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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/8/2007 4:04:26 PM   
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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/8/2007 9:08:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me yes it means less. They r more attractive to me when they r submissive.

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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/8/2007 9:31:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		To answer the OP - one of the reasons people come to this site is to find compatibility - the nature of who is here means we have found that level of compatibility - what happens after that is obviously going to be based on a combination of many things including looks.
Now given a choice of a gorgeous but vacuous sub or an average but highly compatible sub - I would go for the latter.

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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67


Do you think this is generally true?

How true do you think this is for you?  There are so many beautiful women on this site.would you pursue an average looking female over a beautiful one less who is less combatible with you (or not interested)and if so would you end up valuing her/loving her less because of her appearence?


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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/9/2007 6:41:44 PM   
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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/10/2007 9:52:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		There has to be some level of physical attraction in orde to have it grow into something. whether its for a relationship (long term/short term) or fun (go to an event), but we all know that the body will not holdup as it once did over time.  Someone who would be with someone mainly for their physical attributes will not have much luck in the long run...one way or another. Just my 2 cents

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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/11/2007 7:29:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		pulchritude?  Sorry, but at the height of my university endeavours I wouldn't use that word in a paper.  I doubt that I could say it in a presentation/speech with a straight face.  But for the record, I agree with the many that have opined that compatibility is the most important aspect in a relationship, whether that relationship be of the alternative variety or as vanilla as they get.

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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/11/2007 8:39:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

I heard a rumor. I heard that  while pulchritude is extremely important to the vanilla male, it is less important to the D/s male.

Do you think this is generally true?

How true do you think this is for you?  There are so many beautiful women on this site.would you pursue an average looking female over a beautiful one less who is less combatible with you (or not interested)and if so would you end up valuing her/loving her less because of her appearence?


I have read no other answers to this post because I wanted to answer the question the OP asked and not pick apart someone elses reply or attack to the OP.

I do not own looks, I own slaves and slaves come in many different look. Does this mean that if Angelina Jolie said she was a slave to me that I would not be interested, Sure I would. But if after a few weeks of Filmed Highquality Sex I found out that her idea of being a slave ment that she called me sir and acted like a pain in the ass to get spankings, I would tire of the initial excitement of having Angelina Jolie as a slave and would evenually tire of the crap.

Now the ugly duckling ( I use this analogy because the story shows true beauty doesn't always start out beautiful) at the munch who lights up everytime I walk through the door and pays close attention to what I drink, what I eat and how I treat the dishes when I am done so that one day she can show me how well she has paid attention, no matter how Physically beautiful she is, she holds all the qualities a put far above the Visual.

I am going to make a VERY chuvinistic remark right now but it is only to prove a point. The looks are nice but they do not stop a girl from serving you as all women have tits and an ass, a mouth and a warm mound to be taken and none of those things have to do with her looks they are anatomy.

Looks only matter to the Vain and the Narsisistic. I am both of those things at times and so yes I can appreciate the beautiful slave and at times I even desire one. but in the end I come back to reality and remember that the HEART of a slave is what I TRUELY desire and not the looks.

So at times I am a Hypocrit but I am's what I am's.

In my head I am sure that I want a slave who is obedient and in touch with her slaves heart, but occasionaly my penis gets to choose and I end up with the vapid moron with a pretty face and more limits then highways and biways.

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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/12/2007 4:22:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: toservez

People in this life have the same issues/preferences then anyone else. So no, this life the people are not any different in how they see physical beauty. Some does not matter at all, for some it matters more then anything to a big detriment and for most it is part of the overall compatibility but not quite something we could tangibly describe.




I haven't read the entirety of this string, but I totally agree with toserve.

I believe (but of course, can't prove) that the BDSM community is pretty much similar to the vanilla community, with the distinguishing characteristic that the BDSM community is entirely more kinky.

The kink factor might (or might not) breed a greater degree of tolerance and/or liberality but, other than that, I don't think we differ very much from the rest of humanity--however much we might want to think that we do.

That said, I personally am attracted to beauty like everyone else.  But beauty doesn't rule me.  I think most in the vanilla world would say about the same thing.

An average-looking woman who was very compatible with me (and my various quirks and kinks) would be more attractive to me, by far, than a beautiful woman whose beauty was her primary attraction for me.

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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/12/2007 7:18:35 PM   
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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/12/2007 7:57:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		i dont understand why most everytime in here i read about a slave, it says "her" regarding a slave. i regard a slave as an it. property, male or female. and yes, i find it alot easier to work with a slave outside of my "type" range. i guess lifestyle over rides, "type" . i guess it also depends on your degree of being "into it" you really are. this site and forum seems very one sided on hetero lifestyle of Master/slave(s), which is fine, but there are others out there with other interest.

attitude when searching for a slave is greater than physical appearance. i will take proper slave attitude and willingness to serve over wilford brimley anyday

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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/12/2007 8:00:26 PM   
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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/13/2007 8:39:04 AM   
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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/13/2007 8:40:59 AM   
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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/13/2007 8:43:14 AM   
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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/13/2007 8:52:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		We all have preferences.  However I have never chosen a sub on the basis of her looks.  Likewises, I have never desided who to interact with in the rest of my life , either. 

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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/13/2007 3:45:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Looks are equally important, regardless of whether you're kinky or not.  That's not to say we're all looking for centerfolds, but at the same time, there's no particular reason for kink to result in lower expectations/standards with any regularity.

That said, a good healthy mind is just as important as a good healthy body.  If you have a good head on your shoulders, and you take pride in the way you look and respect your body, you should have no trouble finding a Master.

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RE: Do looks matter less in D/s? - 11/13/2007 3:52:16 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

I heard a rumor. I heard that  while pulchritude is extremely important to the vanilla male, it is less important to the D/s male.

Do you think this is generally true?

How true do you think this is for you?  There are so many beautiful women on this site.would you pursue an average looking female over a beautiful one less who is less combatible with you (or not interested)and if so would you end up valuing her/loving her less because of her appearence?


I wasn't going to respond, honest...

Since I'm already kicking a few cans, though, I'll toss in my pennies and have them tape credit cards to my eyes for paying the ferryman.

Everyone's desires vary.  That's out of the way.

My personal view is that looks don't mean anything at all.  Maybe that comes from having a slowly degenerating set of eyes - try caring about the sub's looks when you're a blind Master, neh?  More likely it comes from the fact that the people I hold close to me are there because of who they are, and not from how small the orifice, how long the legs, how jiggly the jigglables, or how curvy the curves are.

*kicks over the soapbox and sets it on fire before wandering off*

We got smoke alarms 'round here, I'm sure...



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