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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 2:54:42 PM   
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The goth subculture has not one thing to do with non conformity. People into it conform to goth subculture.


Spoken like someone who is utterly clueless about what is or isn't Goth. 

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...when groups of people all gravitate to the same set of asthetics based and then hang out together, that is not called being yourself or non conformity.


Oh, like kinksters who congregate together with other kinksters on a message board forum?  So you're saying we're all slavishly conforming to the BDSM aesthetic and we're not expressing ourselves at all?  Right then.

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Im not saying its bad to look goth,


No, you said that, for Goths to wear fetish clothing such as collars and corsets if they're not really into BDSM, "annoys" you.  You didn't come right out and say "it's bad to do X" but the implication of your statement was fairly clear.

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but the genre is based heavily on catholic imagery and extremely eurocentric artistic genres, which makes it as tied to mainstream western culture as Britney Spears.


Actually, Goth evolved from the Punk movement of the 1970s.  Yes, there were a lot of UK bands involved in that.  However, Goth fashion aesthetic derives as much from ancient Egypt (take a look at Siouxsie Sioux's makeup), the Renaissance, Victorian, and Steam Punk eras as from the Catholic imagery of the Medieval period.  If you want to, you can say that nearly all mainstream music is based on Eurocentric, religious imagery.  This hardly equates to a failure to be innovative.  After all, Wolfgang Mozart and John Milton were deeply ensconced in Eurocentric, religious forms of artistic expression. 

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You're not really goth if you shop only at hot topic? You're not really goth if you hang out at the mall?


See my previous post re: the difference between Kindergoth and Mall Goth. 

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Now that is some serious BS. No one judges my wardrobe choices like goths. I like lace and corsets and all, but Im not white or christian and I cant really justify venerating someone else's heritage to the degree that I dress gothic every day.


I've seen Goths in Mandarin dresses and Indian sarees as well as leather collars and velvet corsets.  I've seen Goths in kilts and I've even seen Goths in kimono and kabuki-inspired makeup.  If your point is that you don't know much about Goth fashion, you're making quite well.  If you're trying to make the point that Goths are all cookie-cutter copies of each other...you fail. 
 
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 But its goths that will make assumptions and tell them to me about how Id be so shocked by how dark they are or how edgy I am not because I wear bland clothing.


Not that there aren't immature brats in the Goth scene.  Adolescent know-it-alls abound everywhere and one can find a plethora of them at Hot Topic.  When they start telling me how "dark" or "extreme" they are, I just smile and nod.  Once, a little baby bat said he'd probably break me if he played with me.  The people in the room who knew me started laughing.  But I digress... It simply isn't worth my time to let them irritate me.

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My annoyance with them is minor- If they dress like that then I want to play, but often they dont want to. They have their uses of course. If not for them, then anyone who bought fetish wear would be automatically outed.


You know, it's probably not your clothes that brings out the catty in the Goths you've met.  It's your snide, judgmental attitude.  If I met you at a club and you came at me with it, I wouldn't want to "play" with you either.  I'd probably tell you my thigh-high, 5" spike-heeled, black patent boots and my riding crop were just "fashion accessories" too.

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 3:09:17 PM   
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In my experience, we critcize each other's wardrobes more than we critcize outsiders' clothing. The whole point of Goth is being yourself, regardless of what mainstream socieity thinks. Unless you shop at Hot Topic/Torrid. Then you're a Mall Goth and it doesn't count.


You have a point there. Though me have never understood the hot topic is horrid thing. I do not care where my clothes come from. I wear what I like no matter i I have gotten it at hot topic, the local shop for big pepole, my mother's sewing room or any other shop. I understand the concept if all one care about is the clothing and following goth fashion then one is a fashion goth and little more, now to me it is nothing wrong whit that either but then one is just a fashion goth, but to me whatever or not it is something deep in it matters less on where you shop as it do in who you are.

Conformity was mentioned, but in my experience many goths are conformists, i mean when one have a online list discussing is so and so artist is goth or not. To be considered goth one have to conform to such and such standards of dress and like such and such music. To me that becomes all wrong. To me goth is being one's own person and defining what goth is to one self.

For me i do not listen to much heavy metal music or even goth music, i listen to some but many of the bands mentioned that one have to have knowledge of i have never heard of. i like classical music and brooding music but not things that get to noisy. i call myself goth becouse my humor and ideas have always been morbid, becouse i love the supernatural, becouse i like to express my weird interests in the way i dress. i dress to express me, not to express someones idea of fashion. i call myself goth becouse my dreams center around a more meaningful and magickal world, i dream myself away in fantasy books and books like Dracula and Frankenstein. i call myself goth becouse i would prefer a midnight stroll at a cometary to a day at the beach. And most of all i call myself goth becouse it feels right for me. If someone then feel my taste in music make me not goth, then i just do not care. Goth is not a badge of honor a group put on you, it is a thing one choose for one self and one the person them self can say if they are goth or not

Personally i think goths should spend less time worrying if others are goth and more time having a life of their own. If one is to claim non conformity one can not sit and judge others for not conforming to ones own standards, that is not non conformity it is just conformity to another set of expectations than the rest of the world.

i wish you well

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 3:11:59 PM   
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There was a marginal differentiation, for us, between the "baby bats/kindergoths" and Mall Goths.  The former were young (think 13-16 to our 20-something) but they were sincere.  They knew Bauhaus, Joy Division, and Siouxsie as well as the new Dark Wave stuff.  They read the great, classic authors and could hold an intelligent conversation on music and literature.


Whoa! No shout outs to Ministry?

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 3:13:25 PM   
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Isn't Hot Topic owned by the same company as the Gap?

No. Hot Topic and Torrid are owned by the same company.  The company that owns The Gap also owns Old Navy.

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RE: The Goth/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 3:22:58 PM   
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I've dated a young lady who was into Goth. Don't ask me how a dang ole cowboy and a young goth girl got together. I love coffee shops, discussing literature and philosophy. I actually found I had a lot in common with her. I appreciated her music, she appreciated mine. We had read a lot of the same books. We also shared some of the same kinks and learned some new ones from each other. My 17 year old daughter says those days were the happiest I'd been in years. But, she got a chance to do some research in a far away grad school and I couldn't go because of my children.

So don't make blanket judgments. They do have a lot to offer. They are not a homogeneous crowd. There are a lot of differences. But, they are a good crowd to hang around with. My daughter keeps trying to hook me up again, but I just don't think a 17 year old should play matchmaker for her dad.

If it happens, it happens. But I will keep an open mind and respect for those who pursue a different path from the mainstream.

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 3:27:14 PM   
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You have a point there. Though me have never understood the hot topic is horrid thing.


My personal pet peeve is that Hot Topic generally sells clothes of crappy quality for five times more than it's worth.  That's not to say I don't have a couple of things from HT, just most of the time you can purchase a comparable pattern, fabric, and either sew an outfit yourself or pay someone to do it, and get much better quality clothing for about the same amount of money. 

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I do not care where my clothes come from. I wear what I like no matter i I have gotten it at hot topic, the local shop for big pepole, my mother's sewing room or any other shop.


I agree.  If it's decent quality and it looks good, I don't really care where people buy their clothes. 

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...it is something deep in it matters less on where you shop as it do in who you are.



This is a very good point.

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 3:29:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkDaddyZ
Whoa! No shout outs to Ministry?

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My bad! 

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 4:22:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

In my experience, we critcize each other's wardrobes more than we critcize outsiders' clothing.  The whole point of Goth is being yourself, regardless of what mainstream socieity thinks.  Unless you shop at Hot Topic/Torrid.  Then you're a Mall Goth and it doesn't count. 
 


Heh, i had a high-school girl with at least four colors in her hair ask me "Cool coat, where did you get it?" When i told her i picked it up at Hot Topic, she told me nevermind, it's not cool then

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 4:32:50 PM   
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Are you serious?  Rofl.  

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RE: The Goth/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 4:42:28 PM   
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My daughter keeps trying to hook me up again, but I just don't think a 17 year old should play matchmaker for her dad.



She can play matchmaker for me :) but its hard to find a bi or gay goth.  ive looked.  its hard because most are half my age :) LOL :)

It's amazing that this thread is going on so long :) but thats a good thing. :)
if you want to talk to goth's... vampirefreaks is a good place for that.  that was one place where i started to look for goths...though i immediately noticed it was 13-16 yr olds.... :(

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 4:42:54 PM   
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You know, it's probably not your clothes that brings out the catty in the Goths you've met. It's your snide, judgmental attitude.


No. Im pretty sure its my clothes. Im the nicest person IRL. In any case, I wouldn't approach you. I never approach anyone.

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poken like someone who is utterly clueless about what is or isn't Goth


Id someone believes they are goth, its good enough for me. I have no interest in believing others are phonies because they only shop at hot topic or have poor quality clothes or do not read enough books or can't speak intelligently. Its their identity. Not for me to define.

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So you're saying we're all slavishly conforming to the BDSM aesthetic and we're not expressing ourselves at all? Right then.





What asthetic? We are online and cant see each other.

Actually, I dont think its comparable. Being into BDSM for most people doesnt really seem to be a choice. Its sort of like being gay for me. I dont have a choice about disliking vanilla sex and wanting a Master. I do however, have a choice about participating in a subculture. Do other people not have this choice? This is what I do not understand- can people choose not to be gothic?


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No, you said that, for Goths to wear fetish clothing such as collars and corsets if they're not really into BDSM, "annoys" you


Some people need to feel that others are annoyed with them, don't get them, don't know about their interests and want to judge. I'd be doing them a favor if I were more annoyed.




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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 4:49:38 PM   
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My son works at a Goth club. They have resident Dommes who put on shows. Mostly it is simply that, a show. Few Goths are actually practising BDSM. I have been to the club numerous times (yes, I am THAT cool my son loves to get me to the club, lol). There are the poseurs and the conformists and the individuals, just as there is in every culture, sub or not.
 
I have photo's from 10 billion years ago when I was a punk. My son and all his friends find them fascinating. I was a full time, leather fetish/bondage clothed, green and purple mohawked, pierced punk. All they see is the black leather, the make up and the "tude. People used to say that punks conformed to a subculture. That indicates to me that anyone who wears the colour blue must be conforming to a blue subculture. It's ridiculous. We all conform to certain things, like laws, not farting in the lift, etc. In every other way we are individuals.
 
I hate the word subculture. ANY culture has it's own space.


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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 4:50:27 PM   
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Arent people in BDSM judged enough that maybe we should try and not judge others?  Im not in Goth, though I was in the exact year and class that Goth came to our school.  I had friends in this culture, and I never judged them...  I did think they are abit weird, but then again... I was VERY weird too...

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RE: The Goth/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 4:54:13 PM   
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if you want to talk to goth's... vampirefreaks is a good place for that.  that was one place where i started to look for goths...though i immediately noticed it was 13-16 yr olds.... :(



Aaaaccckkkkk!!!  Noooooo!!!  VF is Teh Evul!
 
Seriously, there are a lot of major problems with VampireFreaks.  The recent shooting in Canada is just the tip of the iceberg.  VF is worse than MySpace when it comes to harboring latent criminals.  I won't go into detail since I think it might be against TOS but I will say that there are better venues to get information about the Goth culture such as alt.goth or the book by Voltaire mentioned earlier.

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RE: The Goth/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 4:55:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

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if you want to talk to goth's... vampirefreaks is a good place for that.  that was one place where i started to look for goths...though i immediately noticed it was 13-16 yr olds.... :(



Aaaaccckkkkk!!!  Noooooo!!!  VF is Teh Evul!
 
Seriously, there are a lot of major problems with VampireFreaks.  The recent shooting in Canada is just the tip of the iceberg.  VF is worse than MySpace when it comes to harboring latent criminals.  I won't go into detail since I think it might be against TOS but I will say that there are better venues to get information about the Goth culture such as alt.goth or the book by Voltaire mentioned earlier.


eh? i had no idea.  i left soon as i found out the age of the girls on there.


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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 5:04:42 PM   
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a stab in the dark, but maybe people comfortable enough to wear collars and chains in public don't have the same level of fetish-based deprivations as the accountant-looking fellow in dockers and a tie. i'm typically in the latter dressing category, vanilla to all appearances. that said, i'd happily don a collar if i could find one that i fancied

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 5:37:31 PM   
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I was at a goth/industrial party hosting the dungon space few weeks ago and basically spending the whole night flogging (and boy were my arms tired!).  It was the middle aged guys in slacks and button downs would come up to be bound, caned, flogged, spit in, whatever.  Most of the pretty bright things in 'fetish' gear would stare and go back to the bar or the dance floor or otherwise point and comment.  Never make assumptions, esp based on 'dress'.


Exactly.


I am considered "goth" by most... except the "goths" who don't like those of us that like to wear fangs... oh I could go on for hours about how this type of goth doesn't like that type of goth... there are just as many differences in goth types as there are in BDSM types...  one really cannot generalize about goths.
Some of us are lifestylers, some of them are not.
What I like about the goth/industrial clubs is that I can dress the same as I would at a dungeon and fit right in, and I do like to "dress up" now and again.

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 6:14:11 PM   
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Kitten- if I were a goth, then yes probably I'd be the romantic sort.  But they'd also have to be ok with me wearing lots of pink (not as irony and not with black) and other cute fun colors and other sorts of costumes.

Same reasons I'm not leather- there's a lot of history and community feeling there which I just don't sync up with in myself.

Julia- worry would be too big a statement for it, but I do CARE a lot about fashion and what I wear and how I put together outfits.  In the past I didn't care at all because I thought I was too fat and ugly for it to matter, or it would only bring more shame to me.  Then I learned to love it, be beautiful in it and use it to garner positive attention.

Now I simply enjoy it for what it is, for what delight I find in it.  Frankly the hottest outfit I find on females these days is a satin corset with blue jeans and I think that's a reflection of my own view on fashion.

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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 6:14:40 PM   
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faery girl > if you want a catsuit and  t-shirt go to e-bay i have aquired  many at way better quality and alot cheaper than hot topic .



yes i use ebay but not for clothes.  cant try them on and every time ive bought from there it never fits.  current price on ebay for the same catsuit i had is average of $50 + 10-20 ship.  the shipping is the problem and then custom issues.  when i bought my catsuit i paid only $20 + $10 about 6 years ago from an ebay seller who no longer exist.  they were a liquidator so prices were ultra low.  i saw the same catsuit at hot topic for $50  which at the time i was looking at (3-4 years ago) was about $80 canadian.

i can not see spending $15 on shipping of a tshirt.  that is pointless.  it is because most sellers on ebay charge double or more than the actual ship cost.  i dont have a credit card otherwise id buy direct from hot topic.  or if they will ever have paypal available.

we dont even have victoria secret in canada! SIGH



Your in Toronto the fifth largest city in North America, the pastures are not necessarily greener the other side of the border,  Canada can boast the advantage of being more tolerant and having a government who decided they have no business in what we privately agree to do in our own bedrooms making BDSM legal and where  gay relationships  are accepted and considered legal relationships due  the same respect as any male/female relationship in the eyes of the law including the entitlement of benfits/pensions and the right to have children
If you want it ...you can find it in Toronto, all I did was a short search on Google to come up with these links with lots more to search

Catsuits
http://www.sexystore.ca/sexy-clothes/catsuits.html

http://www.allureleather.com/category/womens-vinyl/vinyl-catsuits-and-pants/
http://www.decadentdesigns.ca/

A dance wear consignment shop san make an interesting place to shop for unique items some that could be used as fetwear
http://www.encoreoncemore.com/dressingroom.html

Fancy footwear Hamilton
http://www.sexyinlace.com/shop/index.php

several links here http://www.cangothfash.com/gothic.htm

http://www.torontoplus.ca/home/he_she_clothing_gallery/1058407


I just happened to search under toronto goth costumes  , I could try searching  toronto goth fashions, toronto cat suit,  try looking under non piercing nipple or body  jewelry ontario there one place the sells some fantastic sets that would make great slave jewelry





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RE: The gothic/industrial subculture - 12/26/2007 6:29:06 PM   
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Online stores require credit cards.  i have no credit card.  I dont buy clothes online anymore anyway.  simple fact, cant try it on and most dont allow you to exchange for a dif size.  im not directly in toronto so i cant exactly go to a toronto store.  i put toronto on my profile because people know where that is but if i put meadowvale people wouldnt know where that is.  i have no car so transit is hard and long.  the only time i go to toronto is in the summer.

this is the catsuit i had http://cgi.ebay.com/Sexy-Black-Vinyl-Catsuit-Shiny-PVC-XL_W0QQitemZ370008555530QQihZ024QQcategoryZ53362QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

it isnt easily found.


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