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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/27/2007 3:38:57 PM

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I'm very glad you dont mind, but thats not really what I was saying in the OP. Yes I realize that a slave should ask questions especially important ones like that, but the fact that someone would try to hide it for as long as possible and decieve a potential slave is to me being deceptive and starting a relationship off on a lie.Its also fine that you could care less how many people your Master is out there having other relationships with, but not everyone is like that. I personally want to know if someone im with is having sex with others because it can be very dangerous to me. I also happen to be very proud that my Master says on his profile that he owns me. He lets people know and why should he hide it? So he can have one maybe two conversations with someone before they find out and run because he's involved with someone? My Master and I are poly and he will let everyone know that right from the beggining. Your Master sounds like a good guy he obviously lets people know that your around, and im sorry you dont like other slaves contacting you. In a former poly relationship I was in my Master had me talk to his other slaves because we all needed to be compatible whether we were all going to play or not and it helped a lot to ensure that the jelously levels were kept down and that everyone liked each other, which to him was very important.

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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/27/2007 3:55:21 PM

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You missed some points in my post:

I was not addressing the OP. I was adding some of my personal opinions that I thought of while reading other people's comments along this thread.

I do not view my Master having relationships with others as being "very dangerous to me." There were measures taken, required by him, to ensure my body was free of STDs and I trust when he says anyone who serves him sexually must also go through such measures. He does not play casually or frivolously.

My sense of pride does not come from being referenced on my Master's profile. It doesn't matter to me if I am there or not. I do not consider myself hidden by any means.

I did not say I do not like other slaves contacting me. I said it is disruptive when they lean on me too heavily as counselor, or when they become jealous, or when they abandon friendships because they have decided not to submit to my Master after all. This is much different from not wanting to be contacted. I have no problem at all with being contacted, and I remain hopeful every time a slave does contact me, that perhaps this one will work out.

I don't understand the nature of your post to me. It is as though you are comparing our situations and elevating yours to my own? Different strokes, for different folks, eh? What works for some does not work for others. If it makes you feel better, I also frown upon lies and deceipt. I was adding a different way of looking at things though. Perhaps others will see if, if you did not.

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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/27/2007 4:04:48 PM

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I didnt miss the points I was just trying to say that while your ok with it some are not. I am very glad your Master and your relationship is the way it is it sounds like a great one and one that works for the two of you. I very much appericiate you pointing out another way to look at it. I was in no way trying to compare your relationship with mine and i'm sorry I came across that way. I can relate to what you said "I said it is disruptive when they lean on me too heavily as counselor, or when they become jealous, or when they abandon friendships because they have decided not to submit to my Master after all." as ive been there ut unfortunatly it's all part of being poly. Well I am sorry if I offended you at all I certiantly wasn't trying to.

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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/27/2007 4:17:59 PM

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I'm not offended. No worries at all, and thanks for your reply

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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/27/2007 4:24:18 PM

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And in the end of course, it's up to the "new slave" whether SHE finds his behavior to be acceptable and agreeable to her slavery or not.

And I agree with Owned, part of my problem in becoming friends with women is that they so often rely on their relationship with the men in my life- not really something to trust there and you get burned enough that you just don't feel inclined to take that risk anymore.

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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/27/2007 4:32:49 PM

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In my home we define a lie as "Any intentional deceit", and therefore leaving out that he is married, for the reasons stated here, would fall under my definition of a lie. If someone did that to me for the same reasons they would be dropped instantly. I am not all that forgiving about lies anymore. I have had to much experience with them.

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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/27/2007 4:33:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

And in the end of course, it's up to the "new slave" whether SHE finds his behavior to be acceptable and agreeable to her slavery or not.

Absolutely.

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And I agree with Owned, part of my problem in becoming friends with women is that they so often rely on their relationship with the men in my life- not really something to trust there and you get burned enough that you just don't feel inclined to take that risk anymore.

I realize in re-reading my post, it comes across a bit harsher than I intended, but it is a bit of a risk for a "current slave" to put herself out there and more often than not, she does feel burned in the process.

I don't get emotionally invested anymore, until I know they have established something with that's going to last awhile, and until I know they actually want a friendship. I'll welcome anyone who's coming in and I'll be helpful when I can, but I'll likely be guarded with her for awhile.

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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/27/2007 4:46:54 PM

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my ex did that to me too. That is one reason he is in Arizona now and I am home in Ohio. Everyone has to be careful. He is now trying to ruin me on the computer. I do no know how to deal with him. Good luck, hope it works out for your friend.

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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/28/2007 10:12:42 PM

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Honesty is the key

We have all seen it and know it happens here. There are plenty of people that lie and are pretenders. Wannabees by the hundreds if not more i am sure. Best think you can do is block them from emailing you as you find them. They are not worth wasting your time. If you want a true relationship be it lifestyle or vanilla, honesty is alwasy the best policy!

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RE: Being deceived ? - 10/29/2007 8:22:53 PM

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Thats why the two letters are there "E X " thats what it means . Get over it move on ,let it go walk , Gone , take the leash and move on .

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