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RE: What is it with these intolerant posters? - 9/3/2007 8:51:15 PM   
BoiJen


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SomkingGun I'll agree with you on that. That's not what my bitch was. That's just the way the law is wirtten. Which I'm sure I'm not the only with a few laws that I'd like to see changed.

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RE: What is it with these intolerant posters? - 11/19/2007 5:35:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

ehhh I give up. Apparently the point of my rant has gone over the top of some people's heads. And other's just don't care to see it. Done for now.



Actually, the subject is over your head. Do not assume that those that do not agree with you are stupid, or that those with a kink that is different from yours are stupid, as one could argue that only an imbecile would submit to anyone. One should never assume the stupidity of others based upon their actions. Albert Einstein needed help getting dressed and would routinely get lost on his way to work, yet no one would call him an idiot. And, many years ago, I knew a Particle Physicist that drove a Ford Pinto every day (you would have to be at least my age to know the stupidity behind that).
It is simply a matter of taste. It is also a matter of behavior. Remember, in a regular vanilla dating situation, the woman has the power, since the man asks her out and she has the power to accept or refuse the date. The same way, when a submissive asks a dominant for a particular action, it is the dominant who has the power to agree to or refuse the action. It is a matter of pure logic that the one who is in the position to say yes or no is in charge, which automatically subjugates the one soliciting the favor.
Besides, what is the harm in identifying the kink up front, as the submissive is probably just trying to find a like minded dominant. It is up to them to later work out how far they want the fantasy to go (I suspect that the submissive would just be happy to find a dominant willing to engage in castration play).

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RE: What is it with these intolerant posters? - 11/19/2007 5:56:52 AM   
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RE: What is it with these intolerant posters? - 11/19/2007 5:58:00 AM   
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I really hate it when I forget to log Her off...anyways

You missed it too.

I'm not bitching about anyone's kink. There's a big difference between letting someone know your kink up front and going out and messaging random women to cut your balls off. One you have a relationship with the woman...because being upfront would mean you have something to be upfront about...there's a relationship at stake...friendship romance sex whatever. The other IS idiocy. It's like walking up to a chick at the mall..."Hi my name is Bob....can you cut my nuts off please?" You just don't do it.

And if you go back and check...since the thread has been fairly dead for a while, Mr.Ressurection, the POINT of the thread was NOT the kink...it was the length a "submissive" is willing to go for their kink. Risking the legal health of a "Dominant" for your kink isn't very "submissive."

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RE: What is it with these intolerant posters? - 11/19/2007 6:01:18 AM   
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BoiJen,

I have not and am really not interested in the reviewing of a 6 pages long thread but I am curious was RACK Brought up?

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RE: What is it with these intolerant posters? - 11/19/2007 6:06:50 AM   
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After reading all this i just cant get the picture  of the Queen in Alice in Wonderland screaming Off With Their Head.

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RE: What is it with these intolerant posters? - 11/19/2007 6:13:07 AM   
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lol Eric

Steel I dunoo if RACK was brought up. If you read the first page or so I go into detail about the legal ramifications of actual physical not chemical castration in most US states.....as it's illegal to practice medicine without a license...and castration is considered a medical surgery when consented to. And the silliness of asking women you've not laid eyes on to cut off your junk. Being aware of a risk doesn't make it okay in the law's eyes.

I also get not wanting to read 6 pages of the stuff. To sum it up...it turned into an assumption of my motivation...some people assumed I was attacking the kink...rather than the motivation and actions of some people who claim to be submissive. I hope that wasn't too much info. I personally don't feel like looking through 6 pages to find out if RACK was brought up either.

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RE: What is it with these intolerant posters? - 11/19/2007 4:06:21 PM   
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BoiJen,

Thank you for that, It was interesting because we just had this discussion on another board I belong too, What it came down to is that RACK nor SSC help when Legalitry is implied, the phrases most commonly used were "It's a way to give those who need it a false sense of security"

You are VERY right in what you said in the post above I don't know all that was said in General, but literally speaking the Law don't really care that you thought it over long and hard and decided you wanted to let someone castrate you. The only reason I even bring it up is because I feel that if two people feel an uncontrolable need to do something to each other and they are aware that it may not be safe or sane then I step aside and let them have at it.

I am Not condoning thier activities rather deciding that I am not the person who should care.

I see your point and thank you for the clearification I no longer need to wonder if I really should read all 6 pages.

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RE: What is it with these idiots? - 11/19/2007 4:35:15 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

quote:

ORIGINAL: chellekitty

and we can't consent to our own assult and battery so when ever we ask a dominant to do any sort of impact play, aren't we infact, asking them to do something illegal?


Assault and battery are classified as non-consentual crimes. When someone consents to them they are no longer a crime. That's my interpretation of the law...not everyone's.

And even in consent of this act (castration) it's still considered a medical procedure. Therefoe doing it with or without consent is practicing medicine without a lincense and therefore completely illegal.

And goddamnit I hate when I do that!



No, that's pretty much NOT the law in most states, although as CL pointed out before and has here, Texas does have a misdemeanor exclusion for consentual assault.  In most code states, which is most states, you cannot legally consent to a misdemeanor assault and any act that has the potential to cause serious bodily injury is a felony.  Guess what, many general bdsm acts have the potential to cause serious bodily injury, it is not all that high of a hurdle to prove.  So no, legally, it isn't all that different from many things at least I and I know others do.  Serious bodily injury and/or acts that may cause it is the distinction, not our sensabilities.

Chelle is quite correct.  Our laws in the US make it very clear that not only is consent not a defense (other than Texas, I'm not aware of any other exclusion states), the victim doesn't even have to participate in the prosecution anymore.  You can thank OJ for that as the laws have changed to a notolerance domestic violence policy based on that case.  And yes, what we do is domestic violence under most statutes.  It is violence (acts causing bodily injury) amongst people with family or intimate relationships.

The simple fact is this.  I agree from my personal viewpoint castration is a serious permanent injury that requires medical knowlege and should not even be considered in a d/s relationship BY EITHER PARTY with someone that does not have that knowlege period and I would seriously question the mindset of someone requesting it as it is a permanent life-changing act with very wide-spread ramifications for the person it is done to.  However,that doesn't make one an "idiot" and I have to say, my partner questions my mindset about things I want and I do at times his as well.  I'm also fairly certain most authorities would call me an "idiot" for what I freely and voluntarily enjoy taking that makes me orgasmic.

However, castration's legality or the lack thereof  is not the reason why I believe it is different than what I do which also has the potential for legality issues for my partner.  Whether we want to believe it or not, wiitwd is not legal in most places.  I'm pretty sure I'm never going to run to authorities with my bruises and blisters, however, so I'm not sure legality is at all much of a consideration in my relationship.    

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RE: What is it with these idiots? - 11/19/2007 5:27:44 PM   
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First off, being stupid or short sighted isn't illegal because stupidity is often in the eye of the beholder. As unbelievably hot as I find this story and the accompanying photos, there's not a thing illegal about it. The only things that would have been illegal would have been if one of them claimed to be a doctor or one of them was forced/coerced into doing it without their consent. http://www.bmezine.com/news/pubring/20050401.html 

Wait... No... It's a bad thing. Unsafe! Insane! Consensual is irrelevant! Quick! Send them to jail! They performed surgury without a license. On each other. With their teeth. And they didn't provide aftercare for each other! ACK!

quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

I have a rat up my ass (not literally) about intolerance and judgement of others kinks at the moment
I'll get over it lol. Ive sat on not responding to this thread for a couple of days now to make sure i really did mean what i said and that i wasnt off the cuff ranting -  and i wasn't


My intolerance here isn't the kink. It's the fact that some s-types are willing to risk the legal well being of a D-type for their fucking fantasies.


Those mean ol' submittives, leading those poor ol' dominates astray and getting them arrested... Bad subs, bad. Actually, tops have a responsibility to make sure they aren't playing with moronic whackjob bottoms just like bottoms have a responsibility to make sure they aren't playing with the moronic or psychotic. And should they choose to play with the moronic or the psychotic... Oh well. *shrug*

I understand the drive to protect. I just figure folks are grown up enough to protect themselves. Or they should be, anyway.

The reason I'm rambling and babbling about all this is, I have to wonder where the law comes into play in your OP. The only way a top could get arrested for an extreme body modification is if the bottom sued or pressed charges or the top misrepresented themselves in some way, "No really, I'm a doctor, I am!"  Otherwise people could not, would not be doing any extreme body mods like these: http://www.bmezine.com/service/samples/tour4.html

Consent. It really truly does matter.

If it were me,  I absolutely would do it. If I could be firmly convinced of the seriousness of the person. If I could be firmly convinced of their capability to handle such things. If I could be firmly convinced of the capability of reasoning out the potential pitfalls and long term consequences of the person who wanted such an extreme body modification. Last but not least, I would absolutely do this if I were capable of doing the extreme body modification in as safe a manner as possible. Sadly, I am not convinced of my own abilities to do such things... no matter how panty dripping I find the idea of chomping off someone's finger.

Anyway.

If I had the ability to do of such things, and all that... I would find the best, most airtight bodymod waiver on the planet. I'd have on camera discussions, preaching doom and gloom in my bestest hellfire and brimstone voice about the potential negative consequences and pitfalls. I'd do everything I possibly could to make sure my ass was as covered as it could possibly be.... it still might not give me a get-out-of-jail free card should the bottom decide to have me arrested.

Then again, most judges are people. With that sort of paper trail, and that much documentation, many judges might see two consenting adults, in a consenting act of stupidity wherein BOTH partners were willing to do this stupid thing without any form of coercion, and tell both parties to get the hell out of their courtroom and to quit wasting their time.

I've seen it happen and the annoyance of the judge amuses me crap out of me every time.

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RE: What is it with these idiots? - 11/19/2007 5:50:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sazmira

First off, being stupid or short sighted isn't illegal because stupidity is often in the eye of the beholder. As unbelievably hot as I find this story and the accompanying photos, there's not a thing illegal about it. The only things that would have been illegal would have been if one of them claimed to be a doctor or one of them was forced/coerced into doing it without their consent. http://www.bmezine.com/news/pubring/20050401.html 

Wait... No... It's a bad thing. Unsafe! Insane! Consensual is irrelevant! Quick! Send them to jail! They performed surgury without a license. On each other. With their teeth. And they didn't provide aftercare for each other! ACK!

quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

I have a rat up my ass (not literally) about intolerance and judgement of others kinks at the moment
I'll get over it lol. Ive sat on not responding to this thread for a couple of days now to make sure i really did mean what i said and that i wasnt off the cuff ranting -  and i wasn't


My intolerance here isn't the kink. It's the fact that some s-types are willing to risk the legal well being of a D-type for their fucking fantasies.


Those mean ol' submittives, leading those poor ol' dominates astray and getting them arrested... Bad subs, bad. Actually, tops have a responsibility to make sure they aren't playing with moronic whackjob bottoms just like bottoms have a responsibility to make sure they aren't playing with the moronic or psychotic. And should they choose to play with the moronic or the psychotic... Oh well. *shrug*

I understand the drive to protect. I just figure folks are grown up enough to protect themselves. Or they should be, anyway.

The reason I'm rambling and babbling about all this is, I have to wonder where the law comes into play in your OP. The only way a top could get arrested for an extreme body modification is if the bottom sued or pressed charges or the top misrepresented themselves in some way, "No really, I'm a doctor, I am!"  Otherwise people could not, would not be doing any extreme body mods like these: http://www.bmezine.com/service/samples/tour4.html

Consent. It really truly does matter.

If it were me,  I absolutely would do it. If I could be firmly convinced of the seriousness of the person. If I could be firmly convinced of their capability to handle such things. If I could be firmly convinced of the capability of reasoning out the potential pitfalls and long term consequences of the person who wanted such an extreme body modification. Last but not least, I would absolutely do this if I were capable of doing the extreme body modification in as safe a manner as possible. Sadly, I am not convinced of my own abilities to do such things... no matter how panty dripping I find the idea of chomping off someone's finger.

Anyway.

If I had the ability to do of such things, and all that... I would find the best, most airtight bodymod waiver on the planet. I'd have on camera discussions, preaching doom and gloom in my bestest hellfire and brimstone voice about the potential negative consequences and pitfalls. I'd do everything I possibly could to make sure my ass was as covered as it could possibly be.... it still might not give me a get-out-of-jail free card should the bottom decide to have me arrested.

Then again, most judges are people. With that sort of paper trail, and that much documentation, many judges might see two consenting adults, in a consenting act of stupidity wherein BOTH partners were willing to do this stupid thing without any form of coercion, and tell both parties to get the hell out of their courtroom and to quit wasting their time.

I've seen it happen and the annoyance of the judge amuses me crap out of me every time.


Having been a participant in the criminal system for about 14 years now (no not as a criminal), I can tell you this is mostly wishful thinking and nullification of the law is incredibly uncommon and rarely done by judges, mostly juries and even then incredibly rarely.

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RE: What is it with these idiots? - 11/19/2007 6:22:42 PM   
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Edit: I apologize for continuing a dead thread. I missed that part.

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3Having been a participant in the criminal system for about 14 years now (no not as a criminal), I can tell you this is mostly wishful thinking and nullification of the law is incredibly uncommon and rarely done by judges, mostly juries and even then incredibly rarely.


Which law was broken by two folks agreeing to amputating a body part again?

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RE: What is it with these idiots? - 11/19/2007 7:38:50 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sazmira

First off, being stupid or short sighted isn't illegal because stupidity is often in the eye of the beholder. As unbelievably hot as I find this story and the accompanying photos, there's not a thing illegal about it. The only things that would have been illegal would have been if one of them claimed to be a doctor or one of them was forced/coerced into doing it without their consent. http://www.bmezine.com/news/pubring/20050401.html 

Wait... No... It's a bad thing. Unsafe! Insane! Consensual is irrelevant! Quick! Send them to jail! They performed surgury without a license. On each other. With their teeth. And they didn't provide aftercare for each other! ACK!

quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

I have a rat up my ass (not literally) about intolerance and judgement of others kinks at the moment
I'll get over it lol. Ive sat on not responding to this thread for a couple of days now to make sure i really did mean what i said and that i wasnt off the cuff ranting -  and i wasn't


My intolerance here isn't the kink. It's the fact that some s-types are willing to risk the legal well being of a D-type for their fucking fantasies.


Those mean ol' submittives, leading those poor ol' dominates astray and getting them arrested... Bad subs, bad. Actually, tops have a responsibility to make sure they aren't playing with moronic whackjob bottoms just like bottoms have a responsibility to make sure they aren't playing with the moronic or psychotic. And should they choose to play with the moronic or the psychotic... Oh well. *shrug*

I understand the drive to protect. I just figure folks are grown up enough to protect themselves. Or they should be, anyway.

The reason I'm rambling and babbling about all this is, I have to wonder where the law comes into play in your OP. The only way a top could get arrested for an extreme body modification is if the bottom sued or pressed charges or the top misrepresented themselves in some way, "No really, I'm a doctor, I am!"  Otherwise people could not, would not be doing any extreme body mods like these: http://www.bmezine.com/service/samples/tour4.html

Consent. It really truly does matter.

If it were me,  I absolutely would do it. If I could be firmly convinced of the seriousness of the person. If I could be firmly convinced of their capability to handle such things. If I could be firmly convinced of the capability of reasoning out the potential pitfalls and long term consequences of the person who wanted such an extreme body modification. Last but not least, I would absolutely do this if I were capable of doing the extreme body modification in as safe a manner as possible. Sadly, I am not convinced of my own abilities to do such things... no matter how panty dripping I find the idea of chomping off someone's finger.

Anyway.

If I had the ability to do of such things, and all that... I would find the best, most airtight bodymod waiver on the planet. I'd have on camera discussions, preaching doom and gloom in my bestest hellfire and brimstone voice about the potential negative consequences and pitfalls. I'd do everything I possibly could to make sure my ass was as covered as it could possibly be.... it still might not give me a get-out-of-jail free card should the bottom decide to have me arrested.

Then again, most judges are people. With that sort of paper trail, and that much documentation, many judges might see two consenting adults, in a consenting act of stupidity wherein BOTH partners were willing to do this stupid thing without any form of coercion, and tell both parties to get the hell out of their courtroom and to quit wasting their time.

I've seen it happen and the annoyance of the judge amuses me crap out of me every time.


The one you referred to when you posted this I assume, which is what I was responding to.  In general, an agreement to commit a crime is most often called conspiracy in america though. 

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RE: What is it with these intolerant posters? - 11/20/2007 4:02:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

I really hate it when I forget to log Her off...anyways

You missed it too.

I'm not bitching about anyone's kink. There's a big difference between letting someone know your kink up front and going out and messaging random women to cut your balls off. One you have a relationship with the woman...because being upfront would mean you have something to be upfront about...there's a relationship at stake...friendship romance sex whatever. The other IS idiocy. It's like walking up to a chick at the mall..."Hi my name is Bob....can you cut my nuts off please?" You just don't do it.

And if you go back and check...since the thread has been fairly dead for a while, Mr.Ressurection, the POINT of the thread was NOT the kink...it was the length a "submissive" is willing to go for their kink. Risking the legal health of a "Dominant" for your kink isn't very "submissive."



Wow. First, I didn't notice the dates until after I posted. Next, is there any difference between "Bob" approaching a strange woman at the mall seeking body modification and MsKittyBlack advertising to choke or stick needles in someone on video? Unless she is an ACLS certified medical professional, she is putting herself in all kinds of legal jeopardy, as needles can break in the body and travel about doing untold damage, and strangulation or asphyxiation are ALWAYS dangerous and can be construed as attempted murder. So, just by being a Domme that engages in high risk behavior is inherently hazardous, and therefore the odd "odd" request from a sub isn't going to increase her legal liability. Or in the words of my elders, "there is no harm in the asking." The increase in legal exposure is in the engagement of the "odd" request, which puts the onus on both. After all, MsKittyBlack, I am sure, like the majority of dommes, is not a simpering imbecile that follows any wild request without first evaluating all of the pros and cons. Thus, you've nothing to worry about for your own situation; and others? They can worry about themselves as they have the freedom to choose; and it is up to them to choose wisely. So, BoiJen, I've missed nothing. I've just followed an extraordinarily simple line of logic that in no way begins to test my vast intellectual capacity.

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RE: What is it with these idiots? - 11/20/2007 5:37:07 AM   
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Dear BoiJen
This was a fascinating programme on the issue shown here on TV in April;
http://www.channel4.com/health/microsites/E/eunuchs/


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