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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 6:46:21 PM   
OldBastardly1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hejira92

Why wait for a rejection? I've gotten loads of insulting first messages. One or two actually upset me and eventually Master had enough. I am no longer allowed to open any "blue" messages in my inbox. He used to open them to see if they had anything intelligent to say (response to a thread, etc.), but He got tired of that and now He just deletes them. He has blocked some, but He wants them to see "deleted not read" in their sent mail.
 
My profile more than clearly states to message HIM first to talk to me. Yet, I get messages daily. Once or twice someone has actually emailed Him (looking to "rent" me- hah!).
 
But I don't let this nonsense get in the way of the great friendships I've made here (not to mention- meeting Master in the first place) and enjoying the boards.



While I can understand His frustration, this is about as rude as it gets. Perhaps someone was really not trying to "get" you, or was providing you ( or asking for ) serious information, all the while being very respectful. To see "deleted not read" says that you don't care what the intent was. While many deserve that, there are some that don't.

Of course, along with the frustration factor, it could be due to not having the energy to deal with issues that arise from ownership.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 6:48:51 PM   
KnOcala


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its hard to believe anyone could be that cold and insensitive. 
My god doesn't like people being ugly and they usually get what they deserve. 
If someone gets ugly, it only confirms your initial reaction that you weren't interested and you can breathe a sigh of relieve you didn't make that mistake.



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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 7:07:45 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

While I can understand His frustration, this is about as rude as it gets. Perhaps someone was really not trying to "get" you, or was providing you ( or asking for ) serious information, all the while being very respectful. To see "deleted not read" says that you don't care what the intent was. While many deserve that, there are some that don't.

Of course, along with the frustration factor, it could be due to not having the energy to deal with issues that arise from ownership.


I do not think it is rude at all, for example I have on my profile my Daddy's screen name, they could email HIM as I have requested and ask him any personal questions they had for me.. but they don't do that, they email me expressly against our wishes... now who is being rude here? Not me. I even email the little bastards back with my profile quoted in the response. Sometimes they email me back AGAIN. These sorts never view my profile according to the "who has viewed me" page. I understand how herjira feels, because these types never read a line of our profiles and email us anyways. If they had legitimate business with us they could always email our dominants, couldn't they? I read her profile, she explicitly tells these men that their emails will never be read... they should expect it.

I have gotten the occasional compliment on a post from the forum from someone who posts here, and I respond thanking those people. I also had a question about one of my landscape photos about the subject of it. I have also had questions about the origins of my screen name because it is related to a wonderful piece of literature... these emails I respond to,  because they are unrelated to my submission. Any others, they can bite me because they are the rude ones, not me


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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 7:08:35 PM   
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I have not run into this yet.  The ones that I don't respond back to have went on their way.  Of course that could be because they are bright enough to know that "wanna fuck" deserves to be ignored. 



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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 7:20:24 PM   
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Dear backseat -

It *MAY* not surprise you to hear that as a BBW Domme, I've received MY share of "rejection" as well.  A local "submissive" declined any interest in me due to my weight. 

I've also had some "Doms" email me about my weight.  How they have no respect for me as "apparently I don't either."  (Little do they know the truth <grin>.)

I block these fools - I don't need my mailed junked up by them and their unsolicited opinions.

The world is full of ALL kinds of people.  I choose to have loving, supportive people in mine.


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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 7:57:53 PM   
OldBastardly1


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I think it is rude to assume that you are so desired that every person that contacts you wants you. I agree that most are being disrespectful, but get over yourself. Not EVERYBODY that contacts you has that intention.

I rarely contact anybody, because I am not looking online for a partner, BUT when I do feel the need to initiate contact, my 1st line usually says something like " I mean no disrepect to you or your Sir and I am not trying to hook-up with you." I then state why I have contacted them. To simply "delete not read" could cause you to miss out on a worthwhile conversation or bit of information.....unless you already know everything.

This world is populated with other people who, quite often, will act inappropriately. Do you go out in public? Maybe to a mall or a restaraunt? Do you wear a scarf over your face and sunglasses, to protect yourself form unwanted attention, or to protect your Sir from being disrespected by someone else finding you attractive?

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 8:09:05 PM   
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16 year olds pretty much have the same reaction when turned down.   Some men grow past that; others do not.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 8:18:00 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

I think it is rude to assume that you are so desired that every person that contacts you wants you. I agree that most are being disrespectful, but get over yourself. Not EVERYBODY that contacts you has that intention.


If you have been told to email the dominant instead of the submissive and are told that your email will be deleted before it is read, I do not think it is assuming anything at all.. it is telling someone that they can disrespect your wishes, but you are not going to suffer their intolerance and disrespect by reading the emails... is it really that hard to read a profile and do the respectful thing and email the dom?

quote:

I rarely contact anybody, because I am not looking online for a partner, BUT when I do feel the need to initiate contact, my 1st line usually says something like " I mean no disrepect to you or your Sir and I am not trying to hook-up with you." I then state why I have contacted them. To simply "delete not read" could cause you to miss out on a worthwhile conversation or bit of information.....unless you already know everything.



So basically you think that you are so special that we subs that are taken should go against the expressed wishes of our dominants and contact you back? Um, nope, not going to do that. In my view if you read the profile and emailed a submissive that states unequivocably that she is not allowed to respond to you, that is the epitome of rudeness. Now a dominant on these boards might email me something about a post never reading my profile, and I will respond back if I recognize the nick, but someone I do not recognize from the forums really should have enough respect as to not disrespect my relationship... and I think herjira's master has warned people what he will do, and has followed through on it. She is his property, her emails are his property, and he can delete them sight unseen, and it has nothing to do with her assuming anything about those emailing her... she doesn't decide.. she is the slave, remember?

quote:

This world is populated with other people who, quite often, will act inappropriately. Do you go out in public? Maybe to a mall or a restaraunt? Do you wear a scarf over your face and sunglasses, to protect yourself form unwanted attention, or to protect your Sir from being disrespected by someone else finding you attractive?


Being in a vanilla atmosphere is a lot different than a community one. If I was in a club and some dominant came up to me and came on to me I would direct him to talk to my Daddy, if he did not respect this I would find my Daddy and alert him to the situation. If I could not locate my Daddy I would tell the DM. Vanilla men notice me, if one came up to me and started a conversation while checking out my breasts and ass I would find that rude and not talk to that person. If they asked me out in a vanilla atmosphere I tell them I am seeing someone exclusively. I do not feed men coming on to me in vanilla circumstances too...and they can admire me from my pictures, and they can compliment my Daddy on his possession, what I ask they not do is come on to me...




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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 8:39:55 PM   
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I must say, if you don't take the time to read the profile why should they take the time to read your email? If their profile states they can't and won't respond, then be respectful of that, that is their decision, if you don't then why should they respect you anyways?

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 8:52:42 PM   
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People that feel rejected will find the one thing that they think will hurt that person. If you can't be more original than using weight as an insult it is time to grow up. Not all of use see being BBW as a bad thing and being called names related to that just rolls off my BBW ass.

It is called maturity and some have yet to experience it.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 8:54:43 PM   
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I'm 5'8" 125 pounds and they call me fat when I tell them I'm not interested too.  They're just whiny babies expecting easy sex on the internet, ignore them.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 8:56:00 PM   
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hmmm....i haven't been called fat when i have turned down someone in quite some time....and i am fat...wonder what i am doing right?

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 9:01:17 PM   
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A man with a stiff dick that's slapped down by rejection is a fearsome thing.

Similar to hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. And we all know how nasty women can get when rejected.

Either/or, delete, block and forget.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 9:11:15 PM   
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Hello,

I've been called fat (I am at about 19% body fat right now, so that doesn't really apply), ugly, stupid and all kinds of other things because I've turned someone down.  The not a "true" submissive seems to be something they consider to be a mortal insult.

If the emails are particularly stupid, I share them with my friends so we can all be amused.  I have also shared emails with my friends who have subsequently been contacted by that person.  Needless to say, it hasn't gone well for the guy who was rude to me, since my friends know what he has said.  And when he tries to blame it on me, his own words condemn him.  Girls talk after all...........

Take care,

Peggy

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 9:18:26 PM   
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I must say, I Dom in the middle of a group of angry submissives is a bit humerous to me.  I have seen and experienced it and it makes me love my subbie friends..

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 10:31:41 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: hejira92

Why wait for a rejection? I've gotten loads of insulting first messages.


Yeah, I've had that happen once.  A guy pm'd me asking me why I was so proud of being fat (or whatever).  Then he went and put on his profile how he was only trying to tell me (without putting my name up) the "truth" and I didn't want to hear it.

I blocked him, then wrote him back, and reported him for abuse (because he was abusive in his slurs against me based on my weight).  He's still on CM, but I don't have to see his wank anymore.

As far as I'm concerned, people like that really aren't worth the effort to respond to anymore.  Master and Sir both like me as I am, so that's good enough for me.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 10:53:13 PM   
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I personally haven't had any attacks on my weight, but the block button is one great friend from offensive first emails.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/25/2007 11:17:25 PM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Greylynn

Of course that could be because they are bright enough to know that "wanna fuck" deserves to be ignored. 



Well hells bells, Grey, no wonder why you didn't answer me.  "Wanna fuck" has worked for me in the past.  Sheesh, tough crowd here.

Cali


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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/26/2007 12:55:52 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: welshwmn3

quote:

ORIGINAL: hejira92

Why wait for a rejection? I've gotten loads of insulting first messages.


Yeah, I've had that happen once.  A guy pm'd me asking me why I was so proud of being fat (or whatever).  Then he went and put on his profile how he was only trying to tell me (without putting my name up) the "truth" and I didn't want to hear it.

I blocked him, then wrote him back, and reported him for abuse (because he was abusive in his slurs against me based on my weight).  He's still on CM, but I don't have to see his wank anymore.

As far as I'm concerned, people like that really aren't worth the effort to respond to anymore.  Master and Sir both like me as I am, so that's good enough for me.


i do too.  *hugs*

kitten

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/26/2007 2:03:57 AM   
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i often use the insults as a lesson as to why alcohol and email don't mix... never drink and drive your computer!  As far as blocking anyone.... that would take more effort than the offensive email deserves.  The only person i hav ever blocked was one who told me he was going to break into my house and rape me.  i reported that one but the profile is still on CM.

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