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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/30/2005 9:13:02 PM

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PS oh...I’m really just posting to up my forum post total so I can get Mod11 to change my status

Your status will change automagically when you reach certain posting milestones. Unless you would like for us to come up with a custom classification just for you...

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/30/2005 9:34:51 PM

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PS oh...I’m really just posting to up my forum post total so I can get Mod11 to change my status
Your status will change automagically when you reach certain posting milestones. Unless you would like for us to come up with a custom classification just for you...

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25 posts isn't it? and...oh oh I know can you make the smartass classification just for me...on second thought thats rude...everyone should have a shot at that one

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/30/2005 10:46:25 PM

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Hmm, if you're gonna be handing out classifications, can we pick our own?

Just being facetious. Plus, I know I'd more likely than not fit into that 'smartass' category...hehe

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 12:39:07 AM

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I was once told that many BBW women weren't actually submissive but couldn't find any other way to get attention from men than by pretending an interest in BDSM, and that by offering kinky sex or other perversities they could thereby gain some level of attention from a male. (A BBW woman told me this)

You gotta be kidding me....

I never had any problem getting laid, nor have I ever had any problem gaining male attention. This is the most bogus theory I've ever heard. Do some woman, thin or fat mistake their own demons for this lifestyle? Yes. Can some broad who happens to be fat catagorize all other fat women into some misguided example of kink gone wrong? I should sincerely hope not.

If my interest in BDSM is pretend, as a means to get attention by offering perverted acts to men who would otherwise be uninterested, then my Sir's gonna punish the shit out of me when he finds out....

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 4:22:09 AM

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Seeing that I have the reputation in the past, when I was single, being see at a variety of functions with various women, some of whom were catwalk or Photographic Models and at other times with the most outstanding BBW, I fail to see the hoorah…. A person, male or female, is beautiful within themselves. the most beautiful BBW I have known was Plain Jane to look at but sheesh what a mind and personality…. She was a stunner. For those who think that BBW cant get laid.. I’ll tell you up front that 99% of the models I’ve dated and laid were so self absorbed that they were useless in bed.. Bloody hell until my knee got screwed and I was laid up from normal physical exercise I was well build including a 6 pack and played my last game of American Football at the age of 47. Now I have a belly and some additional padding (Am working on a get healthy program for my own benefit), so who am I toss the odd stone at people for how they look…

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 6:34:02 AM

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What the heck... allow me to weigh in (pardon the pun) on this issue. I am a BBW and a submissive. I am not a submissive because i hate myself, and i do not have self esteem issues. As a matter of fact, i didn't discover my attraction to submission until after i had made peace with my self esteem and come to love myself for who and what i am. Granted there are some women out there who are as you described... just as there are men out there who are as others have described. Life is full of people who pretend to be something they aren't in order to feel better about themselves. It doesn't matter which group you focus on, there will be some of those people that are a part of it. People lie. Deal with it.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 8:21:16 AM

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Hey E/veryone......the way I see it ( and this is only MY opinion ) who the heck cares what the Master/Doms/Tops and subs/slaves/bottoms look like?? if what T/they look like or do makes then feel good let them be. if deep down inside they really don't like the way they look or feel, eventually, they'll do something about it. I've only been in the lifestyle less than a year and let me tell you...I've not only learned about who I am a little but I've also learned something I feel E/everyone in or not in the lifestyle needs to learn. Tolerance and not being judgmental towards others. OOHH and before I forget. if a Dom/me seems to think that their sub/slave needs to be more physically fit....why would you care unless it's YOUR sub/slave???

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 9:32:55 AM

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Ever notice how many submissive women are BBW's? I wonder if it's really low self-esteem as a result of being unhappy with their bodies that drives their "submissive" desires. To me, this not true submissive nature, and I suspect that many of them would not be seeking the bottom role if they had a better opinion of themselves. I think that's why there is so much insecurity and emotional baggage that seems to go with dealing with BBW "slaves".
Don't get me wrong, I'm not putting anyone down, but personally, I prefer my slave(s) to be secure in their desire to be dominated, no matter what their body-type is. Know thyself, slaves.

Ok, if anything, my original post got a lot of response. It sure seems to strike a nerve with a lot of people, and I find all your replies interesting (even the insulting ones). In response:
1. I didn't say "all" BBW's, I said "many". Those of you who accuse me of generalizing, you should have read more carefully.
2. Even the title of the post says "I wonder". Those of you who accuse me of attacking BBW's, It's a MUSING, people.
3. I also said I "suspect". This means I consider my statement to be a POSSIBILITY.
4. The last part clearly states a PREFERENCE about one's SECURITY, and includes "no matter what their body-type".
It seems that SOME people only read what they want to read. I knew this post would catch a lot of flak, and if I was concerned about pleasing everyone I'd go hide in the corner and keep my mouth shut. It doesn't matter what one says, there's always going to be people who disagree or even get offended.
Here's a hypothetical question:
If you rubbed the magic lamp and the genie granted you one wish, and your choices were:
A. To have a slim, fit body
B. To remove all prejudice or stigma towards overweight people worldwide
Which would you choose? Be honest, now! (sorry, whirled peas not included in wish list :)

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 11:44:50 AM

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if I was concerned about pleasing everyone I'd go hide in the corner and keep my mouth shut.

You ceirtanly dont seem to be concerned about pleasing anyone

And about your wish list - 3) winning a state lottery - not included either?

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 5:19:57 PM

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Non issue here. I am submissive and medium sized. 5' 7", about 135, wear a size 8. <Shrug>

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 7:51:57 PM

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Ok, if anything, my original post got a lot of response. It sure seems to strike a nerve with a lot of people, and I find all your replies interesting (even the insulting ones). In response:
1. I didn't say "all" BBW's, I said "many". Those of you who accuse me of generalizing, you should have read more carefully.
2. Even the title of the post says "I wonder". Those of you who accuse me of attacking BBW's, It's a MUSING, people.
3. I also said I "suspect". This means I consider my statement to be a POSSIBILITY.
4. The last part clearly states a PREFERENCE about one's SECURITY, and includes "no matter what their body-type".
It seems that SOME people only read what they want to read. I knew this post would catch a lot of flak, and if I was concerned about pleasing everyone I'd go hide in the corner and keep my mouth shut. It doesn't matter what one says, there's always going to be people who disagree or even get offended.
Here's a hypothetical question:
If you rubbed the magic lamp and the genie granted you one wish, and your choices were:
A. To have a slim, fit body
B. To remove all prejudice or stigma towards overweight people worldwide
Which would you choose? Be honest, now! (sorry, whirled peas not included in wish list :)

Ok, now this made me laugh my ass off. And fair play to you, you are right. You got your shit jumped 40 differant ways and yeah, you were just musing. But watch out how you muse about 'BBW's" ;)

Your latest question is interesting, as it assumes that a slim, fit body comes with no baggage of it's own accord; and I think that this is untrue, but I have no empirical data to base this on because frankly, I've never been slim, so I'm just musing here.

The second option implies that the only problem here is how others percieve people who are not slim/fit. Ok, so we rub the lamp and make the wish, and poof, all fat people are accepted at face value. Now what? Do we now live in a perfect world where everyone's holding hands singing Kumbaya? (I have no idea how to spell the aformentioned word and my spell checker didn't either.) I think not. I think we'll just find something else to pick at each other about.

The bottom line here is not what the world thinks; it's what individuals think. And if you are a guy who's not attracted to women who are plus sized, that's fine. A lot of subs aren't a size 8, but they are out there.

But if all you are assessing in your journey is what someone looks like, you may be missing a lot of women who may be very compatible with you as partners. It's something to consider.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 8:08:17 PM

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To remove all prejudice or stigma

You are seriously clueless if you think one needs a genie to grant a weight wish?
Ever heard "I may be fat, but you're ugly, and I can diet?"
If you had placed a third option of removing hate/prejudice towards anyone who looks/acts different (as long as it doesn't impact my health or safety), than you'd have my choice.
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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 9:08:30 PM

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25 posts isn't it?

Actually, it will change on your 26th post. There are 25 posts in the first four categories.
1 to 25 = Vanilla. 26 to 50 = Curious. 51 to 75 = whatever

Hey Nella, when you fly over to the U.S. for your birthday spanking, we will celebrate by eating s'mores - chocolate, creamy marshmellow and graham crackers.... they alone might be worth the trip!

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If you rubbed the magic lamp and the genie granted you one wish, and your choices were:
A. To have a slim, fit body
B. To remove all prejudice or stigma towards overweight people worldwide
Which would you choose? Be honest, now!

B, of course. Why choose to be selfish and help only yourself when the alternative is to help everyone in the world? If nothing else, B frees the mind of everyone from senseless and negative prejudices. I'm surprised you even asked such a question.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 9:47:17 PM

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as a fat bbw submissive.....i'd say maybe some of the bbw submissive lacked the needed attention as they developed, then again alot of submissives were also abused.....there's a correlation there.
Generalising anything is a bad idea.
Anything can be generalised..but i've found in life and more pronounced, in this venue(the "life-style") that people all have different reasons and motivations and needs, physically, emotionally and mentally...trying to say bbw submissives are motivated by their body-size and related mental hang-ups, is like saying well...i dont know what, but it's incorrent anyhow:P
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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 8/31/2005 9:48:53 PM

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oh and i would be tempted to choose A....but wouldn't.
B is the right way...and would be better in the end...
silly question.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/1/2005 1:58:07 AM

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I would choose A, because it's my desire to be skinny again. Before I went into allt hose shitty group "homes" who didn't care about the kids I was skinny very cute and I was fit. I still feel cute, but I am sure not fit any more, nor am I skinny.

It'd be nicer if every one was kinder to fat peple all over, every person infact, but really if a person has objections to the way their body looks it's up to them not the world to do something about it or be kind about it. that's not to say people shouldn't keep shut if they don't have anything positive to say about the looks of others, they should. But I see it as a personal problem not a "society" for adult people over weight to loose maintain be happy or do what ever they need to do.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/1/2005 8:08:54 AM

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Greetings all!

Yes, I'm back, for the moment.

I can't help myself.... I just have to wonder about the mental condition of someone that feels the desperate need to humiliate females in order to feel dominant. I personally have no problem employing in it a scene to spice up the moment. As a way of life or relationship? ARE YOU ON DRUGS?? How the heck can anyone respect their submissive if they're constantly treating them worse than their pet? (Garnered from your own profile.) Which also reminds me; perhaps interested parties should notify the A.S.P.C.A about your dubious practices?!?

Size is irrelevant in regards to submission, dominance, self esteem, image, courtesy, intelligence, what have you. The biggest sexual organ is right between the ears. After perusing the O.P.'s profile and the posts in this forum, I can only conclude I'm glad I'm a domme and don't reside anywhere near Missouri.

Maybe you'd have more luck in securing a worthy submissive if you decided to shave off the 70's throwback beard and conducted yourself with a tad more civility here.....

To interested peeps, the success rate to date? 26 lbs and still losing! (Health concerns mainly, vanity aside.)

Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others.....

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/1/2005 9:14:01 AM

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Current media standards and marketing trends could be said to undermine individuals sense of self worth and to place the idea that if only you use product A...

Is anyone fully confident? For instance, I am a size 8, think I look better at a six, wish my abs were a tad tighter and my c cup breasts fuller.

Here in the NY metro area, at least: there's always someone better. At my gym, so many have tummy tucks, breast implants on and on. I could "buy" my way towards "perfect"... but when would it ever end?

Be happy and healthy :)

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/1/2005 10:06:45 AM

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Maybe the problem really is overgeneralization.

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i concur Sir..though You scarcely need my help, LOL.

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RE: BBW subs... I wonder - 9/1/2005 10:11:10 AM

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While we're at it, why not explain the number of dominant men that are either short or losing their hair? They are also probably insecure and couldn't get a hot vanilla woman to look their way -- so instead they looked into being a "master" because at least it meant they'd get laid, they thought.

Akasha

i have no "outter" traits -- apart from finding Him sexually appealing -- on my profile but i have PLENTY of character traits that are "must haves"; and i for one need/want a small to average sized cock inasmuch as i fit better -- being small myself. In my experience, the true dominant has nothing to do with baldness, etc.

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