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ORIGINAL: backseatbebe

I am curious how many BBWs out there have also encoutered such malicious abuse after telling a Dom they are not interested?

You see I respond to every mail I recieve, even to those who do not interest me.
Usually my rejection message is very short and sweet "not interested (perhaps insert reason; distance, age etc), best of luck to you".
Now just taking the time to respond is more than most people on here do, yet it seems to bite me in the ass a lot of the time.
Because "Doms" respond back to tell me how they never wanted to be with a "porker", "fatty", whatever anyways.
There isn't much I can do about this, other than brush it off and know that they are only reacting to something we all find painful, rejection. Sure you can say this helps weed out the losers, but what if I hadn't rejected them I would have never known their true feelings. So how do we know a Dom is just as ok with our weight as we are?

But I'm curious how routine this is for girls like myself? How often do you recieve an insult after saying no thank you, when minutes before they might have been offering you the world (ie. plane tickets to see them, how they are youre prefect match, asking to play with you, etc).

And on the other side, I'm wondering if skinny girls have to deal with something simialir? What do Doms use as their malicious insult since calling you fat isnt there as their easy out?

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ORIGINAL: RoughFN

"You see I respond to every mail I recieve, even to those who do not interest me."

I just wanted to publicly comment on and thank this behavior. I always appreciate it.

Now, I am one of the (rare?) ones that does go to the trouble of composing an individual message for each person I speak with and it's always quite annoying to get no answer in reply. Yes, yes, I know the sub girls on here get bombarded with thousands of messages for every yahoo in the book, so I'm not going to hold it against them.

And don't get me wrong - of course I'd much rather have a positive reply than a rejection. :-)

But if somebody takes the time to respond with a simple "No, thank you", it emphasizes that she has some degree of class and further that she knows her proper place in the pecking order, even if that place isn't with me specifically.

As for the putzes that respond negatively to that, don't worry about 'em, they're not worth the effort. But there are at least some of us out there that appreciate a negative response over none at all and encourage the behavior.

So, basically, "Thanks."

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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

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ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ

I even have occasional outbreaks of schmukism.

Say it ain't so!  DDZ, I just can't believe it...  please don't make me cry! 

~ winks at cha ~ 

Red

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ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ

I have had many thin submissives approach me and wonder why I like bigger girls.  I shouldn't have to explain that and sometimes I just don't.

Z-

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ORIGINAL: backseatbebe
but what if I hadn't rejected them I would have never known their true feelings.