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ORIGINAL: slaveofKaos

I don't understand why people can't just be honest and straight forward from the beggining it would save people a lot of time. I am curious as to if others on here have come across this, done it themselves, and or what people generally think about it.

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ORIGINAL: Wildnfreehrt2004

Seen it, experienced it, don't tolerate it.

I'm looking for honesty, honor, integrity and respect - and if not found in the beginning when a relationship is supposed to be at its best, it probably won't be found farther into it, therefore, the only trust I have is that the deceptions will continue.




well said

Wildy

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ORIGINAL: slaveofKaos
he basically said he gets more responces if he doesn't mention he is involved with someone else

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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

i don't accept dishonesty...i don't buy bananas just because they are on sale either...i just can't change every dishonest person on CM or on the internet...choosing my battles...
it looks like the OP has talked to the person in question and he see's nothing wrong with what he is doing and she will be unlikely to change his mind....i have had intense discussions in the past with people who were outright cheating on their spouses....i did nothing to change their minds...choosing my battles...i can do nothing to change their minds....why waste my valuable time when it can be better spent doing other things?

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ORIGINAL: slaveofKaos

I recently came arcoss someones profile that I know, however the name was different and there was no mention of this Dom's wife and the pictures of the two of them were not up. I asked him if they were still together and he told me they were, but that they each have their own profile and a couple profile, and that this was his. I thought no big deal people do that all the time, but I thought it was kinda weird that nowhere did he even mention he was in any kind of a relationship. I asked him why he didnt mention her at all and he basically said he gets more responces if he doesn't mention he is involved with someone else. My Master and my slave have both told me in the past that not giving all information that is known about something is called a "half lie" and that a "half lie" is still a lie, a deception. Granted someone considering him for a Master should ask a question like "are you involved with anyone one else in any kind of relationship?," but what got to me was that he made it clear to me that unless they specifically asked him a question like that, he would try to build a bond with the girl before telling her, probably in the hopes that she would just love him as a Master and not care about the fact that he didnt tell her in the beggining. This really got to me though I thought about those whose time would be wasted building a relationship with this person the whole time him coming off like he is a single Master looking for a slave. I mean the only people who wouldnt write him if he put that he's married are the one's that will turn him down as soon as they find out he is, and he will probably I would hope get turned down even by people who would have considered it for not saying something (basically lying) from the start. I don't understand why people can't just be honest and straight forward from the beggining it would save people a lot of time. I am curious as to if others on here have come across this, done it themselves, and or what people generally think about it.

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

In my opinion if you are part of a couple / dynamic you really should state it on your profile. Why hide it? Giving as full a picture as possible of yourself in your profile helps find people who may be compatible to you.
As Chelle says i'm not shocked', nor am i but rather im not shocked that someone is doing this, it seems to be a trend here really. What is sad is that it has become such a trend that people just roll over and accept the dishonesty and think its no big thing to be deceitful.

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Easy tiger, that wasn't a dig at you.
 

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ORIGINAL: kc692

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

In my opinion if you are part of a couple / dynamic you really should state it on your profile. Why hide it? Giving as full a picture as possible of yourself in your profile helps find people who may be compatible to you.
As Chelle says i'm not shocked', nor am i but rather im not shocked that someone is doing this, it seems to be a trend here really. What is sad is that it has become such a trend that people just roll over and accept the dishonesty and think its no big thing to be deceitful.

And some that used to be deceitful now think its a big thing for the same of others......(not directed at you, of course.....).

But anyway this is a thread about honesty and i'm shocked you would so blatantly lie in it

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

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ORIGINAL: kc692

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

In my opinion if you are part of a couple / dynamic you really should state it on your profile. Why hide it? Giving as full a picture as possible of yourself in your profile helps find people who may be compatible to you.
As Chelle says i'm not shocked', nor am i but rather im not shocked that someone is doing this, it seems to be a trend here really. What is sad is that it has become such a trend that people just roll over and accept the dishonesty and think its no big thing to be deceitful.

And some that used to be deceitful now think its a big thing for the same of others......(not directed at you, of course.....).

Yeah, and others who are honest pay the price, whilst those who are deceitful don't. It's a funny old world where you can't do right for doing wrong and those who think they know really don't know anything !!
Oh and of course there are those who learn from mistakes too and actually practice what they have learnt.
But anyway this is a thread about honesty and i'm shocked you would so blatantly lie in it