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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/24/2008 2:20:05 AM   
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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/24/2008 10:51:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze      <snipped>

I didn't think that so many of you would misunderstood My question.
I don't mean to get your way as a spoiled brat,
I mean in play, when He makes you beg for
more......
(fill in the blanks)

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The question was actually very straightforward..."What does begging do to you?"  Whether it be in the context of play or outside of play, methinks you got many answers from all parts of the spectrum.  Personally, I think that if someone does not beg outside of play, chances are they won't inside either.  That doesn't make them wrong.  Either that or I've never felt anything so horribly wrong that I need to beg to stop it....or so awesomely right that I need to beg for it to continue...or so wonderfully rewarding that I need to beg to get it in the first place.  Sounds almost like my 47 years of life has been so ho-hum that I can either take it or leave it....lol.   Hmmmmmm

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/24/2008 11:08:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		He told me he liked begging, I told him I'd never begged for anything in my life and didn't know how.  Then he told me that I had to ask for permission to have an orgasm, come to find out, when he tells me "not yet..." I can beg.  Like others have said, it becomes an obsession to be able to reach that climax, to hear him tell me that I can.  It's a fantastic mindfuck.

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/24/2008 11:20:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		When i have to beg it makes me feel helpless and at my dommes mercy as they can take no notice and just carry on doing whatever they were doing

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/24/2008 11:52:18 AM   
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littlebitxxx
 Personally, I think that if someone does not beg outside of play, chances are they won't inside either.  That doesn't make them wrong.  Either that or I've never felt anything so horribly wrong that I need to beg to stop it....or so awesomely right that I need to beg for it to continue...or so wonderfully rewarding that I need to beg to get it in the first place.  Sounds almost like my 47 years of life has been so ho-hum that I can either take it or leave it....lol.   Hmmmmmm

Where did I say that was wrong?
I never did, I was looking for a kind of begging during play, and not in everyday life..
To Me it's boring when one would have to beg for Everything, but it's each to thier own !

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/24/2008 11:57:58 AM   
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Like others have said, it becomes an obsession to be able to reach that climax, to hear him tell me that I can.  It's a fantastic mindfuck.

Right on !!!!

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/24/2008 12:03:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Grimester
When i have to beg it makes me feel helpless and at my dommes mercy as they can take no notice and just carry on doing whatever they were doing

That's how it should be !!!

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/24/2008 1:22:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't believe anybody misunderstood the question. You just didn't get the positive responses you were hoping for. I do find it interesting that the majority of positive responses came from male subs and the majority of negative responses came from the female subs. I don't know what that means, if any meaning can be ascribed, but I found the dichotomy worth mentioning.

If ordered to beg, I stop wanting the thing I was asked to beg for. I also start to feel badly about myself and I stop being aroused. At that point, I'm saying lines without sincerity and if he says "yes, you may cum" I won't be able to. I'm also a bad actor at the best of times, when I'm feeling humiliated and shamed and unlovable I'm a really bad actor and it's obvious I don't mean what I'm saying, that I say it to just get stuff over with already.

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/24/2008 1:41:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I don't believe anybody misunderstood the question. You just didn't get the positive responses you were hoping for. I do find it interesting that the majority of positive responses came from male subs and the majority of negative responses came from the female subs. I don't know what that means, if any meaning can be ascribed, but I found the dichotomy worth mentioning.

If ordered to beg, I stop wanting the thing I was asked to beg for. I also start to feel badly about myself and I stop being aroused. At that point, I'm saying lines without sincerity and if he says "yes, you may cum" I won't be able to. I'm also a bad actor at the best of times, when I'm feeling humiliated and shamed and unlovable I'm a really bad actor and it's obvious I don't mean what I'm saying, that I say it to just get stuff over with already.


Bingo and ditto.  You took the words right out of my head.  Thanks DesFIP.

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/25/2008 8:04:34 AM   
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I've found that begging can be a lot of fun and really gets me focused on what my Mistress wants to do.  Thus begging her to do it, makes it all that much hotter for both of us when She's ready to do it. 
 
Generally speaking, I only beg when told to do so (tends to get me salivating).  I have begged on occasion for more when a Mistress has stopped, for example during impact play while deep in subspace when I wanted didn't want her to end the session, but she'd decided I'd had enough.  Sometimes I was sucessful and sometimes not.  One has to trust their Mistress to make those decisions.  However, from a psychological POV, it's always good to be left wanting more.
 
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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/27/2008 1:12:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

GoddezzT`,
I've found that begging can be a lot of fun and really gets me focused on what my Mistress wants to do.  Thus begging her to do it, makes it all that much hotter for both of us when She's ready to do it. 

Generally speaking, I only beg when told to do so (tends to get me salivating).  I have begged on occasion for more when a Mistress has stopped, for example during impact play while deep in subspace when I wanted didn't want her to end the session, but she'd decided I'd had enough.  Sometimes I was sucessful and sometimes not.  One has to trust their Mistress to make those decisions.  However, from a psychological POV, it's always good to be left wanting more.

 - pixel


I fully agree, it's awesome, and it pushes subs more in subspace, and that's a lovely thing to do!

Ofcourse it depends on the moment and when and where, if the begging gets heard*EG*
But yes it's something for Me.
Thank you for your responds lilone.

Warm Greetingz

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/27/2008 2:28:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

The only things I ever beg for are the things he enjoys watching me beg for - to suck his cock when he holds it so close I can feel its heat but can't get to it, and to cum when he has held me on the edge of an orgasm for an excruciatingly long time.  He loves tormenting me like this - it feeds his sadistic streak.  When I beg, I can only see and feel that which I am begging for.  The world around me no longer exists, and I swear if I do not get that one thing, I will implode, lol.  I am consumed by it. 

Begging for most other things is intolerable and I don't do it.


Yes I agree with this... there is a difference between begging in real life situations.... Can I have a new dress, please please please?  This is the kind of begging in answer to no when no means no and that's that.  It is akin to whining... and it is not attractive. 

However, in a more "play" type mode, begging can serve several purposes... The following is MY experience... and only MY experience...

Begging allows me to focus completely.  Nothing else is there, life gets quiet and simple.  And submission in it's truest sense for me is about letting go of inhibition and the noise that is in my head, around my world.  It is laser sharp.  And all the things I find humiliating all of a sudden become acceptable and desireable and the only important thing in the world because my judgments about them disappear.

Also, this type of focus lets the Dom know that he is my world, that he is in complete control, and that all that I have, I am giving to him in that moment.  And that is often a turn on for him.  He loves to see how important he is - he controls the focus, he controls my words, my thoughts... and if I beg well, he is controlling my body.  As rubberpet pointed out, begging can also take the form of not just words, but the look in the eyes, the tilt of the head, the position of the body. 

I can show, and he can experience, how deeply he is desired by me.  How often do we get the opportunity to express that?  When do we get to show that someone is our absolute world?  It is a way of  making adoration and a desire to please an action.  Making manifest our desires for the one we desire....

And well, mostly it just feels good to be so in touch with that desire, to allow it to grow to a point of desperation and then be given that which I desire... like being delirious with thirst and being given a cup of water.  So now, desire is quenched... I can breathe... and the world is back on its axis....

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/27/2008 9:39:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me, begging was usually done during more edgy play.  I'd be put through orgasm denial - being repeatedly brought to the edge, but not allowed to cum.  Then she would make me beg her to allow me an orgasm to finally get release.  I'd be whimpering and crying and begging and pleading.  It would make me feel like I had absolutely no control over anything - that she could do whatever she wanted and I couldn't do anything about it.  She'd also use it for pain - to get me to beg her to stop the torture.

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/27/2008 9:54:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		i tend to blush a lot when i'm begging for something and i also tend to stammer and not exactly get out all the words. My mind is telling me to tell him this and that, but i can't form the words in a complete sentence. Sounds more like i'm learning to say new easy words like, "the, and" please, but, etc"

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/27/2008 12:49:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SubJordanTyler
I'd be whimpering and crying and begging and pleading.  It would make me feel like I had absolutely no control over anything - that she could do whatever she wanted and I couldn't do anything about it.  She'd also use it for pain - to get me to beg her to stop the torture.

Isn't it lovely? *EG*
Thank you for sharing this jordan.

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/27/2008 12:52:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: shysub0951
i tend to blush a lot when i'm begging for something and i also tend to stammer and not exactly get out all the words. My mind is telling me to tell him this and that, but i can't form the words in a complete sentence. Sounds more like i'm learning to say new easy words like, "the, and" please, but, etc"

Gotto love a blushing sub!!!
your Master is very lucky.

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/27/2008 1:56:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		There was a time I finally learned how to be....
 
It was from orgasm deinal...
 
I thought I was gonna choke some innocent bystander one day...=L=
 
It humbled me but...I did find freedom in...it. The freedom was a release from....my pride.
 
I as well have noticed...many femake submisivesdo not want nor like to beg...

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/27/2008 6:15:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze

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ORIGINAL: SubJordanTyler
I'd be whimpering and crying and begging and pleading.  It would make me feel like I had absolutely no control over anything - that she could do whatever she wanted and I couldn't do anything about it.  She'd also use it for pain - to get me to beg her to stop the torture.

Isn't it lovely? *EG*
Thank you for sharing this jordan.

Warm Greetingz

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Oh yes..............very much so. 

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/28/2008 1:54:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ThundersCry
There was a time I finally learned how to be....
It was from orgasm deinal...
I thought I was gonna choke some innocent bystander one day...=L=
It humbled me but...I did find freedom in...it. The freedom was a release from....my pride.
I as well have noticed...many femake submisivesdo not want nor like to beg...

Excuse Me, but I'm confused here, do you mean the denail on Your subs, or are You a switch?

And yes another sub noticed that woman are less into begging, but when they r tied up and such, do they have a say...?
*EG*

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RE: What does begging do to you...? - 1/28/2008 7:29:53 AM   
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I trained as a subslave at one...point. So I was able to share *my* experience with you. What else does one really have...

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