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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 4:28:02 PM   
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Driver,

I think you misunderstood me a bit. I did not mean to imply ABC was any more based on power than CBT, rather the other way around. But CBT does work better in a consensual or cooperative setting, yes. And what I meant by rote learning is learning rules, rather than learning to obey or retraining fundamental mores and virtues to make room for Obedience.

You can work some elements of CBT without cooperation, but that will require a lot more insight than is provided by most mainstream works on the approach. A very basic starting point for it would be Pinker's books on evolutionary psychology, along with reading a bit about how the brain works, espectially executive function, attention, the different kinds of memory, and the circuits involved in determining salience and priorities between different cognitions. ABC can teach someone a coupling between an action and a punishment, creating some aversion. Full use of the cognitive sciences can redo the mental wiring that weighs the potential punishment against other concerns, or even train a reflexive aversion to the cognitions that might cause the undesired action to be undertaken such that the cognition is discarded or blocked out before it reaches the conscious decision-making process.

Caveat, that level may not be attainable in cases of abnormal dopamine function (e.g. aspies and ADD).

So, essentially, the cognitive sciences- of which CBT has become something of a spearhead, due to its unprecedented success- have the flexibility required to deal with things in a manner that suits the dynamic and the intended depth of the molding and shaping that the Master may want a slave to undergo. It takes time, but it sticks.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 4:33:36 PM   
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A/B/C fails to consider the cause of the aberrant/ or worthwhile behaviour and the power stakeholder (Dom/me) takes control from their perspective only.  The sub is self-empowered by doing what they are told is the correct action.


oh big aggrement on that one...  Motivation for the behavior in the first place is indeed a huge failing.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 4:38:53 PM   
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I’m going to let Aswad, Knight and you guys who concentrate on this stuff debate the particulars of which psychologist has the best ideas. I’ll read it with interest.



It should never be about which psychologist as the best ideas.

It should be about a specific tool works for a given sitaution  ... the pros and cons of it.  I have found having as many tools in one's toolbox as possible only increases one's ability to deal with a multitude of problems.  if all you have is a Hammer... hopeful all your problems are nails.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 4:45:48 PM   
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Aswad, I was using metaphor when I said I don’t think we are capable of diagnosing and treating problems. I don’t think any of us would be so foolish as to attempt diagnosing and treating real psychiatric problems.


~nods~

Sorry for misinterpreting you. I agree that major psychiatric problems should be referred to a licenced professional, although I would also note that there are unique sides to certain kinds of M/s and D/s relationships that have some relevance to those. For instance, someone here mentioned obviating the need for restraints in a slave whose drink had been spiked at work; his productive cooperation with the ER personell allowed them to not have several people restraining her while she was treated, as far as I recall. A sufficiently competent person can be a caregiver in a difficult time without breaking out of the dynamic, but most don't have time to take it that far.

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We all have different views based on our relationships and focus, but I see punishment is too often used to exact retribution from the wrong doer and to administer personal vengeance instead of rehabilitation.


Funny you should mention it. I've made a similar observation. Personally, I grew up in a culture where the legal system rejects the notion of retribution and punishment in favour of a rehabilitation-centric approach, leading to recidivism rates that have not been higher than about 1/7th of what the rates are in the US, pretty much across the board. At best, it's been about 1/20th. Obviously, I don't find the concept of retribution or punishment pro se particularly constructive, or even easy to grasp beyond a strictly individual level (i.e. vengeance, which is hardly applicable to this kind of thing).

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The best that can be said about punishments for those who use them is that penalties clearly defined beforehand for a certain offense will limit the ability of the Dom to exert personal vengeance that could be far worse than the prescribed punishment.


Actually, they can be used constructively.


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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 4:49:48 PM   
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If all you have is a Hammer... hopefully all your problems are nails.

Very well put.  People are complicated, maybe some where in the future someone will come up with the "grand unified field theory of human behavioral psychology"... but I don't think its happened yet.

Also personally kinda ironic the way you put it, lately my problems have been wiring, plumbing and drywall... for which a hammer isn't very useful. LOL

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 5:00:37 PM   
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I think M/s relationships offer a better opportunity for successfully applying such concepts.


I'd tend to agree.

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The problem with debating who has the best ideas is that it tends towards idolizing individuals and that can leave us blind to others with good ideas.


I'm by no means idolizing Pinker, nor demonizing Skinner.

I'm debating their respective ideas on their own merits, not the merits of the authors.

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Second, the minute you decide someone has the best idea on something... someone else comes along with a better idea (life's just perverse that way).


It's a moving target. Which is how it should be. Similarly, we get input, we adapt it to our needs, and we apply it, in a continous cycle of successive refinement, where some of the input will be from the outside, and some of the input will be from the relationship and the responses to what we do. Science does have some useful ways to speed it up, though.

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At a certain point the conversation becomes something only a few can participate in, and that means it profits the remaining majority nothing.  I'd like to hope this thread and some others like it serve an educational purpose for those who have very real questions about the topics at hand.  When I start getting emails from people asking me to explain what is being discussed, I know it's time to step back to the basics.


Point taken. It may not be a good idea to delve too deeply into it. I'm going to have to pass on the basics beyond commentary, though, as I'm rather crap at simplifying thousands of man-hours of dense reading on cognitive science and psychopharmacology into a "readers' digest" format. I just don't know where to begin, or how to proceed to "dump" it in a coherent and understandable manner, or where to stop. Good books on both ABC (incl. ABA) and CBT are available, though.

Note that I'm in no way saying there's anything wrong with a readers' digest format, or those who prefer it.

It just isn't my strong suit, though I can keep my comments at that level, if desired.


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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 5:05:32 PM   
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The best that can be said about punishments for those who use them is that penalties clearly defined beforehand for a certain offense will limit the ability of the Dom to exert personal vengeance that could be far worse than the prescribed punishment.


Actually, they can be used constructively.


I don't mean to butt into this indepth discussion you guys are having, but can you give examples of where punishment is used constructively in a rehabilitative sense? 

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 5:21:06 PM   
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I don't mean to butt into this indepth discussion you guys are having, but can you give examples of where punishment is used constructively in a rehabilitative sense? 


Well... when Ted Bundy was given the final punishment... His behavior was forever modified and it was constructive for all the women that he would come in contact with in the future  *w*

so... guess it matters what you think is constructive

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 5:30:26 PM   
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Haha..certainly rehabilitated him. Ted Bundy would have gotten killed riding around on his motor scooter soon enough anyway.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 5:37:24 PM   
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Point taken. It may not be a good idea to delve too deeply into it. I'm going to have to pass on the basics beyond commentary, though, as I'm rather crap at simplifying thousands of man-hours of dense reading on cognitive science and psychopharmacology into a "readers' digest" format. I just don't know where to begin, or how to proceed to "dump" it in a coherent and understandable manner, or where to stop. Good books on both ABC (incl. ABA) and CBT are available, though.

Note that I'm in no way saying there's anything wrong with a readers' digest format, or those who prefer it.

It just isn't my strong suit, though I can keep my comments at that level, if desired.

I know what you mean, its an acquired skill and one I've had to work at... and still work at.  When trying to present technical topics in lay terms I have to be very conscientious about how I write (and usually do a few rewrites) to keep things in a form that is approachable.  There have been past discussions on psychology here in the forums where I had to take a lot of time with my posts.  It's rewarding though when you get notes from people telling you you helped them understand something they couldn't before.  Makes my whole day.

My point is, don't leave the discussion.  I'd rather we all work together to take various concepts and present them in a form most readers can make use of.  There's no reason we can't all be part of that.

You might also post some titles for some books on the subject because a) I'm always expanding my reading list and b) others might be interested as well and c) I'd post some but I'm not at home and can't recall all the titles, authors, and ISBNs from memory.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 5:46:22 PM   
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I don't mean to butt into this indepth discussion you guys are having, but can you give examples of where punishment is used constructively in a rehabilitative sense? 

Simple example... taking a drug that causes you to feel sick at your stomach when you drink alcohol.  This is given to some alcoholics to help them in breaking their addition (habitual behaviors) by countering the reinforcer with a more powerful punisher.

Put another way... the alcoholic drinks because getting drunk is rewarding to them, thus making it a reinforcer.  Since we can't remove the effects of alcohol on them as a reinforcer, we have to find a way to counter it.  One option is to present a stronger punisher, an aversive stimulus, which in this case is the nausea that then occurs anytime they drink alcohol.  This works in cases where the level of reward they gain from the alcohol is overpowered by the punishing effect of the aversive stimuli.  Once the habitual behavior is broken its easier to manage and further alter, though we have to be aware that there may be periodic attempts to reassert the old behavior (call extinction bursts).

That would be an example of a punishment being used very literally in a rehabilative sense.  Note however that this is not punishment in the more common punitive sense.  Its not about hurting the person or "getting even" but about helping that person change a behavior which they may not be able to change unassisted.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 5:54:39 PM   
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Padriag, I suppose that is a good example. You make it physically impossible for the bad behavior. Physical restraint of sorts with the Antabuse pills. Easy enough.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 6:13:30 PM   
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Not really physically impossible... you might have noticed I put a caveat in there... that the aversive stimulus was stronger than the reinforcer... that's the catch.

Suppose you have someone who is so strongly addicted to alcohol that its power as a reinforcer was stronger than the aversive effect of the nausea... they'd probably keep drinking in between puking.

If we simply make the behavior physically impossible, all we've done is remove the possibility, but not removed the behavior.  As soon as the behavior becomes possible again it will reassert itself.  So what we have to do is modify that behavior and that means that choice and the possibility of engaging in it must remain present.  What we do want to do is either remove what is reinforcing it (that's generally the first choice, but as with my example, not always possible), and where we cannot do that we can present an aversive stimulus.  In the latter case we need to select an aversive stimulus that is both appropriate and strong enough to overpower the reward of the reinforcer.  If we fail or make a poor choice, the behavior will continue.  Which is of course what makes all this tricky, otherwise behavior modifcation would be as easy as ABC (pun intended).

There's another element we need to consider as well... immediacy.  The more immediate a reinforcer or punisher is, the more effective it tends to be.  Going back to the above example, since it takes awhile to get drunk (for most people anyway), but the onset of the nausea is very rapid, that makes the nausea more effective than the drunkenness because its more immediate.  The reverse would also work, let's say you wanted someone to do something that was unpleasant, but whatever made it unpleasant was delayed.  If you could find a way to present an immediate reward, you have better odds of inducing the change in behavior.

To put all this in kink related terms...
Using physical restraints to prevent a submissive from engaging in a behavior will not change the behavior, only temporarily suspend it.
Screaming in anger at a submissive to stop doing something may temporarily suspend the behavior, but only for as long as the fear of that "punishment" remains effective.
If a submissive were behaving badly to get attention (attention being the reinforcer), by not providing that attention when they behave badly we remove the reinforcer, the behavior will eventually subside.
If a submissive were behaving badly in a way we could not safely ignore (we couldn't avoid giving attention, the reinforcer), then we need to present a form of punishment aimed at making the "reward" of attention resulting not worth it... in other words, we use the stronger aversive stimulus to spoil the enjoyment they might otherwise get from the attention.  Again the behavior will eventually subside and extinguish.

That's a simplistic set of examples but should be sufficient to build off of.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 6:27:03 PM   
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So the physical effects of Antabuse and drinking would be so unplesant that the person wouldn't drink. Well I must say that is one measure that would most certainly work as long as you made them take the pills.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 7:22:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

I don't mean to butt into this indepth discussion you guys are having, but can you give examples of where punishment is used constructively in a rehabilitative sense? 


Quips about the death penalty aside, the antabuse is a potential example. Risperidone can do similar things for sex in some people, if WP is right (I can't recall seeing that side-effect mentioned elsewhere), by causing them to get nauseous upon orgasm, possibly vomiting. But we weren't discussing drug assisted bits here.

I'll try to outline the mechanism here; please bear with me despite the length.

When I was a kid, I used to love smoked salmon on bread. Once, however, I ate it just before I vomited for entirely different reasons. Since that one event, I would get quite nauseous at so much as the smell, let alone the taste. I later desensitized myself to the point where I can eat it, then left it at that. But fixing it took more time than causing it.

The reason for this is basically that I didn't see it coming.

In nature, it is often fatal to make a mistake when it comes to what you eat. So vomiting generally registers as bad, because the bad makes us learn not to repeat the mistake. Of course, in this case, it wasn't a mistake, but figuring that out requires knowing things that we couldn't have known at the time this mechanismdeveloped. A simpler way is needed.

So nature cheats.

The subconscious parts of the mind assume that the time between two events describes how likely they are to be related. Technically, that isn't so, but it's close enough that it really doesn't matter from a survival perspective, so nature hasn't had any good reason to build a better mechanism for this. (Cf. temporal distance learning)

Of course, vomiting is one thing, but what about pleasure? Pain? Joy? Injury?

Clearly, some responses are more important than others, and the ones that push hardest on our buttons, are the ones that were and/or are relevant to survival, and the ones that draw on something we have already learned. Apart from that, there is the intensity of the response, which is also a significant part of how hard our buttons are pushed.

Now, how does this mesh with learning?

Simply put, whenever something pushes one of our buttons harder than we expected it to, whether in a good way or a bad way, the mind takes that as a cue to pay attention, and a subconscious learning process takes place, wherein the context that the wrong guess occured in becomes associated with the actual outcome.

But this part of the mind needs the result to be- at least in part- unexpected to work.

When a person is raped by someone they trust, they subconsciously take in as much detail as their mind can handle under that level of stress (which may be only a few parts of the whole; so-called "triggers"), and the mind learns to engage the same mechanisms and responses when the trigger (e.g. a smell, a touch, or even arousal) is encountered again.

The surprise of betrayal cements whatever "predictive" factors the mind latched on to.

When a person with panic anxiety or phobia walks into a situation where they fully expect it to be triggered, and it unexpectedly doesn't, this can often immediately dissolve the whole learned expectation and its attendant discomfort, tenseness and so forth, which can be a big part in making progress toward mastering the problem.

The surprise that it didn't turn out bad diminshes or removes the predictors.

When a sub / slave tries to cross a limit, succeeding with flying colours (whether by chance or thanks to very careful orchestration to insure that they do succeed), and they see that look of great pride, approval and love in their dom / master's face, this can be catharctic and will often make them more eager to try it again in the future.

The surprise that it turned out great creates one or more predictors, or alters existing ones.

Now, that covers the mechanism involved in a cursory manner.

Punishment by itself yields compliance, although a known punishment is much less of a deterrent than an unexpected one, and lacks much of the formative impact. Not much to my tastes. However, it can be used as a part of a whole to systematically create good predictors for obedience and bad predictors for disobedience. When obedience is what you want, this is effectively rehabilitation. But we see it elsewhere, too. When the boss tears you a new one for a mistake, you take care not to do it again. When you get shocked by an electrical appliance, you pay attention to electricity. And when a vanilla clicks a link to Goatse, they learn not to click links on the Internet indiscriminately. This, too, is rehabilitation, but only in the sense of improvement. Good strategies employ as many elements of controlling the inputs to learning as possible, and direct them all at the desired goal.

If you want your dog to stop begging at the table, one approach is to simply ignore it and not give it any of the food afterwards, until it tires of trying. When it leaves you alone, and not before, you give it the leftovers when you're done. Usually straight away, but sometimes needing a few repetitions, it will realize that it gets its share if it waits, but not if it doesn't.

Consistency can be useful in maintaining behaviour, but when establishing it, that will make a much more superficial impact than one would get from giving a stronger feedback than expected (i.e. by not creating expectations in advance). Surprise is more likely to avoid the need for maintenance, because it sticks.

Hope that makes some sense and addresses the question adequately.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 7:56:08 PM   
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Hope that makes some sense and addresses the question adequately.

If it doesn't, it was a damn fine effort on a very complex subject!

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 8:00:04 PM   
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I know what you mean, its an acquired skill and one I've had to work at... and still work at.


You seem to be missing my point slightly. I'm used to giving the "readers' digest" version of most of the stuff I do, including technical subjects (computers, security, electronics, etc.). But some of what I do with regard to "psychology" (I don't really practice it, so much as integrate it into how I interact with people) is tacit knowledge. And what I have read includes a lot of primary sources (e.g. research papers) that aren't structured or even targetted at anything specific. The sum of interlocking bits and pieces that I've got tucked away in my mind, along with the guesswork and experience, is too complex for me to dump it. I don't have a problem extracting some small piece of it to cover some specific issue, but I do have a problem with coherently organizing it into a self-contained package.

To take an example, a computer expert who knows how to use layman's terms and analogies can explain an element of computing to a layman, but if you ask them to give enough information to allow a layman to start writing computer programs of significant complexity, let alone dump all they know about it (or, worse yet, what they know about the rest of the field at the same time), very few will be able to do that in a written form. Those who work with training and teaching people how to do these things will learn how to do so, but those who don't will have to go through the interactive process a few times before they have a sufficient grasp of that to be able to impart the same knowledge in writing.

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It's rewarding though when you get notes from people telling you you helped them understand something they couldn't before.  Makes my whole day.


~nods~

I've had some of those. They make my day, too.
And on a variety of topics, I have kept things fairly down to earth.
In other cases, such as this one, not so much; my apologies for those times.

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My point is, don't leave the discussion.


Me? Leave a discussion? You must be thinking about another Aswad.
I have the bad habit of being the last one to leave.
Working on that, too.

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I'd rather we all work together to take various concepts and present them in a form most readers can make use of.  There's no reason we can't all be part of that.


I'd love to. As I said, interactive works best for me in that regard, and makes it easier to be intelligible.

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You might also post some titles for some books on the subject [...]


For an advanced audience, anything on cognitive science by Pinker, McClelland, Fodor, Chomsky and Lakoff should be useful. Research papers that tickle your fancy, of course, particularly that which deals with animal models (esp. primates) and artificial intelligence. I'd suggest picking up Stephen Wolfram's "A New Kind of Science" for an introduction to emergent properties, as well. As for how the brain is wired, I would say (heresy, yes, I know) that wool-gathering on Wikipedia with a tabbed browser will be adequate unless you really want to get into it.

For a general audience, "How the Mind Works" and "The Blank Slate", both by Steven Pinker.
They are written for a general audience, yet cover a fair bit of ground in cognitive science.
I think "Behaviour Therapy and Beyond" by Arnold Lazarus is still current.
That one covers a lot of ground in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
Also, certain books on NLP have been useful to others.

For both, thinking about it, observing it, experimenting on yourself and volunteers, etc...
In the end, it has to come together in your head in order to be useful, after all.
That is the only reason I mentioned NLP, which I've not studied.
Exchanging experiences with others is very useful.

Hope this helps.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/28/2007 8:04:11 PM   
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If it doesn't, it was a damn fine effort on a very complex subject!


Thanks. That makes it worth the effort.

(See? We're seeing practical examples of positive reinforcement already. )


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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/29/2007 2:00:14 AM   
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Let me add my thanks, too. You certainly explained a lot there. It is apparent you spend a lot of time on this subject. Thanks again.

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RE: Discipline, Punishment, and a Crazy lil thing calle... - 8/29/2007 2:01:07 AM   
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He dips His lid;
To all the contributers here, particularly Aswad and those that have further stimulated Aswad's contributions- Thankyou.  I would hasten to add this is the best thread  that I have read in my times on Collar Me.  

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