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bschwimmer -> RE: Submission & Married Men (9/16/2007 10:14:03 AM)
what if you were and the wife changes her mind and finds it sick? quote: ORIGINAL: earthycouple I'd be cool with it if wifeypoo knew why she was getting all that cool attention and seeing his changes. He, in my opinion, should have been honest with himself long ago. As it stands now, he might be honest to his submissive needs and wants but not to his wife. How fair is he to her in lying, sneaking, and hiding? No matter what the benefit to me, I'd be pissed when I caught my husband.

thetammyjo -> RE: Submission & Married Men (9/16/2007 10:27:06 AM)
Couldn't that apply to any situation? You love dogs, she claims she does too but over the years decides they are terrible creatures. The point is that if you have a loving relationship built on trust and honesty it should survive regardless of what you reveal. Of course the more you put off revealing things you fear may be rejected the most you are undermining the very idea that it is built on trust and honesty. Of course not all relationships, not even marriages, are built on trust and honesty. To reveal things in that sort of relationship is probably pretty much a request to end it. quote: ORIGINAL: bschwimmer what if you were and the wife changes her mind and finds it sick? quote: ORIGINAL: earthycouple I'd be cool with it if wifeypoo knew why she was getting all that cool attention and seeing his changes. He, in my opinion, should have been honest with himself long ago. As it stands now, he might be honest to his submissive needs and wants but not to his wife. How fair is he to her in lying, sneaking, and hiding? No matter what the benefit to me, I'd be pissed when I caught my husband.

MistressPav -> RE: Submission & Married Men (12/1/2007 8:59:46 PM)
If a married couple cannot get along in the sex and money department, they need to divorce. Life is WAY too short to have the "it's cheaper to keep her" mentality. I hope men value their psyche a little bit more than that. If YOU don't make yourself happy, no one else will! It's a fact that open marriages are the BEST marriages. Both know what the other is doing and fully approves and may join in on the activities. Life is good. Marry someone who will be not only your lover but best friend. Send wifeypoo packing if you're not getting what you need sexually.

petpete -> RE: Submission & Married Men (12/2/2007 6:28:37 AM)
Greetings F/folks. First of all i want to say i have been an admirer of DiannaVesta from Her modeling on the FemSupreme mags.. As for the topic i have to say that when i was married i would not dare let my vanilla wife know of my kinks, little alone be trained.. Ofcourse my marriage was somewhat very "vanilla" so i guess it failed. It would've been exciting for me to be allowed to be trained by the Curvaceous and Beautiful DiannaVesta but my ex wife would never understand this. It is considered taboo, (but i visited many proDommes) during the time i was married. In fact i had the urge to visit more prodommes while married then now that i am divorced.. The concept of being aroused for another Woman would never be understood by my ex wife and frankly of none of the Women i met so far.. Pleasure to meet the Beautifully proportioned Author of this topic but regrettably not having the chance to meet Her in real life.. Regards..

beeble -> RE: Submission & Married Men (12/2/2007 7:21:36 AM)
quote: MistressPav wrote: It's a fact that open marriages are the BEST marriages. [Citation needed]

CaSlut -> RE: Submission & Married Men (12/2/2007 8:04:33 AM)
There are thousands of us, submissives, in relationships where the other half (male or female, but mostly female I would guess) has zero interest in a BDSM relationship. So what do you do? Deny your feelings, or harbor resentment which will soon bleed over to everything else in your relationship? Or, you find an outlet. If you are truly submissive, you cannot just "put it away" someplace. I feel I am a better husband due to serving a Dominatrix, I can express my feelings more openly, and have gotten past the resentment I used to feel. The real question is: If married women would be open to being the Goddess that they can be, how different would this world be?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Submission & Married Men (12/2/2007 9:01:25 AM)
What if they do not feel Goddesslike? What if some other archetype fits them better? I have been telling men in vanilla marriage for years that if they just went on home and served their wives, IN THE WAY THEIR WIVES WANTED TO BE SERVED their lives would improve. Somehow that suggestion wasn't so yummy because the Mrs wasn't playing the desired role.

LadyPact -> RE: Submission & Married Men (12/3/2007 10:53:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CaSlut There are thousands of us, submissives, in relationships where the other half (male or female, but mostly female I would guess) has zero interest in a BDSM relationship. So what do you do? Deny your feelings, or harbor resentment which will soon bleed over to everything else in your relationship? Or, you find an outlet. If you are truly submissive, you cannot just "put it away" someplace. I feel I am a better husband due to serving a Dominatrix, I can express my feelings more openly, and have gotten past the resentment I used to feel. The real question is: If married women would be open to being the Goddess that they can be, how different would this world be? Who says some of Us aren't? (Sorry, couldn't help Myself there.) I'm kind of glad that this thread got pulled back up, as I enjoyed sitting back and re-reading it's contents. Funny how some things turn out, isn't it?

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