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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 11:16:09 AM   
meticulousgirl


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ORIGINAL: kitttty

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Dom: Okay, now You top me


That wouldn't phase me although Bush is more likely to say that Iraq was a vicious and colossal mistake than my Dom is likely to say that.


LOL so very true (mine too) in 100% agreement

~meticulous~




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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 11:18:33 AM   
grumpieoldbitch


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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 11:25:38 AM   
meticulousgirl


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Status: offline 		no in all honesty there's alot of things that could make it go bad

The Dom not allowing the sub / slave to communicate their wants and needs,
The Dom never allowing the sub / slave to forget and forgive themselves for mistakes made in the past
The Dom saying that He's ready to settle down with one person and then going on to tell you that the person He settles down with wont be you.............

nough said.

~meticulous~

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 11:32:24 AM   
oreogirl


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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 11:33:55 AM   
MissAndry


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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

lack of follow through




forcing your sub to take loads of laxatives, placing him/her in a chastity device then forgetting about it and having too MUCH follow through?

< Message edited by MissAndry -- 11/8/2007 11:34:36 AM >

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 12:00:50 PM   
CreativeDominant


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ORIGINAL: chickpea

We’ve heard of how to have a terrrrrrific, fantaaaaastic BDSM relationship…. Now, I’d like your comments on how to have a horribly dissatisfyingly dull inane BDSM relationship.  Note, let’s exclude violence or unsafe stuff here… I’m talking about HOW TO MAKE A BDSM THAT WAS SUPPOSED TO GO RIGHT, GO WRONG.  Yes indeed, we are not looking for the needle in the haystack, but rather the hay surrounding that darned needle!


Dishonesty.
Failure to submit/dominate in the way you committed to.
Wanting to constantly renegotiate.
Lack of communication and then blaming the other for "you should be able to tell this from the way I am acting/not speaking/the type of day I had

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 12:38:04 PM   
MrThorns


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Dishonesty usually does the trick.


I couldn't agree more... although I am a little disappointed that it took 6 posts for it to be mentioned. 

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 1:01:32 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		Applies to any relationship.......... apathy.

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 2:02:58 PM   
missturbation


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He comments...."It's still here, but I only Dominate girls who are worth it-what have you done for me lately-besides spend the rent money on shoes?"


hey, hey, hey. I said i was sorry


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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 2:17:29 PM   
CreativeDominant


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ORIGINAL: missturbation

quote:

He comments...."It's still here, but I only Dominate girls who are worth it-what have you done for me lately-besides spend the rent money on shoes?"


hey, hey, hey. I said i was sorry



But you really, really aren't

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 2:38:08 PM   
missturbation


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But you really, really aren't


You're right i'm not and to top it all off, i'm leaving you since you havent paid the rent and there is no money left for shoes

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 2:46:39 PM   
Squeakers


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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 3:46:23 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

Applies to any relationship.......... apathy.


Very true.

Per John Gottman, PhD, author, and renowned marital counselor, can observe a couple and predict their fate in the first 5 minutes (with 91% accuracy).  He discusses the corrosive interactions that will kill any relationship, referring to them as The Four Horsemen:  Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling.

But I'd throw apathy right in there, too, no doubt.

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 5:50:29 PM   
neph


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ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ

Burning the bacon before the omelet!


I'll forgive a lot of things, but don't fuck with my bacon.


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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 5:52:00 PM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: neph

I'll forgive a lot of things, but don't fuck with my bacon.




HA!!!  That is SO something my Master would say...for a couple of reasons...heheheh...

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 6:02:53 PM   
shootingstar67


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Status: offline 		Not respecting limits. Not choosing a partner with similar limits as you. Expecting a relationship to fix your life. Expecting a relationship to fix your personal defects. Expecting a relationship to make you happy. And getting involved for D/s while ignoring the other aspects. Also getting into a commitment when you are not ready to commit.

< Message edited by shootingstar67 -- 11/8/2007 6:03:19 PM >

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 6:17:01 PM   
Kaiynasha


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Status: offline 		Well said LadyLegs...I so agree.

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 6:20:11 PM   
octavia


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ORIGINAL: MrThorns

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Dishonesty usually does the trick.


I couldn't agree more... although I am a little disappointed that it took 6 posts for it to be mentioned. 


unrealistic expectations....

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 6:33:03 PM   
corsetgirl


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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

Not respecting limits. Not choosing a partner with similar limits as you. Expecting a relationship to fix your life. Expecting a relationship to fix your personal defects. Expecting a relationship to make you happy. And getting involved for D/s while ignoring the other aspects. Also getting into a commitment when you are not ready to commit.


Excellent points!

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RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship - 11/8/2007 7:35:37 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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