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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:03:24 AM   
earthycouple


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I'd love to hear your opinions about driving such a distance, why you might do it; why you might not do it and if you have ever felt the need just to begin anew.

Because someone will ask....you all have such enquiring minds; I plan to go there vs his coming here because I wanna.  No big nefarious reasons.  Nothing like he's not capable, etc.  It is just what I chose to do in one of my moments of "Just do it and reap the benefit or pay the consquence mode" (I really love that about me *S*)


It sounds like you have made up your mind - so why are you asking us for our opinion?

C~



Not asking for advice.  I'm curious as to who's done or thought about doing something similar. 

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:04:54 AM   
asubmissiveheart


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Status: offline 		LadyPact the going time frame around here appears to be 2 weeks.

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:07:10 AM   
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I generally don't do the "drive to meet" someone else the first time around.  If I already have a trip scheduled somewhere, like Atlanta, and a person wants to meet Me there, I have no issues with that.  It's always cool to just get away for a while.
 
Reading all of the responses to the OP did bring up a curiosity.  Just exactly how long is a person supposed to pine away, and put their lives on hold because a situation doesn't work out?  Remind Me to consult everyone the next time a relationship doesn't have a happy ending.   


I think this is the problem when people air their personal business online.  From what I could tell she just ended an extremely short term, but live in relationship three weeks ago.  So I can't imagine after starting threadS about their wonderful relationship and then a thread about the dissolution of the relationship just a few weeks ago it would be remotely shocking that people are now just a wee bit skeptical and cynical when presented with the original post.

C~


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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:07:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it's not so much that she's going to meet someone that people are noticing, it's the fact that she publicly announced it.  Her question about travel distances could have been made without making it so personal.

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:08:38 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		So are we now supposed to wear black and go into public mourning for a year everytime a relationship doesnt work out??

And I see nothing petty about it, she has been compeatly open about how much she loves and misses him, and I have a feeling she has been even more open with Robert about her feelings than she has with us.....On top of that, no one here understands the reasons for the breakup better than Donna and robert so who are we to judge. Given the time I have spoken with both of them off the forum Id venture to say Robert is probably saddened to hear she is having so much trouble in her home and is glad she has the opportunity to get out and clear her head a bit.

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:08:54 AM   
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Not asking for advice.  I'm curious as to who's done or thought about doing something similar. 


Thanks for the clarification - then my answer to the question would be an absolutely not.

C~


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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:12:02 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		And yanno...some of us really do live pittifully dull and lonely lives and our only adult conversation in the day is this silly forum. I talk with a one year old, a two year old, and a seven year old all day other than the time I get to pop onto here when they are eating lunch or taking a nap. Sometimes we need to hear ourselves talk (or type) out our feelings to another adult who we hope "might" possibly understand what we are going through.

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:19:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		If anyone followed the story of D and robert, they parted not out of anger or hatred or lack of love, it was what it was--- and they parted friends---gees louise---if you know anything about D, She is a class act that does not do public drama--

Id' be checking those green eyes at the door toots.

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:22:13 AM   
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If anyone followed the story of D and robert, they parted not out of anger or hatred or lack of love, it was what it was--- and they parted friends---gees louise---if you know anything about D, She is a class act that does not do public drama--

Id' be checking those green eyes at the door toots.


If this is not public drama, WTF is public drama?
Where is Robert?
Is he reading this thread?
I am only reading one side of this story, and it is not his side.

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:22:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

So are we now supposed to wear black and go into public mourning for a year everytime a relationship doesnt work out??

And I see nothing petty about it, she has been compeatly open about how much she loves and misses him, and I have a feeling she has been even more open with Robert about her feelings than she has with us.....On top of that, no one here understands the reasons for the breakup better than Donna and robert so who are we to judge. Given the time I have spoken with both of them off the forum Id venture to say Robert is probably saddened to hear she is having so much trouble in her home and is glad she has the opportunity to get out and clear her head a bit.


Agreed :)

Donna, it's very easy to get mired in the mourning and grieving especially when you are still where everthing took place.
I imagine you probably see him everywhere in your day to day activities.. and that's hard. Been there, done that.

So take a break from it and try to clear your head. Try to have some fun.

It will become easier in time which I'm sure you already know .. smile

MC

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:22:54 AM   
MHOO314


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I think this is the problem when people air their personal business online.  From what I could tell she just ended an extremely short term, but live in relationship three weeks ago.  So I can't imagine after starting threadS about their wonderful relationship and then a thread about the dissolution of the relationship just a few weeks ago it would be remotely shocking that people are now just a wee bit skeptical and cynical when presented with the original post.

C~



I, quite frankly call it balls, to share Her experiences so others can see that there are real people here and not just a collection of jack leg men and beothces.

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:26:56 AM   
MHOO314


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If anyone followed the story of D and robert, they parted not out of anger or hatred or lack of love, it was what it was--- and they parted friends---gees louise---if you know anything about D, She is a class act that does not do public drama--

Id' be checking those green eyes at the door toots.


If this is not public drama, WTF is public drama?
Where is Robert?
Is he reading this thread?
I am only reading one side of this story, and it is not his side.



Well then I suggest you send a note to the Mods and demand that here on CM everytime someone posts about a past relationship, an experience, a question about an experience, the OP MUST bring the other party to attest to what the OTHER side looked like---pffffttt really.

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:29:02 AM   
GhitaAmati


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ORIGINAL: asubmissiveheart

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

If anyone followed the story of D and robert, they parted not out of anger or hatred or lack of love, it was what it was--- and they parted friends---gees louise---if you know anything about D, She is a class act that does not do public drama--

Id' be checking those green eyes at the door toots.


If this is not public drama, WTF is public drama?


Drama is going and hunting up old threads, then posting rude comments on them so they come back to the top of the list, just to throw shit in peoples faces. You easily could have gone and checked the date on that thread if you were really that f'n curious, without posting anything on it.

And do you really "need" to hear Robert's side of the story? Is it really any of your business? Dont you think dragging that in would be a whole lot more flippin drama than sitting back and allowing one forum member to post some of her feelings out in the open because she needed to get something off her chest and ask some advice about driving distances?

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:30:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm trying to figure out why your feel the need to defend earthycouple so loudly if you feel she's done nothing inappropriate. 

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:31:28 AM   
viperess


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Status: offline 		Greetings,
Personally i do not see where She is being cruel or using this thread as a dig or anything else negative as far as robert is concerned. From all i read about them and from talking to Her a time or two i have the feeling he would be happy She is trying to move on and find happiness. As for the trip i think it is a wonderful idea. Not only are You willing to open Yourself up to continuing on Your lifes journey but You are also going to an event which brings You happiness and joy. As i am on the other side of the tracks i know it is hard be you a M or s when traveling far distances to meet someone you hope to be involved in your life. i traveled close to 2000 miles to meet Master and would do it all over again if i had to. Not all meets turn out how you hope they will but it is like that in all of life. If you do not at least try you never know what you are missing. Some may say You should wait, that it has been to short of a time, that You are doing it on the rebound...only You know if You are ready to search again for that which You want. i wish You the very best on Your trip and if he is not the one for which You are looking then just know there is one out there it may just take time to find him.
Respectfully,

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:32:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		Aileen, that is a great question.

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:33:28 AM   
asubmissiveheart


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Status: offline 		Ghita, I am a submissive, I never said I was a GOOD submissive.
I am enjoying the drama.
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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:33:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've done it on more than a few occasions (even to the west coast).  A few were quite worth the trip.  A few were disappointments.  And a few were no shows.  So it's a real mixed bag.
 
I travel frequently anyway, so it's no big deal to me (and brought my golf clubs in case it didn't go so well and I had some time on my hands).  So long as the expectations aren't unrealistic, it's just an adventure to be enjoyed on its own merits.
 
Bottom line, in order to win the lottery you have to buy a ticket to play.
 
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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:39:35 AM   
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LadyPact the going time frame around here appears to be 2 weeks.


I saw on another thread that you looked this up.  That part, I find kind of amusing because I also went back to look at the date.  I'm kind of like that.  (Just a personal note about Me.  I'm a Libra on the Virgo cusp.  My interpretation of I want to lead with My heart, but I want it verified with the facts.  Enough of that.)
 
What I didn't go back and compare it to was the time ratio of moving on, to the length of the relationship.  I'm guessing the two/three weeks to see someone new after something that lasted two/three months is over, isn't really so bad in My book.  Maybe that's just Me, and My opinion is the minority here, and I can certainly live with that.
 

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RE: Breaking Free - 8/5/2007 11:39:40 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		Do I feel a need to defend anyone? Nope...Pretty damn sure Donna could defend herself if she felt like it. But I did get a quite personal feeling from the snide remarks towards her, because Ive been in the same boat. What the hell good is getting to know people on a forum and discuss ideas with them if we cant use  the forum and friends we've chatted with to deal with some of our own emotions. And dont anyone here tell me they have absolutly no emotional baggage, because if you somehow dont, its against TOS for anyone that young to be a member.

Also got kinda taken aback by the people who felt the need to rush to roberts defense who dont even know robert...or what hes feeling or thinking.

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