How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship

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chickpea -> How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:46:20 PM)
We’ve heard of how to have a terrrrrrific, fantaaaaastic BDSM relationship…. Now, I’d like your comments on how to have a horribly dissatisfyingly dull inane BDSM relationship. Note, let’s exclude violence or unsafe stuff here… I’m talking about HOW TO MAKE A BDSM THAT WAS SUPPOSED TO GO RIGHT, GO WRONG. Yes indeed, we are not looking for the needle in the haystack, but rather the hay surrounding that darned needle!

batshalom -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:48:21 PM)
Every evening after work, your ritual isn't kneeling at his feet, it's plopping down on the couch, giving him a look and saying "What the fuck do you want NOW?"

CuriousLord -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:48:51 PM)
Famous last words for a BDSM-based relationship? Dom: Okay, now You top me.

Kirren -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:51:22 PM)
when the kink isnt there. when unrealistic demands are made. when unreasonable expectations occur. when trust is broken and never put back in place. When you get criticism and not re-enforcement for correct behaviors. when there is distance...and no real reason why. When only one person is happy with the progression of the way things are.

sylkenkitten -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:51:28 PM)
~cracks up~ .. how about ... you're kneeling wearing what he instructed you to wear when he gets home, he forgot to call to say guests were coming, ie his boss, and he walks in with his boss.... you're wearing nothing but his collar

Aceton -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:52:02 PM)
Two Words: Long Distance (Okay, not true for everyone, and every situation, but goddamn it can be a life waster.)

Lordandmaster -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:53:04 PM)
Dishonesty usually does the trick.

CuriousLord -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:53:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: batshalom Every evening after work, your ritual isn't kneeling at his feet, it's plopping down on the couch, giving him a look and saying "What the fuck do you want NOW?" Oh, and tying him up while he sleeps, then topping him in the morning. Take pictures and make sure everyone at any club he visists has copies with links to the PhotoBucket URL on them for digital copies.

SoHott -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:55:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CuriousLord Famous last words for a BDSM-based relationship? Dom: Okay, now You top me. YES!

MissSCD -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:56:30 PM)
There are several things that can harm a bdsm relationship. Poor communication between the couple would be the most important I think. Then simple things like not having things in common that you once did. Cheating on your partner. It is no different than a real realationship in my opinion. We need to be kind and courteous to each other, and help each other out. Then, there may come a time when the thrill is gone. Regards, MissSCD

slaveluci -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:57:43 PM)
The same things that can screw up ANY relationship can mess up a "BDSM" relationship. What are they? Who can count the ways?[;)] For us, our relationship could be screwed up by many things. It really has nothing to do with the BDSM it involves. Disrespect, dishonesty, and myriad other things could do it. Thank goodness we don't have those to deal with............luci

kitttty -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 7:59:19 PM)
quote: Dom: Okay, now You top me That wouldn't phase me although Bush is more likely to say that Iraq was a vicious and colossal mistake than my Dom is likely to say that.

MrSpectacular -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 8:03:55 PM)
Getting bored - realising that you really are not a sub or a dom - it is just a game, not part of your life.

charmdpetKeira -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 8:07:49 PM)
Constantly telling your new Dom “You’re doing that wrong, my last Dom used to do it like….” k

MsterStoney442 -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 8:09:54 PM)
I can answer that . And its cause of me that did it make it go wrong . 1 lack of honest comunnication . 2 lack of taking TOTAL control .3 Letting to many things get in the way .3 walking away the first time . I lst the best slave in this world due to me . There it is for all to see . MasterStoney442

RRafe -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 8:20:39 PM)
When she walks in,the first words out of her mouth are "so,what happened to the control-did it dissapear with your hard on?" Very endearing..... He comments...."It's still here, but I only Dominate girls who are worth it-what have you done for me lately-besides spend the rent money on shoes?"

treehugger42 -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 8:23:13 PM)
Oooh, ooh, how about dishonesty PLUS long distance. That did'er in for me. Also, talking endlessly about all the crazy shit you're going to do to your sub... later... when you have more time... so, how about I give you a few spanks and then you give me a blowjob? Repeat x infinity.

Padriag -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 8:45:53 PM)
Well, I'd like to share something but I can't since I'm perfect and its never my fault when a relationship goes wrong, it was always her fault. Besides which I'm much too busy playing World of Warcraft/EverQuest/Online Poker while swilling down yet another 12 pack of beers and ignoring the fact that the bills are still unpaid, the bank is about to take the car and the house, I have no job and can't look for one because I conveniently believe I should have four slaves who all work to support me... no wait, two who work and the other two stay home and wait on me hand and foot.... which mostly consists of fixing me a sandwich and getting another cold beer. And I expect them to dress in really sexy lingere all the time, while wearing 6 inch stilletto heels and have cheerleader hardbodies while I continue to see just how big my hairy beer belly can get. Yup, that ought to pretty much do it. [:D]

themischievous1 -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 8:55:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chickpea Now, I’d like your comments on how to have a horribly dissatisfyingly dull inane BDSM relationship. Sit back and watch the aging female part of the dynamic ride the rollercoaster of peri menopause..heh. This will result in one BDSM relationship that is in for one hell of a ride, in many more cases than we're aware of, I suspect. I don't know how dull and inane things will eventually become, but I doubt they'll be all drama-free and the picture of perfection. lol. No matter what anyone else says to the contrary..

IrishMist -> RE: How to Royally Screw Up a BDSM Relationship (11/7/2007 9:46:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chickpea We’ve heard of how to have a terrrrrrific, fantaaaaastic BDSM relationship…. Now, I’d like your comments on how to have a horribly dissatisfyingly dull inane BDSM relationship. Note, let’s exclude violence or unsafe stuff here… I’m talking about HOW TO MAKE A BDSM THAT WAS SUPPOSED TO GO RIGHT, GO WRONG. Yes indeed, we are not looking for the needle in the haystack, but rather the hay surrounding that darned needle! That's easy. Don't communicate with each other.

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