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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 1:08:30 PM

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 2:17:23 PM

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As I watch this thread I think of the so called text book that people think are out there to be Dom and sub..... While there are responsibilities on BOTH parts, can some of you stop with this is how it's SUPPOSED to be? This shit is individualized. Elitism went out when my chaps were worn down.

People will invariably live their lives as they desire. However, I see no harm in articulating and then defending a set of values with which to organize one's life. Nor is there harm in one person evangelizing and reaching out to persuade others the merits of a particular value set.

Even if we do not agree with the value proposition in question, by tolerating the question we allow values to be a part of the general discussion here--which I believe is beneficial to us all. There is more to life than personal desire, and it follows there should be more to a lifestyle than a particular flavor of kink; the "how" and "why" of any lifestyle should, in my opinion, be a sublime question with myriad answers to chew upon.

It is not elitist to inject words such as "right" and "wrong" into the conversation.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 3:42:09 PM

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Merc?

You -still- jonesing after me? After how many days now (or has it been a week already)?

Man you are one easy bird to toy with.

I can just hear Beth:

"Bumkgin, Bumkgin, Bumkgin!!! That's -all- you ever talk about. You don't love me any more. Why don't you just go throw yourself at him and ask to be his love-slave??!!"

To which I'd have to say:

"Beth, I'm straight, and he's just not my type."

Back to the block bag for you, boyo.

buhbye

That was completely uncalled for, Bob. I don't believe Beth has ever said a word to you, so for you to bring her name into your little testosterone war with Merc is beyond rude. How would you feel if people brought up your wife and used her in that way?

You owe Beth an apology and I would suggest, if you desire discourse with others, that you refrain from bringing innocents into your wars. I can't tell you how disappointed I am right now.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:17:59 PM

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Merc?

You -still- jonesing after me? After how many days now (or has it been a week already)?

Man you are one easy bird to toy with.

I can just hear Beth:

"Bumkgin, Bumkgin, Bumkgin!!! That's -all- you ever talk about. You don't love me any more. Why don't you just go throw yourself at him and ask to be his love-slave??!!"

To which I'd have to say:

"Beth, I'm straight, and he's just not my type."

Back to the block bag for you, boyo.

buhbye

That was completely uncalled for, Bob. I don't believe Beth has ever said a word to you, so for you to bring her name into your little testosterone war with Merc is beyond rude. How would you feel if people brought up your wife and used her in that way?

You owe Beth an apology and I would suggest, if you desire discourse with others, that you refrain from bringing innocents into your wars. I can't tell you how disappointed I am right now.

Celeste

I would think several days of whining about me being here would justify a humourous reminder that he has something else to do than try to harass me off the board.

And I fail to see how making light of merc's obsession somehow insults Beth.

It certainly isn't my "little testosterone war". merc could have moved on a long time ago. I certainly did.

As for what you decide to do and feel ...

<shrug>

That's really up to you, isn't it?

I've already said I don't pander for popularity.

'nuff said on that.

Moving on.

On edit: Just noticed the statement I highlighted.

Fact is, Bita, merc has already brought my wife into this by denying her existence and claiming this is a ploy to lure in the sympathetic.

Perhaps you missed that in the "decline of collarme" thread.

I just consider the source and move on.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:25:33 PM

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Bob - you do have some cool things to say - I know because I have read them... However it is lost when posts are made like these. Anything that one goes on to say is tainted, when a person makes ungentlemanly poke at another mans submissive, partner or family in the name of 'funning' and it is pokes like that which loses your voice and your integrity.

Kind of ironic, considering the thread.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:38:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Bob - you do have some cool things to say - I know because I have read them... However it is lost when posts are made like these. Anything that one goes on to say is tainted, when a person makes ungentlemanly poke at another mans submissive, partner or family in the name of 'funning' and it is pokes like that which loses your voice and your integrity.

Kind of ironic, considering the thread.

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I've lost neither my voice nor my integrity.

Anyone who wishes to block me for this or anything else I've said, or simply ignore me, etc., is invited to do so.

I'll still be here, contributing my 2 cents worth for those who are interested.

I've never needed 'community' approval to be who I am.

It's a little late in life for me to start worrying about image.

So I'll be me and accept the consequences for my decisions.

Let the chips fall where they may.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:39:04 PM

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I've lost neither my voice nor my integrity.

Anyone who wishes to block me for this or anything else I've said, or simply ignore me, etc., is invited to do so.

I'll still be here, contributing my 2 cents worth for those who are interested.

I've never needed 'community' approval to be who I am.

It's a little late in life for me to start worrying about image.

So I'll be me and accept the consequences for my decisions.

Let the chips fall where they may.

Ooooohhhh!! Bigger font... KingBob wins again...

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:43:05 PM

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So I'll be me and accept the consequences for my decisions.

Let the chips fall where they may.

:: watches bob get buried under a huge pile of chips ::

Someone had to say it.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:48:53 PM

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How else is one going to become a level 75 Dark Elven warrior Dom with plus 8 enhanced Leather Pants of Invincibility?

Geez....first, I got to go learn how to fight so I can be as uber of a Dominant as the other boys.

Now I got to reach Level 75 AND get the 8+ enhanced Leather Pants of Invinvicibility?

At least, the pants would help me to avoid fights....

...since I cant fight.

Never had a violent nature and never had a reason or the opportunity to learn.

Learning to fight wasnt one of the things my dad never taught me.

I have zero problems admitting this, because this is just simply the man I am, as I sit here in my own flaws and glories.

But apparently...based on the stereotypes surfacing here, I dont measure up with the other Billy Bad Ass dominants posting here, since I cant go knock the teeth out of someone at a bar because he called my "girl" babe like a real man would.

I do have one thing going for me...I'm stupid.

Stupid enough to try and defend someone I cared about where I had absolutely no chance of winning and as a result, wound up face down on the concrete, bleeding from the nose with one hell of an aching chest and stomach.

At least, he forgot about the other person. Gotta count the small victories.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:50:57 PM

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Bumkgin: Anyone so insecure as to rant at me for my usage of recognizable words can step up, rant, and get blocked like any other idiot (and no Lucky, I do not see your post as a rant).

"The coward only threatens when he is safe." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Happy birthday Johann 258 years young today! He doesn't look a day over 240.

Merc?

You -still- jonesing after me? After how many days now (or has it been a week already)?

Man you are one easy bird to toy with.

I can just hear Beth:

"Bumkgin, Bumkgin, Bumkgin!!! That's -all- you ever talk about. You don't love me any more. Why don't you just go throw yourself at him and ask to be his love-slave??!!"

To which I'd have to say:

"Beth, I'm straight, and he's just not my type."

Back to the block bag for you, boyo.

buhbye

I cant say I am very impressed.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:51:14 PM

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I do not block a soul. It is a waste of time. Even if a person seemingly has 'nothing' to say, I learn from that 'nothing'. Those that block, do so at their own loss. Those that choose not to, move onwards and grow.
As the disclaimer goes - is how I believe.

And obviously the consequence is of no consequence. Whether you feel Merc is trying to drive you out, is no excuse for attacking an innocent party. That is what a bully does.

As I said - you have some good things to contribute as I have read - but then my thoughts may be irrelevant to another. But to become what one bemoans, taints all that is written - whether people who are interested read it or not.

Never become to old and too jaded to care.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:52:15 PM

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...to try and defend someone I cared about where I had absolutely no chance of winning and as a result, wound up face down on the concrete, bleeding from the nose with one hell of an aching chest and stomach.

You don't have to learn how to fight, but you might want to work on the bobbing and weaving part...

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:54:29 PM

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As for what you decide to do and feel ...

<shrug>

That's really up to you, isn't it?

Indeed.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:56:16 PM

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You don't have to learn how to fight, but you might want to work on the bobbing and weaving part...

First time, I have seen a guy that big more agile than me. I mean, wow.

I used to play soccer all threw my child and teenage years and have pretty good reflexs, but man...I didnt even see that first punch coming.

At least, the one I got him with in in the jaw made him spit blood so we were both bloody, even though one of us wasnt standing.

I'm actually kind of happy. I beleive firmly that a good ass kicking is a healthy growing experience for any boy.

I can think of a few adults here that clearly missed out on that one.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:57:00 PM

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It certainly isn't my "little testosterone war". merc could have moved on a long time ago. I certainly did.

So "moving on" is blocking the person and publicly announcing it, then unblocking them so you can read what they say, make a nasty comment to it and then make another public announcment about blocking them again.

Huh... whoda thunk it?

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 4:58:18 PM

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I used to play soccer all threw my child and teenage years and have pretty good reflexs, but man...I didnt even see that first punch coming.

Sorry that a sense of helping got you bruised up. I'm no fan of fights, and will do just about anything to end them as quickly and easily as possible, in great part because you never know who (or what) you are dealing with.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 5:01:22 PM

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I used to play soccer all threw my child and teenage years and have pretty good reflexs, but man...I didnt even see that first punch coming.

Sorry that a sense of helping got you bruised up. I'm no fan of fights, and will do just about anything to end them as quickly and easily as possible, in great part because you never know who (or what) you are dealing with.

I was young and caught up in delusions of grandeur and chivalry.

I've grown up since then.

But...the experience taught me...that if push came to shove and it was someone I trully cared deeply for, then I had in me to do what was needed.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 5:04:31 PM

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Rabbit, you don't have to be a billy bad ass. There have been more than a few posting who have indicated that's not what they want nor important to them. You don't have to be able to kick anyone's ass to make a woman feel safe with you... sometimes doing just the littlest things can do that, like taking care of her when she's not feeling well even though she's the "slave."

However, the reality of this world is that knowing how to defend yourself can come in handy, and as you probably already know, beats ending up face down with a bloody nose. You might try a judo class, which is great for self defense and doesn't require strength (and is just about perfect for wiry guys like us). Plus it can give you a boost to your confidence.

And confidence is one thing the ladies find very attractive.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 5:11:10 PM

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Rabbit, you don't have to be a billy bad ass. There have been more than a few posting who have indicated that's not what they want nor important to them. You don't have to be able to kick anyone's ass to make a woman feel safe with you... sometimes doing just the littlest things can do that, like taking care of her when she's not feeling well even though she's the "slave."

However, the reality of this world is that knowing how to defend yourself can come in handy, and as you probably already know, beats ending up face down with a bloody nose. You might try a judo class, which is great for self defense and doesn't require strength (and is just about perfect for wiry guys like us). Plus it can give you a boost to your confidence.

And confidence is one thing the ladies find very attractive.

Thats good because I find Billy Badasses to be incredibly funny people lol. I would hate to be one.

I've considered Judo and its actually something I intent to endeavor in at a future date, but life being life and money being money, I simply dont have the room for it right now with balancing surving and future college.

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RE: Also part of the game: Dom responsability - 8/28/2007 5:13:48 PM

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I have never been a big fighter, at 6'2 most people just don't start shit with me. Years ago I took a job as a bouncer in a place where the previous guy was a serious karate badass, I knew him and frankly the guy fucking scared me, skill and pschosis are a bad combo. Anyway, he got his nose busted bad and quit. Enter me. I did get in a couple of fights but I avoided far more, even telling a few guys that I knew they could beat the shit out of me but I told them to look around first and realize all this pussy would then be off limts to them. Seemed to work pretty well.

Any idiot can get in a fight, avoiding one is often the better course of action.

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