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ORIGINAL: DMFParadox

My answer is like RRafe's--set up an equally harsh ideal for you to meet, but a totally different one.  And yet one that you can follow through to a 'climax' of proven worth.  Recently I like the idea I read in the bloopers thread of having you do advanced math or discuss philosophy while you're scening, nipples clipped, whipped, and chained.  Prove you can do that and the Martha Stewart ideal falls by the wayside; you have strength, you know it, and you don't have to meet an unrealistic ideal.  Not that I object to a clean house, but obsessing over it requires measures.  Plus I'm bizarre in that the idea of a really literate, really smart person and yet a sexy and utterly submissive woman turns me on. 

I guess what I'm trying to say is that there's a difference between 'embracing imperfection' versus proving that you have real value regardless of your imperfections. 

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

I really don't seem to have the issues that a lot of men do-it's sort of strange to me..........That guys who claim to be dominant have so much fear. What are they going to lose by being willing to just relax? I absolutely LOVE being able to play cat and mouse with a girl. It's one of the reasons I do this sort of stuff. The little princess, reduced to a spasming cunt-impaled on my fist?

What happened to that tiara? Did it get forgotten for some strange reason? Or she's over my knee, jerking around, as her ass gets SO red from a hard spanking...........I'm afraid that hairdo is going to be a total loss!  But-does she CARE at that moment?

Or down on her knees in front of me, panting from the lust I've been building in her for the past several hours-promising just about ANYTHING to get off..............drooling from both ends, blushing to her tits...........

Could this be my little animal?

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

This kind of braggadocio is fairly common around here... I think it comes with the "You, too, can be a Dominant!" initiation kit. 

Would be truly something if the actions live up to the words.

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

This kind of braggadocio is fairly common around here... I think it comes with the "You, too, can be a Dominant!" initiation kit. 

Would be truly something if the actions live up to the words.

I have LOTS of real life refferences. Do you?

*telephone rings*

Reference:   "Hello?"

Me:  *clears throat*  "Ummm... yes... My name is losttreasure and I'm currently considering being with Joe in a relationship that will involve sex.  I understand that you and he were once together?"

Reference:  "Uhhh... yeah."

Me:  "Good.  Well, he has given me your name and information so that I could contact you.  I'd like to ask you a few questions about your impressions of Joe, if you have a minute?"

Reference:  "What kind of questions?"

Me:  "Well... I'm trying to gauge if he's really capable of doing what he says he can do, or if he's just bragging.  You know how men can be."  *implied wink by tone of voice*

Reference:  *hesitation*  "What he can do?  Such as?"

Me:  *clears throat again*  "Hmmm... let me see... he says that he can have me panting with lust, drooling from both ends, and promising ANYTHING to get off... that he will spend hours playing with me, building that lust, and have me reduced to a spasming cunt.  Does that sound about right in your experience?"

Reference:  *peal of laughter followed by coughing fit*  "He said all that, did he?  Hmmm... Look, Joe's a great guy... don't get me wrong.  He is very capable in...er... that area; I don't have any complaints.  But, well... you know about men and their egos, don't you?  It's kinda like that cock size thing... thinking if they dazzle us enough we'll believe that five inches is really nine." 

Me:  *snorts with laughter*  "Yeah... personally I've never had the heart to call any of them on it."

Reference:  "I know what you mean.  Well, like I said, Joe is a great guy.  We just didn't have enough in common to keep things going on the outside.  Perhaps you'll have better luck there."

Me:  "Perhaps.  Thanks for your time, though.  Bye."

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ORIGINAL: astarri

I want to be perfect!! The idea of being perfect frustrates me so much. I always feel like perfection is dangling just out of my reach and for the life of me i cant find a stool. It is very frustrating and then i rebel against it ... horribly. I guess what i want is to find a perfection for me that is within my grasp which would be very different than others. It truly is a conflict because  i also have no desire to be perfect because i think that our flaws help shape who we are and make us original ...but i feel like i am SUPPOSED to be perfect.

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

I really don't seem to have the issues that a lot of men do-it's sort of strange to me..........That guys who claim to be dominant have so much fear. What are they going to lose by being willing to just relax? I absolutely LOVE being able to play cat and mouse with a girl. It's one of the reasons I do this sort of stuff. The little princess, reduced to a spasming cunt-impaled on my fist?

What happened to that tiara? Did it get forgotten for some strange reason? Or she's over my knee, jerking around, as her ass gets SO red from a hard spanking...........I'm afraid that hairdo is going to be a total loss!  But-does she CARE at that moment?

Or down on her knees in front of me, panting from the lust I've been building in her for the past several hours-promising just about ANYTHING to get off..............drooling from both ends, blushing to her tits...........

Could this be my little animal?

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

After reading the "Prince Charming "and "Knight in Shining Armour" threads it made me think....and maybe "Ideal princess" isn't the right description, but it fit with all the fairy tales...

Soooo how many of you have been "victim"  of trying to live up to the perfect ideal that is shoveled into our heads by the media from childhood on.  Whether that is some fairy tale "princess" or June Cleaver or Donna Reed? Even though your Master/Mistress/Dom/me tries to reassure you that you are just fine the way you are.

i am very guilty of this. Trying to always attain the unattainable perfection and if it isn't totally perfect then it is a failure. i look at my Master/Daddy as a King of the Castle and of our realm and am always trying to do it all perfectly....trying to be the perfect little Suzi Homemaker and total nasty little slut all rolled into one.

my ideal though is much harsher to accomplish than that which he wishes of me...but this just sets up for alot of failure on its own (in my head).

I've heard this concept alot from other sub types and it seems like a very common thing....and yet...it seems  acceptable and like a positive to want to attain this level of perfect for one's "M"...not necessarily wanting to be a Princess in a Shining apron and stillettos..but close....and yet all of the Prince Charming/Knight in Shining Armor stuff seems to be looked down on.

Just something that made me think.
What do ya'll think?

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ORIGINAL: LadyLegs



There is the second part to the "princess" thing... that her life only begins when she finds that man that completes her.  Some women spend their energies looking for that man, trying to attract him with their beauty, instead of building a life of their own.  That seems to work for some people, but it seems to me, ultimately the only company one has is their own and time is best spent becoming someone enjoyable to be with.