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actually R----, what I'm getting at, and something i invariably inspire;
acceptance, tolerance, and unconditional surrender.

one would think, that a submissive, more especially a SLAVE, like you, and so many others, would cultivate such traits, knowing she must, sooner or later.
What would you do if your master, who you'd been collared to for years, and whom you adored and loved, decided to start smoking? Would you dump him? ask to be released? Try to stop him? How would you exert your will? What if it were his house, or even better, you were married, so it belonged to you both legally?

I use smoking as an example, because you have such a hard stance on it. Nobody smokes in our house huh?..."even you my Master"...lol.

Such rigidity has no place in a truly submissive mind or heart. You might say that a sub has to be that way beforehand, to avoid situations, once surrendered, which she couldn't tolerate. Perhaps, but since most of the available subs I meet seem to have a multitude of similar rigidities, I often wonder if that isn't precisely why they remain available.

Sorry R----, subbies mustn't be ball-busters. Or ever plan to be.
If I ever did smoke in your house, it would be only because I knew you wanted me to, because you'd accepted me, unconditionally. because i'd made you so happy, you wanted to do something, anything, to make me feel comfortable, and I'd know you didn't mind, because you said you didn't.

I know you are incredulous at such a postulation, but it has happened to me before. I'm serious. I think what you fail to see is that a man, me, or any man, could ever make you that happy. So happy you didn't care what his kisses smelled like, or his semen tasted like. They'd be trivialities, and hugely overshadowed by any possibility of the alternative~ not having him.

just some things to ponder dear.
Your friend

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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

If it's Master/slave relationship based on Old Guard standards.. The Master has complete control over what goes down regardless of what the slave says.  For the D/s relationships that Don't follow Old Guard standards... Watered Down D/s according to Old Guard.   This whole process should be negoatiated.  

Big difference between TPE and PPE... Total power verse Partial Power.  For any TPE Relationships.. the Dom/Master has ultimate say and the sub/slave must obey and follow.  A sub/slave the opposes a Master very much in a TPE is grounds for release and for the MASTER to seek another slave that will truely submit to a 24/7 TPE relationship.    PPE D/s relationships have a bit of on going negation.. however in time the D/s aspects grow stronger as the relationship progresses... 

Still since Slavery is not legal, and since even submissives have human rights! Well, this means they have the power to stop things, and place demands as a Equal.  Most will do this is if it's over a serious issue..  I'm not talking about how well the socks are folded or not.. LOL...

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

Sorry, your domliness does not mean that her health should be compromised. Second hand smoke is a known health hazard. If she has any other breathing problems such as asthma, allergies etc then by insisting on smoking inside the house you could be deliberately harming her.

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If I ever did smoke in your house, it would be only because I knew you wanted me to, because you'd accepted me, unconditionally. because i'd made you so happy, you wanted to do something, anything, to make me feel comfortable, and I'd know you didn't mind, because you said you didn't.