinda different.  And although you think you aren't being judgmental you do make quite a few assumptions.   If you really want to understand how others think you do have to be willing to step out of your own point of view for a moment.  I know folks who have this protocol and for none of them is trust an issue.  It's a level of control which is higher than I desire but I do get it.

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ORIGINAL: OnlyHis

Everyones relationship dynamics are different. 
In my relationship with Master He decided that if another Dom or Master wanted to speak to me online they had to ask his permission first. At play parties and such too ,  a Dominant does not approach someone elses property unless they talk to the Master/Owner first. At least that is what i have seen.  When it comes to other subs or slaves i am free to make friends , share experiences ( to a certain degree), and give them help if i possibly can.
Same thing for profiles. When mine was active i got to many hits from Dominants that thought because i was a slave i was their slave. Some were quite graphic in what they thought i should do for them. Master had me deactivate the profile. 
This is not pathetic or courageous. These are rules Master has for me and it works for us in the relationship we have.  That is what counts .

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So if someone has a different perspective on why a grown woman's correspondence ... not just on CM, but anywhere, should be monitored........I am all ears.

Simply ... I do understand it is a type of control.... The Gander and the goose like it, the Lord and the subbie like it, the Grand Poobah and his little doll/pet like it, the wise and all powerful master and his fainting slave like it ..... its their thing.  I'm on the LD with that!

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ORIGINAL: arayofsunshine55
Not because he doesn't trust me.  But because he wants me that exposed to him,.  And that makes my cunt drip.  Period.

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ORIGINAL: myobedience

How many times have you read profiles where the subbie threatens any one who talks to them without first asking request from the DOM  or the dom saying no ONE can talk to MY subbie without permission?
 
Yup I have read them, not only on CM, but on alt and bondage as well as on other sites.
I wondered, way back, why it was written like that.
I remember several profiles several years ago on CM, that made me laugh.  They went something like this...and they were usually written by 18- 25 year olds.... if you dare to contact me, i will have my dom find your ISP and fuck up your computer.
I have also read some really wonderful profiles in which the dynamic between the D or M and s was clearly set forth...  for example  ~~   Master has requested that all correspondence goes through Him, it is the authority exchange we have between us, and i simply obey.
I have also read dom profiles written like they are the Army, Navy, Air Force and Marines all rolled into one.  If you dare talk to My girl without My permission, she will block you and you will hear from Me!
I think that subs/slaves who say they are owned or taken or collered, etc and find themelves being trolled just because they are taken is such a disrespectful thing.... because it shows no respect to the owner, or dominant.

 
How pathetic do you think this is?
 
To answer my own question, it can be pathetic because they seem like empty threats and I wonder why on earth empty threats are even posted on a profile.
For a caring Dom to protect his girl from some bimbo who is trolling his girl is such a sweet thing...I am sure some doms do care and some doms dont.
If I get harassed by one specific male (I remember one from CM, a male sissy sub), I might be instructed to block or ignore or just send a polite letter back... "please leave me alone."
Presently, there is a harley biker, who *winks at my profile day in and day out.  LOL... so Sir opens up the profile and deletes the winks, before I even see thema nd then we laugh about his eye "flutters."
This is kind a cool.  But he does not respond to mail that I can respond to, on messenger, in my private box or on alt/bondage.  He reds them once a week and we might have a laugh over it, but I really like that he allows me the freedom to respond in my way.
I enjoy the trust he has in me.

How courageous do you think this is?
I think it can be very courageous ! Esp when a girl gets the messages "kneel bitch"  or "suck my dick whore"... they can bevery perturbing and a man knows how to handle it.
 
I also think it truly comes down to the kind of control a Dom has over a sub.  Because each relationship is different, each way control is expressed is different. Some doms are VERY strict and controlling.  I remember being micromanaged for 6 months...that was really tough on me; but taht was his way, since he was newer than myself.  He found out he just didnt want to micromanage nor did he want strict protocol cause it really wasnt in his nature. We leanr as we go along.  What was once maybe necessary might not be later.
 
Since control and authority and the power to exercise these differs in each Dom/me, finding the sub to fit that style is ultimately really the most important objective in any relationship.
 
If a couple thinks the intent of another Dom is to steal the girl away, they will figure out a system that works, but I also think that the security of being  protected is important to any girl.
 
Some are pathetic yes, some are courageous yes...but there is always the middle ground and something in between as well to consider.
 
Not to long ago I read a profile of a woman who had only been owned by a strict Dom who made entirely all the decisions in her life and when he died, she was utterly lost to the outside world.  I felt sad for her.  She admitted she couldnt even go grocery shopping.  Something I take for granted.   In this instance, my opinion is, pathetic.  She did have a courageous attitude tho.  I wanted to write her and tell her so, but I let the opportunity slip by.

Ya know,I took the time to answer my own thread becasue I meant no harm in my question.    If your cunt drips becasue you love to be micromanged, it floats your boat.
If some of you like the freedom to make your own decisions becasue you can and your Dom is happy with you for doing it, thus your cunt drips, its cool, drip away.

I meant NO disrespect for the way anyone conducts their affairs.
I meant NO judgement for the way anyone conducts their affairs.

Your affairs are yours...I just wanted to know if others just happened to see some of the dicotamies I was seeing.

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just say it cause you can...........  ppppffftttt !!