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ORIGINAL: puella

In my opinion mixielicious, which really means very little in the grand scheme of things, marriage should not be used as a reward or threat or incentive.

What he is saying is... he will not marry you. If the only thing that is holding him from that is 25 lbs... I, personally would not want to be married to that person.

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

well in the health and safety forum i found this diet and i am going to use it since no matter how hard i work i cant get the initial poundage off [i am very physical day to day and it should be starting to show, but isnt!] and plan on following it up with regular either, gym or in home workouts.. i eat healthy already, its just that i seem to be stuck in this rut, lol!

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ORIGINAL: TGM

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

ha well this my infuriate you but i have known since day one being fat is grounds for termination [shrug]. so He claims. it doesnt bother me in the least, seeing as how, we will never really know till we get to that bridge. and considering i have been wanting to loose it for some time now maybe this is just the motivation i needed :)

Dear mixielicious,
I hope you take the time to think this through more thoroughly. Marriage is "for life" and if weight gain is "grounds for termination" then you're almost guaranteeing a divorce. A person's weight is variable through their life and there are many cases where it's not directly under their control. As geekygirl pointed out, you can gain a great deal of weight with certain illnesses or surgery (being given intravenous steroids after surgery is especially notorious for enormous and uncontrollable weight gain). I'm also suspecting that if a simple gain of 25 pounds is enough to prevent this marriage, the relationship may be better off kept as a non-committed one; thus giving you the option of being quickly and easily dismissed without the usual costs and red tape of a divorce.

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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

well in the health and safety forum i found this diet and i am going to use it since no matter how hard i work i cant get the initial poundage off [i am very physical day to day and it should be starting to show, but isnt!] and plan on following it up with regular either, gym or in home workouts.. i eat healthy already, its just that i seem to be stuck in this rut, lol!

These get slim quick diets are not a solution to the long term goal of maintaining a specific weight. If you truly want to lose weight & get on track as to maintaining that weight then you have to make a complete life change as to your physical routine & your nutritional intake.

Don't get into that vicious cycle of going up & down the scale because in all reality.... this is far more detrimental to your overall health than being a mere 25 pounds over weight.

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These get slim quick diets are not a solution to the long term goal of maintaining a specific weight. If you truly want to lose weight & get on track as to maintaining that weight then you have to make a complete life change as to your physical routine & your nutritional intake.

Don't get into that vicious cycle of going up & down the scale because in all reality.... this is far more detrimental to your overall health than being a mere 25 pounds over weight.

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MstrssPassion

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

D said He would marry me if i lost 25 lbs... granted, this would only peg me 5 lbs lighter than when i first met Him [my profile weight is not accurate, lol but was at the time] it would take me down to .... 120/119 [very reasonable i am only 5'4]

now.. the debate is, is He being purely superficial, or giving Himself a time span to prepare ? lol
 
perhaps its a third reason...maybe he's concerned for your health.  at 145 you're on the high end of 'normal' for your height. as we age our metabolisms slow and we (especially women) tend to gain.  as we all know, carrying too much weight sets a body up for a myriad of health problems.  so losing some weight now will put you ahead of the ageing/weight curve and should significantly lower your risk for weight related health problems.  that said, losing 25 pounds would put you at the low end of normal for your height.  low body weight (and the usually associated low body fat) has its own set of problems.  perhaps you could compromise and shoot for losing around 10-15 lbs?  in any case, the goal of losing 25 lbs could backfire.  most studies show that the most successful long term weight management tools are change in lifestyle sorts of things.  when the goal is a target number there is often a backlash once that number is reached and more times than not there is a subsequent weight gain.  in any case...good luck with your weight loss endeavor. 

[and no it was not a joke or teasing on His behalf]

the ideal trophy slave should weigh 119 ha


D's out there: would you require something like this from your slave, before even formally proposing?

i dont mind, its a great motivation to finally get on that diet!

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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Sounds like motivation to me. I've read enough of your posts to know that you love him and it sounds like the love is returned. You know him best mixie.

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

well in the health and safety forum i found this diet and i am going to use it since no matter how hard i work i cant get the initial poundage off [i am very physical day to day and it should be starting to show, but isnt!] and plan on following it up with regular either, gym or in home workouts.. i eat healthy already, its just that i seem to be stuck in this rut, lol!

These get slim quick diets are not a solution to the long term goal of maintaining a specific weight. If you truly want to lose weight & get on track as to maintaining that weight then you have to make a complete life change as to your physical routine & your nutritional intake.

Don't get into that vicious cycle of going up & down the scale because in all reality.... this is far more detrimental to your overall health than being a mere 25 pounds over weight.

passion, i know thank you. i am especially aware of how dangerous caloric intake can be after a fasting diet. i am just utilizing it as part of my over all plan to get a jump start on things

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

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ORIGINAL: TGM

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

ha well this my infuriate you but i have known since day one being fat is grounds for termination [shrug]. so He claims. it doesnt bother me in the least, seeing as how, we will never really know till we get to that bridge. and considering i have been wanting to loose it for some time now maybe this is just the motivation i needed :)

Dear mixielicious,
I hope you take the time to think this through more thoroughly. Marriage is "for life" and if weight gain is "grounds for termination" then you're almost guaranteeing a divorce. A person's weight is variable through their life and there are many cases where it's not directly under their control. As geekygirl pointed out, you can gain a great deal of weight with certain illnesses or surgery (being given intravenous steroids after surgery is especially notorious for enormous and uncontrollable weight gain). I'm also suspecting that if a simple gain of 25 pounds is enough to prevent this marriage, the relationship may be better off kept as a non-committed one; thus giving you the option of being quickly and easily dismissed without the usual costs and red tape of a divorce.

wow all the silly standards so many other slaves have for grounds of termination i am SHOCKED this gets so much attention. first, we are both young, second, does anyone here actually believe this will still be the case when we are 40s and what we look like isnt as important? no i dont think so. people play all kinds of games in M/s why are some so appalling..

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

I think it's ridiculous to pretend that looks are not important in a relationship.  They are in mine.

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D said He would marry me if i lost 25 lbs...

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

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ORIGINAL: TGM

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ORIGINAL: mixielicous

ha well this my infuriate you but i have known since day one being fat is grounds for termination [shrug]. so He claims. it doesnt bother me in the least, seeing as how, we will never really know till we get to that bridge. and considering i have been wanting to loose it for some time now maybe this is just the motivation i needed :)

Dear mixielicious,
I hope you take the time to think this through more thoroughly. Marriage is "for life" and if weight gain is "grounds for termination" then you're almost guaranteeing a divorce. A person's weight is variable through their life and there are many cases where it's not directly under their control. As geekygirl pointed out, you can gain a great deal of weight with certain illnesses or surgery (being given intravenous steroids after surgery is especially notorious for enormous and uncontrollable weight gain). I'm also suspecting that if a simple gain of 25 pounds is enough to prevent this marriage, the relationship may be better off kept as a non-committed one; thus giving you the option of being quickly and easily dismissed without the usual costs and red tape of a divorce.

wow all the silly standards so many other slaves have for grounds of termination i am SHOCKED this gets so much attention. first, we are both young, second, does anyone here actually believe this will still be the case when we are 40s and what we look like isnt as important? no i dont think so. people play all kinds of games in M/s why are some so appalling..

Because marriage isn't a "game."

If he knows you want to lose weight and he wants to support you with a reward, that's fine. For example, I have been with Masters who promised to buy me a certain gift I had been wanting if I reached my weight loss goal for a certain time period. To me, that's supportive and loving.

It is NOT the same as playing games with something as serious as marriage. "Lose 25lbs and I'll buy you that new dress you want" is a supportive. "Lose 25lbs or I won't marry you" is just cruel and vicious and indicative of a shallow personality (coupled with his desire for a "trophy" slave.")