forsakengrace
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ORIGINAL: BondageTopJere By and large, I'm actually suprise to see a lack of christians in BDSM circles, at least male doms/fem subs. A D/s relationship is suprisingly similiar to the kind of relationship that the church espouses as the correct way to live. Been awhile awhile since I went to a wedding, but isn't there something in the grooms vows "to cherish and protect" and the brides " Honor and obey"? Is it not expected of christian men to be the head of their household, to ensure that their family is taken care of in all ways? Is it not expected of christian women to see to to the maintenance of the house, relieve the stress that life can cause to their husband, to bow down to his will in all matters? Sounds to me a like one kind of very D/s relationship. Religion is suprisingly good way to analogize D/s to people, especially catholic ones, as the overarching mental and emotional feelings are very similiar in intent and often in form. By and large, there have been times when I wish the impression of the BDSM realm wasn't one of floggers, chains, and black leather. Most of us here enjoy those things, but their... physical props, tools; they hold no meaning in of themselves. Its the way in which they're employed is what gives them meaning, and rather unfortunately is the thing people outside the D/s realm concentrate on. Thats as far as I got in reading this thread before I had to respond ... In short, no we're not expected to bow down to his will in all matters. Thats like saying that because a man *is* a man, he's like some sort of demi-god over his household. It also kind of opens the door to the wife being able to do something totally wrong and she can point her finger at her husband and say, But he told me to do it and I must bow to him in all matters! Part of the basic Christian belief is free will ... Having the right to choose for ourselves whether or not we will follow God's plan for our lives. God doesn't take that away from us. (Important thing to remember here is that we don't get to choose the consequences for our actions, just the actions themselves.) So, no ... We're not just autonomous slaves to our husbands from the day we get married. Yes, our roles are different ... There are certain things that men are naturally better at than women and things that women are naturally better at than men. In that way, we are to work together and compliment each other but in the book of Genesis when God created Eve, she was referred to as Adam's helpmate and suitable companion. To me, suitable companion says A LOT. A married couple needs to find a balance that works for them; some wives are more submissive than others and some husbands are more dominant than others. Yeah, D/s can be a huge part of a Christian marriage and I think as long as the Master in that marriage puts God's will first, his submissive won't really ever have to question whether or not she can serve both him and God. Its like anything else though ... She has to use her brain. If her Master told her to break the law, does she do it simply because her Master tells her to? If she's arrested, is a Judge going to care when her defense is that her Master told her to break the law and she was simply being an obedient slave? (Common sense people ... Please.)
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