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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/27/2007 7:58:24 PM   
LadyLupineNYC


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ORIGINAL: christine1
...because i didn't want to read his erotic fantasy that he sent me as a first mail....


ooooooooo!  Was it all about the 2 gallons of spuge he pumped on your face while 'masterfully' flogging your slut ass with a flogger made of the skin of his past misbehaving slaves?  That one's my fav!

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/27/2007 8:01:08 PM   
christine1


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Status: offline 		hahaha!  i don't know ladylupine, i didn't finish reading it past the first 2 sentences...(makes me regret a bit that i didn't finish it now!)

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/27/2007 8:02:56 PM   
LadyLupineNYC


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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/27/2007 8:09:54 PM   
trueshadow


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Status: offline 		Let's face facts:  These people are hurt by rejection.  Although you think you are doing them a favor by replying to every e-mail, just don't reply to the ones you are not interested in.  Believe me, they'll get the message. 

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/27/2007 8:18:15 PM   
christine1


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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/27/2007 8:22:10 PM   
chickpea


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ORIGINAL: SirJohnMandevill

>Rant Mode to ON

You surely already know this, but these so-called "Doms" are nothing but arrogant, schoolyard bullies who lack self-confidence and who probably have a belt buckle bigger than their dicks. If any sub large, medium or small rejects their advances, it's an insult to their ego...and of course, they have to strike out.

I've been told of several of these types by subs off these boards. Makes me wonder what rock they crawled out from under. (BTW, I'm a Dom, but one with at least a hint of sense and intelligence)

Rant Mode to OFF

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)




Yea, I noticed this too...  Lot of "Dom"s using domination as an ego-boost rather than a responsibility.  So, if a Dom goes off like a school yard little kid, guess tell him thanks for letting know what an SOB ya are and click "ignore". 

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 3:22:30 AM   
Cuffkinks


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ORIGINAL: LordWhipstaff
I have in the past responded to these stupid people myself instead of having my slave go through it. I feel that part of a Master's responsibility is to protect his slave. My response’s are not as friendly as a trained slave's response would be also.


Bingo!

I did the same thing. Now, I just delete them un-read.


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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 4:08:21 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I had one dom send me the same damn fantasy about 3 times.  I kept saying no thanks, but I finally told him to please stop sending me the same thing over and over.  I simply wasn't interested.  Good Lord!  Did I ever get a nasty email back.  I don't block often, but that time I did.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 4:54:01 AM   
Cuffkinks


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

quote:

ORIGINAL: hejira92

Why wait for a rejection? I've gotten loads of insulting first messages. One or two actually upset me and eventually Master had enough. I am no longer allowed to open any "blue" messages in my inbox. He used to open them to see if they had anything intelligent to say (response to a thread, etc.), but He got tired of that and now He just deletes them. He has blocked some, but He wants them to see "deleted not read" in their sent mail.
 
My profile more than clearly states to message HIM first to talk to me. Yet, I get messages daily. Once or twice someone has actually emailed Him (looking to "rent" me- hah!).
 
But I don't let this nonsense get in the way of the great friendships I've made here (not to mention- meeting Master in the first place) and enjoying the boards.



While I can understand His frustration, this is about as rude as it gets. Perhaps someone was really not trying to "get" you, or was providing you ( or asking for ) serious information, all the while being very respectful. To see "deleted not read" says that you don't care what the intent was. While many deserve that, there are some that don't.

Of course, along with the frustration factor, it could be due to not having the energy to deal with issues that arise from ownership.



  So, let Me see if I've got this straight...My little girl's profile C-L-E-A-R-L-Y states that any and all "blue" mail will be deleted. That any males (Dom or sub) that wish to contact her should contact Me first for permission to contact MY property. And when they read this and contact her first anyway...By deleting this "blue" mail...I'M being "as rude as it gets?"
  Old B, you are correct about one thing. I don't care what the intent was. If someone can't follow a simple, clearly stated request...Why would I waste My time reading what they have to say. Better yet, why would I have My little girl waste time and energy that can and should be spent serving Me?
  Too many have been rude and/or offensive to her to the point that it was starting to seriously bother her. It's My responsibility to take care of her. I won't have that. Period. 

My choices we easy, My decision even easier:
1: Read every piece of mail she gets, head off the offensive ones and try to "deal with" the writer. Difficult, to say the least. And an incredible waste of My time.
2: Disable her mail or take down her CM profile. While that certainly would end the problems, it's not fair to her. Therefore, not likely. Why should she be made to suffer because others can't or choose not to read?
3: Put a simple, clearly stated disclaimer at the top of her profile where it cannot be missed. You choose not to comply...I choose not to be bothered. End of story.
4:  Do nothing. That's not going to happen. What kind of owner would I be if I didn't look out for and take care of what's mine? 
 
Obviously, I took number three. Sounds pretty simple, right? And yet....


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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 5:11:51 AM   
Cuffkinks


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

I think it is rude to assume that you are so desired that every person that contacts you wants you. I agree that most are being disrespectful, but get over yourself. Not EVERYBODY that contacts you has that intention.

I rarely contact anybody, because I am not looking online for a partner, BUT when I do feel the need to initiate contact, my 1st line usually says something like " I mean no disrepect to you or your Sir and I am not trying to hook-up with you." I then state why I have contacted them. To simply "delete not read" could cause you to miss out on a worthwhile conversation or bit of information.....unless you already know everything.

This world is populated with other people who, quite often, will act inappropriately. Do you go out in public? Maybe to a mall or a restaraunt? Do you wear a scarf over your face and sunglasses, to protect yourself form unwanted attention, or to protect your Sir from being disrespected by someone else finding you attractive?


And as long as that "1st line" was originally in a message sent to Me and not My property, everything would be fine. How much easier can I make it? And in the past, when I gave people the benefit of the doubt, and actually read her blue mail, any message that started with that "1st line" would have My "ok" for her to read. It was only after dealing with countless amounts of rude, offensive messages that I decided that things would change.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 5:37:21 AM   
littlehumbledone


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quote:

ORIGINAL: backseatbebe


And on the other side, I'm wondering if skinny girls have to deal with something simialir? What do Doms use as their malicious insult since calling you fat isnt there as their easy out?


I replied politely to a Dom that i wasn't interested as his list of loves was about on par with my list of hardlimits, and that I wished him luck in his search, he replied that that i was scrawny ugly c*nt, and i would never find a dom unless I carried a parerbag around with me..



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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 10:01:52 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		When i get emails sent to me, i will look at their profile to see what they are looking for. If they are only looking for a HWP, i will polietly say no thank you because xxxx, but best of luck in finding your one. Then if they respond back, which they normally do and it's an insult, immediantly i block and delete without responding back.
It's their loss, not yours.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 10:09:40 AM   
backseatbebe


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Status: offline 		well thank you all for writing
ive enjoyed all your insights
and dont worry this thread wasnt about being hurt, more or else to see what other subs have had to encounter after rejection

im still dumbfounded though by "Doms" that know they dont match (ie. sub already taken, location, age, etc) yet still go out of their way to attempt something, and on top of it expect a positive responce

all in all i think im going to stop responding to everyone
as the ones that live too far in the first place seem to ignore the being local request in the first place

and to those that delete messages unread, congrats to you
my curiousity gets me every time!!! i just cant get myself to do that

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 10:55:28 AM   
RoughFN


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Status: offline 		"You see I respond to every mail I recieve, even to those who do not interest me."

I just wanted to publicly comment on and thank this behavior. I always appreciate it.

Now, I am one of the (rare?) ones that does go to the trouble of composing an individual message for each person I speak with and it's always quite annoying to get no answer in reply. Yes, yes, I know the sub girls on here get bombarded with thousands of messages for every yahoo in the book, so I'm not going to hold it against them.

And don't get me wrong - of course I'd much rather have a positive reply than a rejection. :-)

But if somebody takes the time to respond with a simple "No, thank you", it emphasizes that she has some degree of class and further that she knows her proper place in the pecking order, even if that place isn't with me specifically.

As for the putzes that respond negatively to that, don't worry about 'em, they're not worth the effort. But there are at least some of us out there that appreciate a negative response over none at all and encourage the behavior.

So, basically, "Thanks."

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 11:02:30 AM   
parttimehotty


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Status: offline 		i used to reply to everyone also, but i put a blurb in my profile that if the responder doesn't meet the following qualifications...x,y or z then i have the right to delete their email w/o a guilty conscious ;) Yes, i know, my profile is in wingdings, but again, if you take the time to decipher/respond, your chances are much better w/me.  If you decipher, see you meet my list of negatives and still respond well then it depends on the message if i reply or delete.
i've had one self proclaimed dom couple just flat out send me such a hateful note, block me so i couldn't respond AND had the audacity to list me as a favorite! (i wrote their note to me in my journal as well as their name if you're interested).
Yes, a very stable couple, eh?

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 11:05:14 AM   
DarkDaddyZ


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ORIGINAL: backseatbebe

im still dumbfounded though by "Doms" that know they dont match (ie. sub already taken, location, age, etc) yet still go out of their way to attempt something, and on top of it expect a positive responce

Don't be.  Men are SCHMUCKS!  You knew that, right?

I even have occasional outbreaks of schmukism.

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 3:49:16 PM   
jakeskajira


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Status: offline 		Normally I am told I am a bad slave because I refuse to serve them... and my MAster needs to keep me on a tighter leash if I am going to reject them.. *snickers* don't worry, if its not your weight, its your eye color, your frizzy hair, your "too skinny"... your ugly, you have zits... your hair colors wrong.. your to short, your to tall, you probably have a smelly pussy... they'd find SOMETHING to complain about...

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 4:17:49 PM   
MistressPav


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Status: offline 		DarkDaddyZ and Muttling are the only two males on here that are allowed to call me names. 



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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/28/2007 6:05:43 PM   
DarkDaddyZ


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ORIGINAL: MistressPav

DarkDaddyZ and Muttling are the only two males on here that are allowed to call me names. 



Keep the (former) Wet Spot warm for me sweetie

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RE: BBW and rejection - 12/29/2007 12:51:01 PM   
Daddysredhead


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ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ

I even have occasional outbreaks of schmukism.



Say it ain't so!  DDZ, I just can't believe it...  please don't make me cry! 

~ winks at cha ~ 

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