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AquaticSub -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 7:00:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DomImus

I can't wait for the "How to correctly dominate a female submissive from CM" thread.

That should be great fun.





Can we do a thread on how to dom subs while ON the forums? Cause that would just kinda amuse me...



peppermint -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 7:01:10 PM)

No offers to meet at a motel half way between to collared subs living 24/7 with their Dominants.  



Icarys -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 7:04:49 PM)

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That’s what I'm trying to help male Doms figure out. I know a lot of female subs are sick and tired of receiving pages and pages of messages that gross them out or just don’t appeal to them. I know that there are real Doms out there searching for real female subs, there just seems to be a great communication error on how to correctly approach these particular girls and have them actually respond to your messages.

I know there are many other pairings besides a M/f D/s couple, but that’s the type that is predominantly on CM so I'm starting with it as my main focus. No offence to female Doms or male subs or any others in-between.

As of right now, I'm compiling information. Half of which is the messages I'm receiving from a multitude of guys (most of which are those bad types of emails that girls do not wish to receive) and the other half is me asking girls how they would like a guy to message them.

If you would like to discuss this or help me out by telling me how you would like to receive messages, it would be a great help to me. Thanks in advance for reading all of this!

-tatsuchan ^^


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Seriously..A "Dominant" in my opinion should have figured out on their own that flashing their penis ain't gonna get ya a female worth having these days.







WyldHrt -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 7:05:20 PM)

How NOT to email a female sub on CollarMe
[:D]



RedMagic1 -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 7:06:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DomImus

Anyone who needs a instruction manual to do this should probably be avoided.

Don't be silly.  It's far better for a sub to find a dom who asks for advice and is willing to take it, than to find a dom who "knows everything."



AquaticSub -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 7:16:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

Seriously..A "Dominant" in my opinion should have figured out on their own that flashing their penis ain't gonna get ya a female worth having these days.



One of these days I want to figure out why guys send cock shots - other than a sort of Internet "flashing". I mean, I never even get the good ones. They all look really funny.



Icarys -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 7:25:31 PM)

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One of these days I want to figure out why guys send cock shots - other than a sort of Internet "flashing". I mean, I never even get the good ones. They all look really funny.


There's a thought. Be creative!

Dress it up with a sock puppet, A small pilgrims suit/ turkey for thanksgiving or Christmas bow for that holiday.




AquaticSub -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 7:31:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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One of these days I want to figure out why guys send cock shots - other than a sort of Internet "flashing". I mean, I never even get the good ones. They all look really funny.


There's a thought. Be creative!

Dress it up with a sock puppet, A small pilgrims suit/ turkey for thanksgiving or Christmas bow for that holiday.




Ok... I'll admit it. I would be amused by a guy sending me a picture of his erect cock dressed up for the holidays. Extra points if it was for Hanukah or Purim.



Icarys -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 7:39:01 PM)

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Ok... I'll admit it. I would be amused by a guy sending me a picture of his erect cock dressed up for the holidays. Extra points if it was for Hanukah or Purim.


Lol



NYLass -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 8:23:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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Ok... I'll admit it. I would be amused by a guy sending me a picture of his erect cock dressed up for the holidays. Extra points if it was for Hanukah or Purim.


Lol


I want to see one dressed up as a snowman, in a snowstorm...complete with carrot nose, top hat & snowballs.




AquaticSub -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 8:35:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NYLass

I want to see one dressed up as a snowman, in a snowstorm...complete with carrot nose, top hat & snowballs.




You know... I've got some spirit gum and make-up. I could probably make that happen if I had a willing penis to play with. [:D]



GotSteel -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 9:13:01 PM)

This thread brought to mind an old TV Funhouse clip to mind: http://thetravisty.com/Saturday_Night_Live/mov/Sexual_Harassment_and_You.htm

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1. Be Handsome 2. Be Attractive 3. Don't be Unattractive



CandleSwitch -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 9:21:42 PM)

Basically just posting my response to tatsu's email when she asked me this question...

Hi tatsu,
I have received a few decent emails here over the years. This is a new SN, but I have been a member of CM before, and have had a few positive email experiences. I'll list them, and if you have questions on any of them, you may drop me a line:

1) Email clearly indicates he's read my profile.
2) He has something interesting to share about the local scene or a venue I might enjoy.
3) He doesn't suggest I need him to keep me in line or talk about Mastering me in line two of an email that only has four lines total.
4) Good sense of humor.
5) Correct use of spelling and punctuation.

Hope this helps.
CanDle



weaselwelder -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 11:24:53 PM)

Read through the posts, and I have to say that many suggestions are untrue, at least for the women I message. I get about a 5% response rate, including people just messaging me to say they aren't interested or that just looked at my profile and didn't return my message. Usually, my initial email goes like this:

[Greeting]

[Brief statement of what in their profile or journal attracted me to them]

[If they have a profile pic, a gentlemanly statement regarding their physical attractiveness]

[Something about myself that I don't share in my profile that I think they'd like]

[Invitation to examine my profile and message me in return]

WARNING: The rest of this post is a bunch of numbers. I know love laughs at numbers, you don't have to tell me.

Now, I realize that anyone "new" and on here may get scared when they get a real message, and that I am nowhere near the norm, even for the BDSM world. That said, I see about a 30% response rate (only actual messages) from a vanilla dating site I'm on (yes, I'm open about being a kinky bastard when I message people there) and the published global data for there is a response rate (same) of 23%. Assuming unknown varialables to be equal, that implies about a 4% global response rate on collarme.

Sample space for personal messages: collarme n~80, vanilla site n=24 global: collarme n~900,000, vanilla n~1.4 million



GreedyTop -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 11:32:10 PM)

and for god's sake... keep track of WHO YOU HAVE ALREADY EMAILED!! 

I cant stand getting repeat emails from guys.  Who have obviously NOT read my profile... lol



mmsprecious -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/11/2009 11:37:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

and for god's sake... keep track of WHO YOU HAVE ALREADY EMAILED!! 

I cant stand getting repeat emails from guys.  Who have obviously NOT read my profile... lol



Oh absolutely! I forgot this one. Most amusing when you get a near duplicate of the barely a sentence first email from months gone by.



WyldHrt -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/12/2009 12:24:35 AM)


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and for god's sake... keep track of WHO YOU HAVE ALREADY EMAILED!! 
I cant stand getting repeat emails from guys.  Who have obviously NOT read my profile... lol

Good one, Greedy! I have a few that email me every month or two, always with the same copy/paste message. Ugh.

@WeaselWelder- I thought your profile was very interesting and well thought out, but there are no pics. I suspect that some of your sent mails are being filtered for this reason. You might want to consider putting up a pic or two and see if your response rate goes up. You don't need to show your face, a full body (clothed) shot of you from behind will do just fine, or one that shows you from the front but obscures your face. Other than that, my only suggestion is that you maybe make more with the funny with your initial approach. You are seeking an independent type of sub, and making us laugh is the best way to get a response :)



NihilusZero -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/12/2009 12:36:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Hierodule

I don't know. I didn't join this site to meet an Owner but I think it could be pretty daunting. I don't think there is anything wrong with asking for advice. I might not know exactly how to aproach guys here if my goal was meeting "the One."

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Agreed - particularly because some people are VERY particular about how they are approached, both online and offline. For a newcomer especially, it can probably seem impossible.

Oh, the woeful pity in my heart for two attractive, smart, young women professing they'd hypothetically potentially be at a disadvantage finding suitors on the site...

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NihilusZero -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/12/2009 12:39:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

Ok... I'll admit it. I would be amused by a guy sending me a picture of his erect cock dressed up for the holidays. Extra points if it was for Hanukah or Purim.

Or a privately made video?



weaselwelder -> RE: How to correctly email a female sub on CM (11/12/2009 1:01:11 AM)

If my messages were getting filtered, they wouldn't be opened. Under 20% are unopened. Also, I have a blank square for a profile pic, since I personally find body-only pics to be in bad taste and a turn off when I see them. On top of that, through experimentation, I've determined that the "no profile" filter only filters messages from profiles with no pic, no text, no audio greeting, and no video greeting.

All that said, I feel the need to point out that I was not complaining about my lack of responses. I've accepted that nice guys finish last, but that they'll also finish with someone who'll appreciate nice guys. My post was meant to show how being a nice guy works around here, and to imply my suspicion that the asshats get more, albeit not better, responses for less effort.



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