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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 5:50:10 PM   
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a slut doesn't care who she sleeps with its the act that matters more then the person - she'll sleep with anyone to get off.  

And the problem with this is????  I'm kind of kidding but kind of serious, velvet.  So what if a woman does?  This makes her bad?  I know you aren't putting anyone down but I think many people who think of a woman as a "slut" are.  So what if she wants to get off?  This makes her trashy or wrong?  I just don't see the connection.  It's the age old double-standard.  Men can fuck anything with one, two, or four legs and it's all good but if a woman does, she's a slut.  I don't buy it and never have.  And, as so many others have said, a word or a name is just that.  It only has the power one gives it................luci

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 5:55:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cyntilating
Can men be sluts too?


Yes, men can definitely be sluts too.  Being, as I am, a pain slut, a CBT slut and a general, all around slut slut, I LOVE being called, "Slut"


Thanks Harry !
    how do you define the word "slut"   what does it mean to you?
   you use it
    cbt slut  pain slut
  meaning??   loving it   wanting it  more more more  ?  <<<makes you a slut about it?
or something else??
 
does it have to be sexual to have "slut" conotation...?
 
if someone loves mint chocolate chip icecream..can that make them an ice cream slut??  or are they only a slut if they use the icecream to slather and fill kinky places on another person ??
 
not meaning this to pick on you...you just bring up a good point ( no pun intended ) ..
thanks for indulging me : )and responding..You seem like a person who really knows who he is and what he likes..
 
 
 
 

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 5:55:42 PM   
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Thanks Luci
your comments are very valid and I am glad you came to this thread and commented..  I saw what was insinuated, and am glad to hear your reaction  : )   or lack there of 
thanks

You're welcome, Cyntilating.  I think that's the key: lack of reaction.  If a woman doesn't care that some jerk who's threatened by her sexuality and freedom and openness calls her a childish name, than his words hold no sway over her.  Even though I don't want someone who knows nothing about me calling me names, the word really has never been negative for me.  Especially since such a slur almost always comes from either a jealous female or some guy who doesn't get any from the supposed "slut."  Or some bitter old prude who just can't accept that someone can be so happily free sexually..............luci

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:03:31 PM   
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"'Slut' is a word a woman uses to describe someone who is doing what she wants to, but is afraid to"
 
me, circa 1986


Topcat
thanks for your reply..
 
how would this be a true statement for a Domme calling her sub/slave/pet/fill in the blank    a slut????
  she is in control in the relationship...
    is fear or jealousy really her motivation for using the term ??
 


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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:08:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		As you age, words like "slut" or "tramp" are just meaningless from the vanilla public.  Honestly, I'm not sure why someone would let anyone else define their sexuality that way.  In the d/s sense, amongst most of my friends "slut" is actually a compliment.  It means sexually liberated, open, not afraid to try anything (almost) once.  I am most definitely a slut for my partner and his use of the word is a term of endearment.  If anyone else other than friends or partner uses the word to me, I just laugh.

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:11:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dear Cyntilating,
 
No, I suppose not- and it's really not the definition that I'd use today. OTOH, as much as I still have to learn about human sexuality, I had a lot more to learn in '86 <g>.
 
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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:12:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cyntilating 
 
thanks for your comment..and I do respect your feelings... 



Thank you.. and as I respect yours :) 

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:16:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cyntilating

the word cunt.
ohhh geez
now see...theres a word I can find nothing playful or positive about.
 
even if Master ( who can call me anything he chooses or desires) called me a cunt > I would most likely cry and cumble apart...of course I would still answer and obey but tears would be streaming down my cheeks....just being honest.
 
like Erin said tho'  ...only we have the power to make words powerful..  so I guess I am guilty of making that one way too powerful & ugly to use...or hear used.
 
 


Cunt

CUNT

cunt

cUNT

CUNT
 
Oh how I love this word...it is one of my very most favorite words.  I had to take ownership of it, because it wasn't always a favorite of mine though. 
 
It is now my word.  lt's meaning is my meaning, it has a very positive connotation, and there isn't a single person living or dead who could hurt me with this word.
 
Dammit, there I go hijacking threads again.  Please resume your regular conversation.



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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:17:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: topcat

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"'Slut' is a word a woman uses to describe someone who is doing what she wants to, but is afraid to"
 
me, circa 1986


Nah..  a slut is a person who does everybody BUT you (the collective 'you'.. not you-you )

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:24:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: laurell3

As you age, words like "slut" or "tramp" are just meaningless from the vanilla public.  Honestly, I'm not sure why someone would let anyone else define their sexuality that way.  In the d/s sense, amongst most of my friends "slut" is actually a compliment.  It means sexually liberated, open, not afraid to try anything (almost) once.  I am most definitely a slut for my partner and his use of the word is a term of endearment.  If anyone else other than friends or partner uses the word to me, I just laugh.


An excellent point...Age!
   I am turning 50 next month.
many things in my life can fall under the category
  "once fretted over, now taken in stride"
 
someone wants to call me freaky-deaky...kewlbeans..go for it.

There was a day when I took for granted certain positions my body would bend into........stamina..........gravity as only a positive thing about life .....
 
I guess, as you say Laurell, others definition of what I choose to do with myself intimately, is meaningless..
 
thanks
 

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:27:09 PM   
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Dear Cyntilating,
 
No, I suppose not- and it's really not the definition that I'd use today. OTOH, as much as I still have to learn about human sexuality, I had a lot more to learn in '86 <g>.
 
Stay warm,
Lawrence

 
warmth to you too Lawrence
   today my daughter who was born in 1986 turned 21..
to say I have learned so much in the last 21 years..is quite the understatement ...so you are not alone in that ..
 
smiles.

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:28:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: velvetears
a slut doesn't care who she sleeps with its the act that matters more then the person - she'll sleep with anyone to get off.  

And the problem with this is????  I'm kind of kidding but kind of serious, velvet.  So what if a woman does?  This makes her bad?  I know you aren't putting anyone down but I think many people who think of a woman as a "slut" are.  So what if she wants to get off?  This makes her trashy or wrong?  I just don't see the connection.  It's the age old double-standard.  Men can fuck anything with one, two, or four legs and it's all good but if a woman does, she's a slut.  I don't buy it and never have.  And, as so many others have said, a word or a name is just that.  It only has the power one gives it................luci


i agree with you luci, once again.

The power of a word was mentioned.....it's kind of like....

Bad example, but a good one(maybe) to make my point is...Say that someone contracts HIV...it is stigmatized by alot of people...But, what really makes it any different than say cancer? or Lupus? or any other thing that one can get and possibly die from? Nothing (symptomolgy) except the way one contracts it and it's name.
It is made to be something uglier than the others for this reason. Ultimately it is a disease, just like the others but the way people look at it can be different.

So a man can do all kinds of stuff and he is a stud, has great sexual prowess yadda yadda yadda. A woman does something similar and she is a slut. Used in a negative conotation....There is no difference between the two, and yet the woman, for her actions is stigmatized and looked down on.

Slut is just a word...it can leave a good feeling with someone...it can leave a bad feeling...but it is simply a word and the way we HEAR it makes the difference...the way it is SAID makes the difference.

What was it that was said by some old dude with really dumb hair and even dumber taste in clothes? Oh yeah, something about a rose by any other name.... and all of that.

the word really doesn't matter so much it's what's behind it.


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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:29:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Cyntilating

the word cunt.
ohhh geez
now see...theres a word I can find nothing playful or positive about.
 
even if Master ( who can call me anything he chooses or desires) called me a cunt > I would most likely cry and cumble apart...of course I would still answer and obey but tears would be streaming down my cheeks....just being honest.
 
like Erin said tho'  ...only we have the power to make words powerful..  so I guess I am guilty of making that one way too powerful & ugly to use...or hear used.
 
 


Cunt

CUNT

cunt

cUNT

CUNT
 
Oh how I love this word...it is one of my very most favorite words.  I had to take ownership of it, because it wasn't always a favorite of mine though. 
 
It is now my word.  lt's meaning is my meaning, it has a very positive connotation, and there isn't a single person living or dead who could hurt me with this word.
 
Dammit, there I go hijacking threads again.  Please resume your regular conversation.



 
ooo and colorful cunts, no less  LOL
   thanks for that....I survived ! 


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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:31:54 PM   
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Cunt

CUNT

cunt

cUNT

CUNT
 
Oh how I love this word...it is one of my very most favorite words.  I had to take ownership of it, because it wasn't always a favorite of mine though. 
 
It is now my word.  lt's meaning is my meaning, it has a very positive connotation, and there isn't a single person living or dead who could hurt me with this word.
 
Dammit, there I go hijacking threads again.  Please resume your regular conversation.




my sentiments exaclty! i tell my gfs this...when they look at me like they want to vomit when i use the word and how easily it rolls off of my tongue "OWN IT...USE IT....MAKE IT YOURS:


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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:35:13 PM   
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a slut doesn't care who she sleeps with its the act that matters more then the person - she'll sleep with anyone to get off.  

And the problem with this is????  I'm kind of kidding but kind of serious, velvet.  So what if a woman does?  This makes her bad?  I know you aren't putting anyone down but I think many people who think of a woman as a "slut" are.  So what if she wants to get off?  This makes her trashy or wrong?  I just don't see the connection.  It's the age old double-standard.  Men can fuck anything with one, two, or four legs and it's all good but if a woman does, she's a slut.  I don't buy it and never have.  And, as so many others have said, a word or a name is just that.  It only has the power one gives it................luci


Not my cup of tea but didn't imply there was anything wrong with it, just how i associate the term to mean.  The focus was that the connection between her and her partner mattered less then getting off. In fact there need not even be any connection at all. 

Men can have the same approach but your right we don't label them sluts - but i think they are thought of the same way.  Men get less flack than women in the vanilla world for sleeping around.  i think it's changing somewhat, but slowly. 

< Message edited by velvetears -- 11/23/2007 6:42:01 PM >

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 6:50:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hehe ive been called a slut numerous times, the first time my Dominant called me a slut i found it to be very hot!!  i have another friend who calls me a slut because i like playing with other dom(me)s but thats only because my Dominant allows me to.  i dont have sex with them or Her for that matter...Certain words mean certain things to certain people lol.   But i am noticing that slut isn't being said as a negative thing when it comes to people in the lifestyle...Now in the nilla world, thats a totally different story entirely ;)

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 7:23:56 PM   
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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 7:39:22 PM   
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Slut
What does the word mean to you?
positive or negative<< is determined more by the attitude of the caller of the name  or   the attitude of the receiver of the name ?


SLUT - It means different things to different people at different times. 
 
Dog. What does the word mean to you?  If you ask 10 people to conjure a picture of the word "dog", and then ask them to describe the picture in their mind - you will have a German shepherd, a cocker spaniel, a maltese, a pit bull...you get the idea.  One word's meaning depends on the context of the use, the background of the person saying it and the background of the person hearing it. 
 
GAY - this word used to have mostly positive connotations until it was used as a synonym for homosexual.

1.having or showing a merry, lively mood: gay spirits; gay music.
2.bright or showy: gay colors; gay ornaments.
3.given to or abounding in social or other pleasures: a gay social season.
4.licentious; dissipated; wanton: The baron is a gay old rogue with an eye for the ladies.

So now the question is - why do you ask?

< Message edited by Invictus754 -- 11/23/2007 7:41:42 PM >

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 7:48:46 PM   
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Beleive me, I can say things with a great deal more impact-that aren't cliches.

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RE: The "S" word - 11/23/2007 7:52:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		To me it would matter who was calling me slut. When Master Chris calls me this it has ummm a moistening efect But if my mother was to call me a slut i would be very hurt. Noy sure if that helps, just my .02 worth....

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