MissIsis
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This is common with either submissives or dominants, men or women. But there are people out there that just don't behave dishonestly. I would like to think they far outweigh the dishonest one. It is easy to convince ourselves that the dishonest ones abound, when those are the ones we attract to ourselves the most. Why? Each of us will have a different answer. I think it is a worthy question to ask ourselves.
First example you gave: From what you said, it sounds like she may have come up with an excuse to push you away, for her own reasons. Maybe something about the two of you together didn't quite feel like a fit. Rather than be direct & tell you, she may have chosen to spare your feelings & her own embarrassment at being direct with you.
2nd example: I have a difficult time with women who are looking for a father figure for their offspring. They find someone who promises the moon with regard to their family & then are disappointed or worse when things don't work out. I have much more respect for someone who figures out how to work & support their own families, when a parent is absent. (I speak from personal experience.) Those people, at least to me, in the long run, have much more to offer to someone who will be either their dominant or their submissive. Who knows, this woman could very well been lying about having offspring, because like the first example, may have been giving you an excuse to give you an out because she didn't feel comfortable with the fit.
Someone told me a story long ago, that may show both examples you gave, if the women were being truthful at all.
A woman has a plate that means the world to her. She loves it, keeps it on display, & cherishes it. One day, it falls off the wall & cracks. She tries to fix it, but can't erase the mark of the crack, so she puts glue in it to seal it the best she can. She still cherishes it. Time goes by & the plate falls again. The crack is still intact from the last fix, but this time, the plate breaks in 2, on a different place. She picks it up, glues it again in an attempt to fix it. The plate is never the same, but still she cherishes it.
Time goes by again, & this time, the plate is put in a more secure position. Still, it falls again & it is broken into many pieces. Somehow she manages to glue it back together, but some shards are missing. The plate doesn't look the same, but it was something she cherished, only now, she hides it in the bottom of her drawer. She takes it out from time to time, to look at it & thinks about all that happened to that plate. 50 years later, she still has the plate. She remembers all her painstaking care she took to try to fix it. She still cherishes it, but it will never be the same.
That plate has affected how she has treated other cherished items. She hides them, keeps them safe, much more protected, but no one can see the beauty of these cherished items, except her, in her own private world during those few moments when she decides to risk taking her cherished item out of hiding.
I think people's hearts are very much like the woman's plate. Once damaged, they may be fixed, but they are never the same.
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RE: Submissives burned by lies and games. - 
Crazy boy who strung Me along for months, saying so much right ... yet vanished when it came time to arrive here ... and it turned out he'd been collared for years to someone else and was just "testing himself" before finally going to live with Her 24/7! Was I pissed!! Well obviously he knew what to say, with all that training, so when I calmed down, I realised it had taken an expert to fool Me this time, and I felt just a little better about the state of My filters. At the moment I am hopeful of a new fem sub I am working with ... she is so much more direct to deal with than boys! And very analytical which I appreciate. Funnily enough, she's physically a bit lame due to a hip replacement, but so far, no signs of major mental lameness, just a bit of handleable baggage that's expected with anyone who's lived a few years! So, while I haven't entirely abandoned My "duck filters", I am feeling very good about where things are going. The first visit went wonderfully, and she will soon be here for 4-6 weeks, in a situation which will test U/us all in a good way. I guess I'll need to report back on My duck filters then! The other advantage I have is Master ... who is just that bit more emotionally remote from the situation and yet embedded in it, He is a wonderful second filter. Any Dom/me friends who could act that way for You Whippie? It can help to run things past someone else. 
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