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Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:03:35 PM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		Greetings everyone:
 
I am curious.  From the very first day I started training with a Mentor, he taught me proper manners, and how I should act towards a Dom/me.  That was very important to him.  It is important to me now that I am a Mistress.
I cannot believe the conduct that goes on in the chat rooms here on CollarMe.   It is like the sub/slaves are downright abusive to a Dom/me at times, and that should not be allowed by a moderator, nor another Dom/me.
Sub/slaves please be aware that when you address a Dom/me to be polite and never curse at them.  This is very wrong.
You do not have to submit to another Dom/me, but you should show respect for them as we do their sub/slaves.
 
Regards, MissSCD
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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:06:31 PM   
VadFarkas


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Status: offline 		I see manners disapearing in everyday life as well.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:09:23 PM   
Grlwithboy


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Status: offline 		I think that little basic litterbox training lesson applies sub/sub Dom/sub and across the board.

Until someone green lights you calling them things it's not cool.


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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:14:52 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		There's no reason to treat someone differently because of their personal relationship orientation.  Expecting others to treat you differently because of your orientation unless you have formed a specific relationship with them is wrong and rude in itself.

However, good manners should be applied to everyone, regardless of orientation.  This is true of subs as much as dominants.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:17:43 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		i think online i treat everyone equal. no as a person in rt i do things like get the door. those kinds of things or say please or thank you on the phone or in person. online bcause it is so detached from a person. it is hard to feel or respond.. so i just reat everyone as a person ds second

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:18:04 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Cursing is a bad habit the world has accepted.  Cuss words are as common as adjectives.  For me if I am chatting online there would be no need to cuss because I don't cuss in general.  But for some turning that off is difficult.
It has nothing to do with "showing respect to a dom"  It would be just as rude if it went from sub to sub, dom to dom, bozo to bozo. 
Online, people are people.  They will act like people do.  A dominant is no better than then Joe Blow to someone who doesn't know them from adam.
Forget the differences between dom and sub.  No ONE person is no more deserving of respect based on some mythical title they give themselves.  The difference does not exist unless you are chatting with your dom or sub.  Everyone here is a person.  And will be treated like any other would. 
So, if a person indulges in the common language of cursing, thats probably what you are going to hear.  And if a person truly deserves cursing by their actions (which I still think it tacky), then I guess they get what they ask for. 
Treat people as you wish to be treated.  Hopefully they will follow suit.
Kyst

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissSCD


Sub/slaves please be aware that when you address a Dom/me to be polite and never curse at them.  This is very wrong.
You do not have to submit to another Dom/me, but you should show respect for them as we do their sub/slaves.
 
Regards, MissSCD


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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:20:03 PM   
leftofcenter


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Faramir

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissSCD

Greetings everyone:
 
I am curious.  From the very first day I started training with a Mentor, he taught me proper manners, and how I should act towards a Dom/me.  That was very important to him.  It is important to me now that I am a Mistress.
I cannot believe the conduct that goes on in the chat rooms here on CollarMe.   It is like the sub/slaves are downright abusive to a Dom/me at times, and that should not be allowed by a moderator, nor another Dom/me.
Sub/slaves please be aware that when you address a Dom/me to be polite and never curse at them.  This is very wrong.
You do not have to submit to another Dom/me, but you should show respect for them as we do their sub/slaves.
 
Regards, MissSCD


You have posted something deeply, deeply stupid.

This is very wrong.


Pfffft...I woke up my cat laughing at your reply Farimir..lol.  But to address the OP, many folks in the lifestyle regard each other as "humans" first...unless there's some personal relationship that they've both agreed on that warrants the dynamic you describe as manners.  Now, bad manners are just bad manners...but it sounds like you are really looking for a show of D/s protocol...and most of us just dont use that with strangers, or in casual conversation. 

I try to just be myself, and if that means calling someone a poopy-head from time to time..sobeit.  Most people would rather have you be yourself, then they know what they are getting into.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:20:18 PM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		Did I tell you all that, yes, I am a fake Domme?

This site has always been like this.  Thanks LatexBaby for sort of taking up for me, but I pretty well know it will be a half and half agreement/disagreement.

My slave will not curse another Dom/me.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:21:43 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Interesting, so you think it's ok to disrespect all non-doms?  Exactly how does your sub decide who is a dom before going ahead and cursing them?

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:33:32 PM   
MzMia


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Status: offline 		MissSCD, you are assuming because someone joins this website and puts the title of submissive
before their screen name, that they are really a submissive.
 
I have been here 3 years, and I would say that the majority of the males on here with the title of submissive
before their screen names, have an entirely different defintion of what you consider a submissive to be.
 
Just something to ponder.
If you stop expecting certain behaviors and accept things the way they are, life will be easier for you.
This is the internet, people can claim to be anything and usually do on here.
Until you get to know someone well, it is better to take everyone with a grain of salt. 

< Message edited by MzMia -- 8/8/2007 9:40:47 PM >

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:51:55 PM   
feastie


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Status: offline 		No one should ever curse anyone else out, online, in public, dominant or submissive.  However, no one should ever feel a sense of entitlement due to his/her orientation, except with regard to a perosn who has agreed to submit to him/her.

< Message edited by feastie -- 8/8/2007 10:01:38 PM >

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 9:59:04 PM   
arayofsunshine55


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From: San Francisco, CA
Status: offline 		I have never in my adult life needed anyone to teach me manners.  But my manners are not specific to rank or title.  anyone looking for some special treatment due to assumed title will probably find me lacking.  but I am really fine with that.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/8/2007 11:59:36 PM   
rmanrr


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Status: offline 		Greetings
to the OP, it seems that the anonymity of the internet strikes yet again. I know some folks in an online game which I have played for the past 3 years or so....they are really really arrogant, and real pita's in chat or in game mode, in real life though a nicer bunch you would go far to meet. A year or so ago we had a convention for the game in Vegas, met some folks from as far as Aus, Europe, UK....and to a T they were all decent in person....after we went back to respective abodes we all of course resumed killing each other. heh heh


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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 3:41:18 AM   
Twicehappy2x


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Interesting, so you think it's ok to disrespect all non-doms?  Exactly how does your sub decide who is a dom before going ahead and cursing them?


Why LA, as long as you have been at this you don't know the answer to that question?
 
Why they check to see if the have their MasterCard of course. Lmao.....

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 4:45:03 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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Status: offline 		I personally don't treat anyone differently because they claim to be a dom. I try to show respect for poeple in general. Their are those that make showing respect very difficult, but that has nothing to do with weather they identify as sub or dom.

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 4:48:56 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		So if a dom came up to your sub and said something really nasty to them, you would expect them to answer in a respectful and courteous manner?

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 4:50:38 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		*Hands everyone a copy of Miss Manners guide to the 21st century*

(My grandma still actually buys us all the newest edition every christmas)

There...all the manners you'll ever need to know...doesnt matter if person is Dom/sub/switch/whatever

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 6:02:57 AM   
MissSCD


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Status: offline 		I think MzMia is close to right on this one.  The entire issue is cursing at another person.
LA, I don't know who you are or what your problem is, but you are now blocked.
Pretty soon, half of this site will be blocked on my list.
My slave was trained in NYC 30 years ago, and I can assure you that he can distingush between geniune and idiots.   It is my rule for him to treat all Dom/mes with respect.  Which simply means Yes Ma'am or Yes Sir.
I say Yes Ma'am and Yes Sir.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 6:09:17 AM   
Aine


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Status: offline 		Ooooo "blocked"!!!

I'm sure she's torn....absolutely torn.

*gigges*


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RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. - 8/9/2007 6:14:46 AM   
slaveish


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissSCD

You do not have to submit to another Dom/me, but you should show respect for them as we do their sub/slaves.
 


First, "respect" is a subjective word. Second, it typically needs to be given before it is received in return, which includes not explaining to others what they "should" and "should not" do.


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