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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 2:58:31 PM   
Kitte9


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Status: offline 		Some of us really enjoy it. Some of our Dom/mes really enjoy giving it. Pretty simple stuff.

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 4:16:37 PM   
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And to the OP: you get her totally wound up with physical play and then wonder why she'd like you to finish it off the way nature intended? Pleeeaaassseeee!!! 

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 4:40:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think women have an inner need to be 'full' and crave that closeness, just as men instinctively yern to "stick it".

I question anyone who claims they don't mind meeting every desire of someone, while happily ignoring their own. It will only be a matter of time before humanity surfaces and requests are made. You must be making her feel alive and craving more of You...not just what You offer.

You may be able to find a happy compromise (not that You want to adress the fact that she has her own desires, but...) You could find a man and tell her, as Your slave, she is to fuck him. Get her needs of intimacy addressed, while still meeting Yours of no intimacy. But, if You don't want to share her, anticipate the end at somepoint in the future because humanity and inticts can only hide/be burried for so long.

(my less than humble take on it)


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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 4:43:31 PM   
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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 4:56:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		Something I'd really like to know...where it is written that men like/need/crave sex more than women do?  I wish everyone would stop perpetuating that myth.

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 4:58:44 PM   
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Something I'd really like to know...where it is written that men like/need/crave sex more than women do?  I wish everyone would stop perpetuating that myth.


It is in the Twue Guide To Human Sexuality, the be all & end all of everything right!
Actually while married my drive was wayyyy higher than my spouses. Thank gods for batteries

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 5:31:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Something I'd really like to know...where it is written that men like/need/crave sex more than women do?  I wish everyone would stop perpetuating that myth.


Then what excuse will women have to grind their "Anti-Male" axes and vent their own fealings of animosity?

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 5:45:40 PM   
goodgirl85


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Status: offline 		Maybe its because they weren't told that there wouldn't be sex involved. Maybe the term sex slave has something to do with it?
I can't even get off from straight sexual intercourse (only one guy two times has made me) and I couldn't even forgo sex. The feeling is just great. Plus, as someone else said to give yourself completly means for her to let you fuck her... whatever way you want (unless certain ways/entries are stipulated as a limit beforehand). If they are expecting sex and your still playing with them then maybe you are not being clear enough in your negotations. If you are playing with these subs more than once, then maybe they don't realize the no sex thing is a permenant thing. Shrugs.... Us subs have to deal with wanna be Doms and Doms who just want sex as well. Just move on t o the next one, but before you play with them make sure they understand NO SEXUAL INTERCOURSE at all.

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 5:49:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Are you kidding me?  What anti-male axes?  I may have an anti-idiot axe or even an anti-a**hole axe but they come in both flavors.  Feelings of animosity?  I don't blame my bad stuff on men...my stuff is my stuff.  Besides, I was asking about why people say that women love closeness and men just want sex.

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 5:58:15 PM   
beerwench


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Status: offline 		Why does A/anyO/one expect anything.  This is pure and simple to me a compatibility issue.  i have seen some great BDSM checklists.....0 is hard limit....to 5 require in my relationship.

In casual play i could accept no sex, but from a relationship and One Who is my Master....no way!  That's why talk comes before play.  Honestly, i would be one miserable slave/subbie whatever if i did not get a chance at a good fuck now and again, and to be more honest, now and again would simply not be enough for me.

i think the simplest answer is that they are the wrong sub for You and You are the wrong Dom for them.  i know that a submissive is there to please....but how deep is the desire to do that when the sub is not happy.  For a lot of females and men sex is a requirement.  i could give it up for a while, but for permanent?

i think honest up front discussion before play that clearly sets out Your thoughts on the matter would avoid a lot of this confusion.  Consider it a job interview, one can be a great sub and still not right for the position.

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 6:20:50 PM   
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Are you kidding me?  What anti-male axes?  I may have an anti-idiot axe or even an anti-a**hole axe but they come in both flavors.  Feelings of animosity?  I don't blame my bad stuff on men...my stuff is my stuff.  Besides, I was asking about why people say that women love closeness and men just want sex.


It wasnt a personal attack againt you bandit25 at all. Rather just a general snarky remark in regards to how when the issue of men wanting sex comes up, the opinion that we are all assholes comes up as well =)

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 6:42:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Something I'd really like to know...where it is written that men like/need/crave sex more than women do?  I wish everyone would stop perpetuating that myth.


Then what excuse will women have to grind their "Anti-Male" axes and vent their own fealings of animosity?


Can we still use the excuse that they are cheating bastards who always trade women in for the newer model when the older gave the best years of her life to support him?

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 8:46:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

It wasnt a personal attack againt you bandit25 at all. Rather just a general snarky remark in regards to how when the issue of men wanting sex comes up, the opinion that we are all assholes comes up as well =)


No one here, as far as i have understood,  has said men who want sex are assholes - just the op for his obvious obnoxious expectations and interpretations regarding "subbies"/slaves

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 9:19:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well tell ya what Helios, old buddy, just send those pesky sex-seeking subbies my way, I for one will do my best to oblige them

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 10:54:39 PM   
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It's really annoying that all these subbie-slaves demand sex every time.  Can't they respect me for my mind and emotions?  Please, I'm not just a piece of meat.


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I promise I'll respect you in the morning Lordandmaster....or at least as much as I did beforehand
oh I so agree with chicagochick  .....

On a more serious note it is a need, when in a relationship a necessity for me ... but I have only ever played when I had a Sir, when we were separated by distance I was not allowed to play with others as my sexuality was so intermingled with play neither He nor I thought I was capable of play without sex ... to each there own ... It has been a while since I have played at all and I imagine that this will not have changed and look forward to exercising such inclinations again ... but beleive me I would never see Him as "simply a life support system for a flogger. " YOU ARE SO BAAAAAAD Sinergy

I soooo needed a good laugh and a smile for the day thanks to all who provided it.

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/1/2007 11:02:06 PM   
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Well tell ya what Helios, old buddy, just send those pesky sex-seeking subbies my way, I for one will do my best to oblige them


I find it very hard to believe that many male Dom's have this problem.
It is almost always a female Dominant that has this problem.

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/4/2007 11:23:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Something I'd really like to know...where it is written that men like/need/crave sex more than women do?  I wish everyone would stop perpetuating that myth.


It is in the Twue Guide To Human Sexuality, the be all & end all of everything right!
Actually while married my drive was wayyyy higher than my spouses. Thank gods for batteries


Where were all the ones like you when I was fixing to start my marriage 25 years ago????

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/4/2007 11:41:38 AM   
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It wasnt a personal attack againt you bandit25 at all. Rather just a general snarky remark in regards to how when the issue of men wanting sex comes up, the opinion that we are all assholes comes up as well =)


Waitwait.  You mean you're not all assholes?  <blinks> 

When did this happen?! 

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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/4/2007 11:50:39 AM   
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RE: Why do subbies-slaves expect sex? - 6/4/2007 2:18:10 PM   
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